This is true. One thing that gets overlooked in these conversations is that motivation isn’t one-size-fits-all. Kim seemed genuinely confused as to why these specific players wouldn't run through a wall for her. And maybe she is an elite motivator, but based on the results so far, probably not.
It’s entirely possible for a coach to be effective with a certain
type of player and then assume that approach translates universally. But athletes aren’t wired the same way, especially across different levels.
At lower tiers, you often see players driven by something very specific like proving themselves, earning a spot, fighting for opportunity. That creates a different kind of hunger. It’s internal, personal, and sometimes that alone can fuel extreme effort within almost any system.
But at the highest levels, the psychology shifts. These players already know they’re talented, or critically, believe they are. So the question becomes: what makes them fully buy in and push to their ceiling?
At that level, it’s usually not just “run harder” or “play harder.” It’s trust, credibility, and respect.
- Do they believe in the coach?
- Do they believe the system actually elevates them?
- Do they feel like they’re building something meaningful and not just grinding for the sake of it?
The best players aren’t just going to run through a wall for anyone. But they will do it for coaches who:
- have a track record
- demand excellence but recognize it when it’s earned
- create an environment that adds to what the player already is
- are indeed elite motivators... or personalities who authentically connect with them in a way that creates a mutual respect for shared parts of each other's journey. but even in these situations, the coach has to also get results