Recruiting Forum Off Topic Thread III

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Sleegro said:
You said degenerates, which was pretty judgmental and unnecessary imo. And as far as I can tell it is been a very civil discussion on both sides. The only mocking I've seen about this issue has been from you. Both sides have a right to state their opinions here. Disagreeing isn't attacking or mocking.
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Who asked you, you stinking moron? :p:
 
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Poll:

Which joke has been run into the ground more?

A. He gone
B. Kessling jokes to uniquely named recruits
C. Twss


Inb4 obligatory twss/he gone/kessling response to post
 
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Rishvol said:
This is actually a legitimate thing with millennials. There's even a movement, albiet small because of people like you and pbtt, of young men who were addicted to porn and couldn't sustain a relationship because of the high expectations. When all you hear is "it's ok" somethings that aren't ok to do are believed to be ok to do. Look at all the rapings that happen on college campuses. Do you honestly believe most are because they're drunk? No it's because these boys, and girls, have been told "it's ok" all their lives and still believe it to be true when contradicted with "it's not ok"
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You make it sound like rape on college campuses is a recent development.
 
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PoweredByTheT said:
I'm 33... I've been with my wife for about 9 years solid... on and off for about 15... we've been married for 3...

I don't see it ever being an issue. It's occasional, usually on toy night... once a week or so... she's got her flavor, I have mine...

Lately not as much because she's 8 months pregnant, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with a healthy sex life... toys and visual aids in the bedroom...

What's wrong is missionary once every month... that sounds like a divorce waiting to happen. :)
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I never said a healthy sex life was bad. Quite the opposite. I have just learned that women (wait for it) change their mind. They do it at the strangest times too. What was cool a week ago is suddenly not. Kids change things too.

I hope y'all have a long and happy marriage. No two couples are the same.
 
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InVOLuntary said:
I agree. I wasn't judging btw. I was just looking for your perspective. It is extremely hard to prevent your kids especially as they get older as young adults from premarital sex. Hopefully they'll buy what we the parents are selling. I have a daughter that is out of the house now with a job. My sphere of influence is very diminished. I've done all I can for her. She's a really good kid though.

Now most of my attention has been focused on my 18 yo son. He's entering UT as a freshman this fall. Will be a commuter though. He's a good kid too.
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Didn't think you were judging. No worries. I've made a crap ton of mistakes in my life and will probably make a few more. I just know that there are some that I would change if I could. Others I wouldn't because you need some mistakes in your life. Some I would change.

It is good to know that there are lots of folks out there raising their kids well.
 
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OGbabyaviVol said:
They are good kids, because they have good parent. 😉
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Fify.
Mrs. InVol is apparently a supermom.






This is why I'll never get that kayaking invite.
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Glitch said:
This type of case right here is what makes raising daughters particularly scary. Fathers with daughters, please talk to your girls about the importance of waiting until marriage before engaging in sexual activity. For me it is religious, but it is simply a safeguard for them so they are much less likely to end up in this type of situation. If a girl believes that she is worth waiting for and doesn't allow herself to be in situations where she is alone with a boy then the likelihood of premarital sex (in any form) is much less likely to happen. This would help reduce a wide range of societal issues (teenage pregnancy, many STDs, pornographic addiction, etc).

Plus, if a girl feels that she is worth waiting for, then she would hopefully be more particular about the young men she dates and hangs around. If she feels that a young man is someone that she could never see herself marrying, then she would probably move on to find someone more worthy of her.

The same thing goes to the fathers of boys. Please, as a father of three girls, teach your boys that they are worth waiting for too. Teach them that girls are beautiful and precious but that they are precious to you too. How many young men have found themselves in a situation where they are young and struggling only to find out that a girl they hooked up with is pregnant. Now, they either fell obligated to marry her without really loving her which isn't fair and likely ends in divorce, or they find themselves paying child support to a woman they don't really know and hoping she is raising their child properly. It is just bad news all the way around.

Sorry. This is another one of those areas where I am rather passionate about.
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Thanks, Glitch. I was one of the guys who didn't follow your advice and had to confess all my rottenness to my wife (& I was the 1st guy she ever kissed!) before we were married. Christ changed everything. My son called me up recently when he was driving across the good ol' US of A at night to tell me how he found himself in a potentially compromising situation his freshman year at his "conservative Christian" school. He said he remembered how broken I was when I had to confess to his mom the story above, and that's what kept him from making a terrible choice. Btw, my wife responded in such a gracious way to me that afternoon many moons ago.
 
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CroKev said:
Thanks, Glitch. I was one of the guys who didn't follow your advice and had to confess all my rottenness to my wife (& I was the 1st guy she ever kissed!) before we were married. Christ changed everything. My son called me up recently when he was driving across the good ol' US of A at night to tell me how he found himself in a potentially compromising situation his freshman year at his "conservative Christian" school. He said he remembered how broken I was when I had to confess to his mom the story above,, and that's what kept him from making a terrible choice. Btw, my wife responded in such a gracious way to me that afternoon many moons ago.
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Christ is definitely the key to staying pure for your future spouse. To many of us don't find Him until we have already messed it up. Trying to raise my girls right from the start.

Thanks for your testimony.
 
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Glitch said:
How about the science that proves that it isn't? What about thousands and thousands of case studies and psychological evaluations?
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Common sense tells us what is real and what isnt. You have an honest, loving marriage you do what you have to do to keep it that way. Porn is an excuse for you not doing what you need to do. Sorry for the real talk but all those studies and pysch evals are like any other addiction. You want to beat it you figure out a way.
 
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bignewt said:
Common sense tells us what is real and what isnt. You have an honest, loving marriage you do what you have to do to keep it that way. Porn is an excuse for you not doing what you need to do. Sorry for the real talk but all those studies and pysch evals are like any other addiction. You want to beat it you figure out a way.
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It causes a chemical reaction just like any other drug. I didn't say it couldn't beat kicked, but to deny that it has an effect on the brain chemistry creating a chemical dependency is extremely shortsighted. Like saying cocaine or heroin isn't addictive and all those crackheads just need to do what they need to do and quit tomorrow.
 
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Glitch said:
It causes a chemical reaction just like any other drug. I didn't say it couldn't beat kicked, but to deny that it has an effect on the brain chemistry creating a chemical dependency is extremely shortsighted. Like saying cocaine or heroin isn't addictive and all those crackheads just need to do what they need to do and quit tomorrow.
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I never denied it was an addiction but heroin may be a tad more addictive physically...
 
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bignewt said:
I never denied it was an addiction but heroin may be a tad more addictive physically...
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It is all the same principle. Heroin has never had any sort of appeal to me. Never in a thousand years. Porn caused me quite a bit of grief though. Everyone has their own flavor of vice.
 
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Glitch said:
It is all the same principle. Heroin has never had any sort of appeal to me. Never in a thousand years. Porn caused me quite a bit of grief though. Everyone has their own flavor of vice.
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Sure but heroin is a physical addiction...the withdrawal is brutal and makes you need it with every fiber in your being. I understand a porn addiction too, but its no where close to a drug or alcohol addiction. I just dont see how a sensible person can't see it is fantasy and not real that is my only argument.
 
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