Itās just been hectic and an emotional and exhausting roller coaster ride. OH has been off the ventilator for a few days now. Pretty much as soon as they said he wouldnāt improve and I had the priest do the anointing of the sick (last rites), he came off the vent the next afternoon and started talking. The priest called it a miracle and itās hard to disagree considering I was being pressured to DNR before the vent and then to pull him off it once it happened. The next few days after that were hellacious for him though because he still had every tube known to medicine hooked up to him and he couldnāt pass a swallow test so no food or drink. He has been incredibly weak but the sepsis and pneumonia are gone.
He still hasnāt passed a swallow test but theyāre okaying thickened drinks and food. He is stable enough for laser surgery which theyāre going to do today to get rid of the kidney stone that caused the infection to start with. This shouldnāt be too traumatic of a surgery but heās still very fragile.
They are talking about sending him home in a few days but I am worried about his ability to walk and swallow. If he is still aspirating (and they told me he is), I donāt understand why theyāre sending him home. My big fear right now is that theyāre sending him home too soon. He is stable but not exactly well and with sepsis the year after is dangerous.
That said his spirits are high and he is on cloud nine after finally getting some food and drink. Iām headed back to the hospital in a few.
Iām so grateful for everyoneās support and I honestly donāt think I couldāve gotten through some of this without you all. Itās the loneliest feeling in the world when youāre being pressured to give up on your other half or any loved one and a staff of experts is telling you the best thing is the opposite of what your heart says but for whatever reason Iāve seen OH come back too many times and be such a medical oddity. He could get a splinter and some weird thing would turn it into a life or death battle or get hit by a trebuchet and shake it off. Itās the damndest thing Iāve ever seen or heard of.
Please keep thinking of us and praying. His surgery is supposed to be around 3pm.