tl;dr
found out today that I'm gon be the trustee of the cemetery where my grandparents (and the oldest cemetery in town, graves in the 1840s) are buried....it's complicated...started out as part of a defunct HOA in a residential neighborhood created by the court (again, in town)...only one easement through a dude's driveway and I dun been down the road with that pr!ck years ago....court named a 3-person board in about 2000, and all three are now deceased....spent what seems like hunnerts of hours there with dad over the years with concrete bags leveling tombstones...because of his health, dad really let it go the past few years (no choice)...dey's nobody left to give a chit...the last time I was down there, in the spring, the Boy Scouts were still mowin it, which is what dad had set up...they count the hours for their service badges....don't know what i'm gon do, but I'll figger it out