My wife and I had a very similar situation 3 years ago. We lost our baby boy on Jan 11, 2016 at 23 weeks to stillbirth due to placental detachment. I’ve lost friends and relatives over the years, but the pain of that loss was by far the worst I’ve experienced. We still have a hutch in the living room we dedicate to his urn, pitcures, foot and hand molds, teddy bear we had made for him, etc. Our 6 year old still has crying spells because he misses the brother he never met.
We were terrified to try again after seeing multiple specialists and being told there was no clear underlying cause for the detachment, basically just a lightning strike. What was to prevent lightning from striking twice? Fast forward to today and we have a healthy, happy 16 month old that I’m currently carrying around hugging while typing this.
I’m not a support group kind of guy, I’m much better at dealing with things internally. My wife, however, found a ton of comfort in online support groups (mostly through FB). There are so many people out there that have been through similar tragedies, never feel like you’re alone and never be afraid to share your story. It’s a part of the healing process, and for many people it’s a vital one.