Recruiting Forum Football Talk IX

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InVOLuntary said:
So sorry to hear this. Peace and comfort for him, you and your family and friends. My dad cared for my mom for close to 10 years while she battled Alzheimer's. We were told that family/spouses caregivers often pass away before the patient because of the toll it takes. I wondered how my dad would handle the loss of his lifelong partner. He treated it as a new lease in life. He was very sad to see my mom go but it was a huge weight off his shoulders.

I know you have dedicated the past few years of your life caring for your significant other. I hope you are able to start fresh and have a new outlook on life. I'm not saying to forget but remember the good times. I'm certain that's exactly what your husband would want.
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I struggled with guilt per my father's passing for similar reasons. I thought I shouldn't feel any hint of relief with the sadness.

It took time to realize that it was normal, and even healthy--especially with my firm beliefs per the gospel.

My hope for you, @UTProf is that there is a deep sense of hope (and even relief) with the pain and that if there is, those feelings will bring no unfair-guilt with them.
 
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gordonr24 said:
I’m not sure what other’s thoughts in this thread may be, but I prefer that Tennessee doesn’t play a game overseas.

I think it’s inevitable with the 9 game SEC schedule to have a neutral site SEC game over there in the future. Sankey will want the exposure and the dollars.
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Playing these games in another country is dumb as ****.
 
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UTProf said:
I know I've been absent for a little bit but I had reason... As much as it killls me to post this, the love of my life, a man I had been with for 27 years, is gone. We all thought it would happen back in March but he made it to Aug and I'm angry but grateful for it. Half of my soul is gone and IDK if it will ever be replaced but all of you have been such a tremendous support to me and such a large part of the journey that you deserve to know even though all I really want to do is sink inside the deepest hole I can find.

I can't thank you enough for how much you supported us over the years. You might not have known it but Brian was an alum and I just don't have the words to describe how much he meant to me or how much every thought, prayer, and good thought meant to me. I'm shattered and I have no idea what happens next. He was my everything in so many ways. But last night he went into cardiac arrest after his long illness and when I saw him he was brain dead. I was forced to make a decision that no one should ever have to make but I knew he was no longer there this time.

He escaped death so many times and we both received so much love and support here. I am absolutely shattered - half of me is gone - but I'm also grateful for everything VN did for us. Please keep me and him in your thoughts and thank you so much for everything. You have no idea how much you've meant to me these past few years.
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So very very sorry. I can't imagine. Glad you got a few more months with him.
 
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InVOLuntary said:
So sorry to hear this. Peace and comfort for him, you and your family and friends. My dad cared for my mom for close to 10 years while she battled Alzheimer's. We were told that family/spouses caregivers often pass away before the patient because of the toll it takes. I wondered how my dad would handle the loss of his lifelong partner. He treated it as a new lease in life. He was very sad to see my mom go but it was a huge weight off his shoulders.

I know you have dedicated the past few years of your life caring for your significant other. I hope you are able to start fresh and have a new outlook on life. I'm not saying to forget but remember the good times. I'm certain that's exactly what your husband would want.
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^^That is so true. And ty for sharing it with me.

He told me once a few years back that the first thing I'd feel when he died was 'relief' because of all the work it was physically, emotionally, and mentally. It wasn't the first thing but at the same time it's there. It's just that I've carried this burden for so long and fought so hard that now I don't even know how not to have it. I just feel empty - meaningless. Keeping him alive and taking care of him has been my entire existence for 6+ years. I'm too young to not find something to do next with my life (still in my 40s) but too old for it to be easy.
 
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Orange_Crush said:
I struggled with guilt per my father's passing for similar reasons. I thought I shouldn't feel any hint of relief with the sadness.

It took time to realize that it was normal, and even healthy--especially with my firm beliefs per the gospel.

My hope for you, @UTProf is that there is a deep sense of hope (and even relief) with the pain and that if there is, those feelings will bring no unfair-guilt with them.
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Great post. Still praying @Glitch @UTProf
 
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Jackcrevol said:
Sanders didn't play as long which makes sense folks give him the nod. Honestly its a toss up
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Sanders is the most dynamic running back of all time but I don’t consider him the best. He led the league in negative rushing plays which put the offense in bad down and distance too often. It is also why he was replaced in goal line plays and some short yardage plays.
 
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UTProf said:
^^That is so true. And ty for sharing it with me.

He told me once a few years back that the first thing I'd feel when he died was 'relief' because of all the work it was physically, emotionally, and mentally. It wasn't the first thing but at the same time it's there. It's just that I've carried this burden for so long and fought so hard that now I don't even know how not to have it. I just feel empty - meaningless. Keeping him alive and taking care of him has been my entire existence for 6+ years. I'm too young to not find something to do next with my life (still in my 40s) but too old for it to be easy.
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You honored God by honoring him. You put him before self and that is something God sees and will reward. It was rich and full of meaning. Don't think any other way.

What you did is something we don't see nearly enough of. Thank you for a wonderful example of selfless love.
 
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volbeast33 said:
Sanders is the most dynamic running back of all time but I don’t consider him the best. He led the league in negative rushing plays which put the offense in bad down and distance too often. It is also why he was replaced in goal line plays and some short yardage plays.
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I know this is TN slanted. Ever wonder where Chuck Webb would be had he not been injured? Every time I think of TN RB's, his is the first name in. Then Jamal, Cheese, and Charlie Garner, etc.
 
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CAVPUT said:
You honored God by honoring your father. You put him before self and that is something God sees and will reward. It was rich and full of meaning. Don't think any other way.

What you did is something we don't see nearly enough of. In our culture, far too often the elderly and infirm are cast off and/or ignored instead of being respected and honored. What you did for him just blesses my heart. Thank you for a wonderful example of selfless love. I'd be proud to have a son like you.
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(I believe it was her husband.)
 
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