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rbroyles said:
The UT fan guy is keeping our standards up - 4 beers! Good show!
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:lolabove: You don't even know. That guy was plastered at the end of the night. I had to ride with him back to the hotel and he would not shut up!!


volsgal03 said:
Windy I like those dresses, simple yet elegant. You have that tan going, and you look great in your dress, you were so worried about wearing.
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I wasn't worried once I got my tan going. I went to the beach on Thursday and lade out for quite a while! They were nice dresses, just didn't look so good without something. One of the girls got a spray tan and it looked nice! I've never done that.

Thanks niss and vg. :)
 
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Niss does it?


Ok guys I need your advice. And this is for you too hman and boyles if you want to chime in. Up for it people?
 
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I do enjoy the spray tan, of course I'm freckled and blue eyed so if/when I lay out people just go ahead and lay flowers next to my lounge chair :birgits_giggle: Morbid I realize so I stopped laying out and whatnot about seven yrs ago, now I do the spray tans and I LOVE them. I really really LOVE them. The downside is you have to get them once a week or week and a half and they are $40 a pop and that's some money over the course of a month with waxing nails and hair... I LOVE being a girl!!!!! And the shoe shopping!!!!!!
 
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Oh my goodness that is too expensive!!! I guess I will find myself a sugar daddy!


Ok, so anyways I am on my way home today and I call my aunt, who lives here in cornelius nc(north charlotte area). We are talking about the wedding, school, work, etc. then she is like I guess I will go ahead and tell you this but your uncle and I have been separated for two months and are probably going to get a divorce. I have no idea what I am supposed to say or do for her if anything. This has never exactly happened to a family member so I'm not exactly sure how to handle this. I am also the first to know, so I am not supposed to tell my parents or my sister or anyone else for that matter. I am dying to tell my sister though because she is coming home from Europe in two weeks to move to DC and I was going to suggest she take the longer route to drive through charlotte for my aunt. This is shocking and upsetting at the same time, I never saw this coming. Thoughts? Opinions?
 
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I had to run some water in the pool today, and just went out in my bare feet to wind up the hose. I stepped on a slug, real slimy little bugger.
 
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I mean its not like I can console her and say its ok, you will find another man, you are young, as if its one of my friends. This is someone in her 50's.
 
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People get divorced every day. While it's not a happy time, sometimes it's the best thing for both parties if they just can't get along with each other.
 
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volwindy said:
I mean its not like I can console her and say its ok, you will find another man, you are young, as if its one of my friends. This is someone in her 50's.
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Actually there are quite a few singles in their 50's. Divorces in that age group are fairly common. Marriages that were held together for the sake of children fall apart once they leave the home. Our church has more singles than married couples.
 
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hmanvolfan said:
That being the case you could say she'll be better off without the rotten bastard. :whistling:
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I know. :) However, it sucks, because they had season tickets to UT games so I got the ones they didn't go to and they took me to some good games this year, even the bowl game, which was his idea. Other than that, yeah sure! :eek:lol:

She is upset that it will probably not work out, that he wants to part ways. It makes me wonder if she was cheating with her if he doesn't want to do counseling or anything to work it out. I didn't question about the details because I didn't think it would be appropriate.
 
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volwindy said:
Oh my goodness that is too expensive!!! I guess I will find myself a sugar daddy!


Ok, so anyways I am on my way home today and I call my aunt, who lives here in cornelius nc(north charlotte area). We are talking about the wedding, school, work, etc. then she is like I guess I will go ahead and tell you this but your uncle and I have been separated for two months and are probably going to get a divorce. I have no idea what I am supposed to say or do for her if anything. This has never exactly happened to a family member so I'm not exactly sure how to handle this. I am also the first to know, so I am not supposed to tell my parents or my sister or anyone else for that matter. I am dying to tell my sister though because she is coming home from Europe in two weeks to move to DC and I was going to suggest she take the longer route to drive through charlotte for my aunt. This is shocking and upsetting at the same time, I never saw this coming. Thoughts? Opinions?
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Well, Win, it sounds like they are older, not like there are young children involved, not like that matters but divorce happens even in families where it never happens ya know? My in laws would boost there had never ever been divorce, well that was until my cousin and she felt like crap, not b/c she was divorcing a man child but b/c she was letting the family down. So I suggest no judgment, heart felt ears and shoulders if she needs them. And Windy she clearly feels safe with you if she told you before even telling your parents (I'm assuming one of them is her brother or sister). If you asked her about talking to your sister, I'm sure she would be ok with it as your entire family will eventually know. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. But take it as a huge compliment that she came to you first.
 
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volwindy said:
I know. :) However, it sucks, because they had season tickets to UT games so I got the ones they didn't go to and they took me to some good games this year, even the bowl game, which was his idea. Other than that, yeah sure! :eek:lol:

She is upset that it will probably not work out, that he wants to part ways. It makes me wonder if she was cheating with her if he doesn't want to do counseling or anything to work it out. I didn't question about the details because I didn't think it would be appropriate.
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Is it possible she has confided with you because she wants to talk about it?
 
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volwindy said:
She is my dad's sister. The uncle is leaving her, the one that I am not blood related to.
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Windy I'm no expert on relationships, however like hman said, divorce is a part of life and it happens. If its an amicable divorce then it will be easier for both parties involved. You can give your aunt support, as it sounds like you are close to her. Does your anut and uncle have children?
 
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You got get those damn tickets girl!!!!! Hahaha!

Seriously, she really might have told you b/c she wanted to talk about it with you b/c you're young and maybe you would understand something that was happening. It's just weird to me that she would go to you (totally no offense) and not her brother or her sister in law or her best friend, but instead she chose her neice?
 
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Niss,

I am happy that she contacted me and told me, but I wish this was not the matter I heard first. This is alot for me to take on, even my sister or my parents would be a better choice to talk to! She wants me to not tell my sister, but I'm not sure how long I can keep that from her. I think she told me first because I was the easiest probably because I got along with my uncle the best of all of us, she is having a hard time telling us. No one wants to be the first divorced in the family. But I hope she tells them soon for my sake.

VG

No kids.

Boyles
I don't know if she wanted to talk to me. She spoked to me two times today about it, the second she just started sobbing and had to just get off the phone.
 
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volwindy said:
Niss,

I am happy that she contacted me and told me, but I wish this was not the matter I heard first. This is alot for me to take on, even my sister or my parents would be a better choice to talk to! She wants me to not tell my sister, but I'm not sure how long I can keep that from her. I think she told me first because I was the easiest probably because I got along with my uncle the best of all of us, she is having a hard time telling us. No one wants to be the first divorced in the family. But I hope she tells them soon for my sake.

VG

No kids.

Boyles
I don't know if she wanted to talk to me. She spoked to me two times today about it, the second she just started sobbing and had to just get off the phone.
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Windy, maybe she told you so you would tell your family for her. Totally may not be the case, but if she is sobbing she needs a lot of support and she knows you love her and your uncle. She may want you to tell your parents for her... Just a thought.
 
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