If you ignore the +Quote button and use the <-Reply button instead, it will quote (yes, I know, it's weird) the post that you're replying to and also alert the person who posted it.
The +Quote button is (I think) for multi-quoting. I gave up after a few abysmal attempts. Instead, I hit Reply while holding down the Command (Mac) or Control (Windows) key, which makes the quote open in a new tab. I do that for all the posts that I want to quote, umm, reply to. Then I copy/paste them all into one reply (aarrgghh) window and insert my own comment.
The one thing that a lot of people do when quoting replying is that they somehow manage to insert their cursor within the quoted box, and their comment gets garbled into the other person's. If you just check to be sure that your cursor is outside of the [ blah blah ] section, it should turn out ok.
And welcome to VN. I enjoy impassioned posts from intelligent members who aren't incoherent and/or A-holes. Therefore, I enjoy both Volly's and M-Boro's (Welcome back!!!!!) posts. I suppose that someone might pick up condescension where it wasn't actually there, just as I did at a post using "corny" as a description of other peoples' posts. And it can be hard to express enthusiasm for something you do or believe in without someone else taking it as a slight. Lots of people awfully touchy these days for a variety of reasons, many of them good reasons.
I sure don't do this always, or even often enough, but I try to remember two things:
1 - It's hard to convey tone in writing, including online. Foot-in-mouth disease runs rampant.
2 - "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle." (not by Plato)