Agreed on not being tepid about playing it backwards. That's something I don't see nearly enough of. If you actually watch soccer, it's done all the time.
I have the best luck on D waiting for somebody to not put enough hot sauce on a short pass, just have to have somebody in place to cut it off. D should play tight but not too tight.
Of course, scoring goals is really the hard part. Every formation is suited to different styles. My favorite way to get the ball in the box is play it out to the wing from a 4-4-2, then run a sort of soccer "triangle offense." For whatever reason it's really hard to work through balls, unless you have one of the fastest 5 or so players in the game, you'll almost always get run down unless you tinker with sliders. Crosses aren't as hard to work as some people make them out to be, just get used to the different crosses; tap square(x?) once for a far post cross, twice for a near post and three times for a ground cross and it goes without saying having a target that's 6'0" or taller should be used here.