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re the grandparents bit:

One question about reluctant grandparents: could they feel (with or without justification) that they only hear from their kids when they are needed for childcare? (I deliberately didn't click "reply" on a post because I didn't want anyone to think that they were being attacked.)

I have three kids, youngest 28, and DH has two, youngest 26; no grandkids yet. Waaaah!

I'd happily take them under any circumstances, but I do have to say that if my phone never rang for any other reason ("Hey Mom, do you need help digging the flower garden?" "Hey Mom, House Hunters is in your old neighborhood!" "Hey Mom, do you guys want to go out for brunch?"), I might get perturbed.

Something to think about. :hi:

Meanwhile, I am open to offers of non-grandchild sitting. :)
 
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de1conley said:
A major impact because many don't know but he was 1 of Franklin's ace recruiters and closer. He relates well and it seems as though he like CBJ always knows what to say. Needless to say in a 5-7 minute phone call he bkew my mind speaking on all the different ways to use a few kids from our program in his system.
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Not trying to derail the thread but my last name is Conley spelled the same way. I'm just curious about your background. I'm a "former"marine grew up in Knoxville and moved back a few years ago. You just don't see many people spell it that way
 
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jackcrevol said:
the Grandparents i've been around would do anything for their Grandchildren. period. Crazy thing. Love trumps all emotion and reason.
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You clearly think you have all the answers, so good luck with that.

There is a big difference with stepping up and taking care of anybody when needed, compared with being dumped on by irresponsible others that have only their own pleasure (which doesn't include their kids) in mind.
 
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I can respond similarly to the grandparents discussion. My mom is good for a few hours but then loses focus and they end up just watching TV or playing on the iPad. My mother-in-law is ok but one at a time is her limit. My father-in-law loves them but seems to want to buy them everything. His wife is probably the most interactive with the kids but she thinks you have to buy love too. My kids haven't seen my dad in almost two years because he lives far away and works 367 days a year. His visits are so abbreviated that he has zero relationship with them too. Very sad.
 
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This discussions making me realize how lucky I am to have the parents and in-laws that I do. They are lifesavers.
 
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InVOLuntary said:
Not sure of your age but I felt a lot like you when I was in my twenties. I was afraid of the responsibilities that come with being a parent. My wife yearned for kids and I kept saying we couldn't afford them or some excuse. She was patient with me and finally I ran out of excuses. Had our first when we were in our early 30s. We've since had another child who is 16. I regret not having children earlier. While I'm not in terrible shape, it's difficult for me to be as active with my 16 year old son. Back yard football and basketball doesn't come as easy as I would like. I love my children and wouldn't trade them for anything. My advice is don't wait till you can afford them or some other excuse. Get being a kid and your freedom out of the way but don't wait till the point where you regret it later. My son is truly my best friend. I'm coming to realize that it won't be long till his friends and girls will be a higher priority for him than me and I fully understand that that is normal. I cherish each day that he wants to be my sidekick.
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I'm not afraid of the responsibilities of having a kid. I just don't want them. I'm still in my 20s and if I had to miss out on fully enjoying this part of my life because of a kid, I'd resent it for that.

Edit: I guess my point is that kids aren't for everyone. But in my experience, most people with kids don't get that. Some people aren't cut out for it.
 
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Darth_Shiveman said:
I actually like kids. Other people's kids don't bother me. At the end of the day someone else has to put them to sleep and I'm free to do me.

I just couldn't handle having to put up with one all the time. I can always play with my siblings' kids if I want. I'm much more comfortable in the role of the cool uncle. I'd rather use my time and income traveling or going to events I enjoy though.

I guess I'm just self aware enough to realize that I'm too selfish to be a good parent.[/QUOTE\]

no problems with that at all.
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butchna said:
I didn't think it ever could be again. Just keep going and let God take care of the rest, I guess. Thanks.
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Am old preacher I grew up listening to, used to sing a great song called "Sunshine always follows rain".. I find myself humming the tune a lot when I'm going through dark times. Buena Fortuna Butchna! :)
 
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ConMan said:
Not trying to derail the thread but my last name is Conley spelled the same way. I'm just curious about your background. I'm a "former"marine grew up in Knoxville and moved back a few years ago. You just don't see many people spell it that way
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Not trying to further derail the thread, but I can't help myself.

Before you entered the Marines; were you dating a girl that was few years younger than you? In High School.

Were you stationed in Hawaii for a time?

Did you play in the band while in high school??
 
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LittleVol said:
Not trying to further derail the thread, but I can't help myself.

Before you entered the Marines; were you dating a girl that was few years younger than you? In High School.

Were you stationed in Hawaii for a time?

Did you play in the band while in high school??
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You ever been in a Turkish prison?

Ever seen a grown man naked?
 
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