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Volnatic said:
Well if they weren't good parents then, what made you think they'd be good grandparents now?
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You make a good point. My mother-in-law straightened her life out when my wife and I were in college (late 90's), and has been a good person since then. Her marriage to my wife's step-dad was a very positive event in her life.
 
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Chuckie said:
I'm not trying to say that what you've described is wrong or unhealthy. I have a couple questions: (1) Do you ever keep your granddaughter for an extended period (i.e 3-5 days)? And, (2) do you think your daughter felt like it was a major imposition for you to do it?

My point is that, for my parents and in-laws, we feel like we are asking them to take out a second mortgage on their house on the (VERY) rare occasions that we could use overnight help with our children. That's what irritates me.

For day-to-day types of situations, as I said before, they are good for 3-4 hours then start calling to see when we'll be back to get the kids (and then act offended when we hire a sitter if we know we're going to be gone for 5-6 hours).
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Please don't take my post as putting your parents/in-laws in the category of you taking advantage too. I've seen that scenario too where the grands don't want anything to do with the grandkids. That's sad. What a wasted opportunity for a precious relationship. While my wife's parents lived away and have since passed on, cherished the time they spent with my kids. My kids loved to go visit them.
My parents are local and my son and my dad are currently restoring a vintage '66 Mustang for him to drive in the next few months. My son was hesitant at first because he was afraid he'd be without a car to drive while waiting for the car to be done. I told him to jump on it and I'd get him something to drive in the meantime. The experience of doing that with his grandad will stay with him forever. He was also worried about the money as he has been saving for his first car for a long time and he wasn't sure he had enough to finish the mustang. I told him to let me worry about the money and that this experience is priceless.
 
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Chuckie said:
OK, they are 66 and 62 with no physical problems (she's not in good shape, but he's very fit). The kids are pretty well-behaved, but my 5 y/o is very hyperactive (and I know that's a toll).

Also, it's worth noting that this is my wife's mom and step-dad. Her parents divorced when she was 6 and, shortly thereafter, they both decided they weren't done being single and childless. So, from the time my wife was 8 she was raised, fed, sheltered and clothed by her grandmothers (she'd live with one for a while, then with the other for a while). So, the "I've already raised my kids" argument holds little water here.
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No offense meant, but just being honest compels me to say...they are selfish buttholes that only care about what they want to do. Obviously they have not gained wisdom with age...and no way would I leave my kids with people like that.
 
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I have no info on how he uses tight ends, but he does have nice hair and a pretty face. However, I'm more of a southern gentleman kinda girl :wub:
 
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volgirl99 said:
I have no info on how he uses tight ends, but he does have nice hair and a pretty face. However, I'm more of a southern gentleman kinda girl :wub:
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It's not that I delude myself into thinking we have a future (my fiancé is really unbending on the monogamy thing), I just don't think it's unreasonable of me to not want you to find happiness with ANYONE ELSE. :good!:
 
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butchna said:
It's not that I delude myself into thinking we have a future (my fiancé is really unbending on the monogamy thing), I just don't think it's unreasonable of me to not want you to find happiness with ANYONE ELSE. :good!:
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congrats Butchna :hi:

Happy to hear that for you
 
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We need some muscle over here!


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butchna said:
Thanks...wasn't looking for it. Wonderful woman that lived a few miles from us that I'd never met before.
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Finally found someone that will put up with all your emojis? :) seriously, we don't always see eye to eye but im sure you're a good guy. Congrats buddy
 
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Catbone said:
Finally found someone that will put up with all your emojis? :) seriously, we don't always see eye to eye but im sure you're a good guy. Congrats buddy
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If we saw eye to eye, I couldn't be the good guy you know me to be. :wink2: Seriously, enjoy our back and forth. I include you in the list of friends I value on this board.
 
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Go Fight Win said:
We're all one big dysfunctional VFL family

Just waiting on my wedding invite.... Open bar, yes?
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Doing a simple ceremony short term. Doing it big next summer in Gulf Shores. California and Tennessee alcoholics...so open COOLER! :w00t:
 
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