Kiffin's #1 problem was (probably still is) an astounding lack of shared values. Kiffin's own apparent values -- sarcasm, irreverence, expediency, selfishness, and opportunism -- are not replicated in too many other people's value systems.
But he can still be popular with those values. A 20-year old kid who loves football but hates studying is going to adore an authority figure who says, "hey, you're here to find your way to the pros, not for a degree -- do the minimum to stay eligible, and not one bit more" ... even if the coach is proving by his words that he doesn't care about the player, only himself and finding expedient ways to win. Sarcasm and irreverence, wittily delivered, are entertaining -- 20 year old players won't often recognize that cheap wit frequently covers a lack of deeper insight and a serious lack of interest/investment.
So sure, I'm not surprised Kiffin was popular with some of the players. He was the #1 authority figure in their lives at the time, telling them things they wanted to hear, opening the door to the candy store for them. They didn't have the perspective to see long-term implications.
But many of us did, starting with his ill-considered comments about Florida recruiting, early in his brief tenure and culminating with the manner of his leaving. You can't hide a lack of values, not for long. What you believe in, what you value, becomes evident over time, for people who are paying attention.
So it makes me wonder why anyone who loves the Vols and our players and our school would not mind Kiffin and what he did to the program's tradition, pride, and values. Who would not mind treating young co-eds as if they were only one step removed from escort service girls. Who would not mind wrongly accusing other programs of cheating while actively trying to get as close to the line as possible himself. Who would not mind a me-first mentality that would leave so many other people high and dry because "a dream opportunity" opened up for the individual.
I honestly don't get that perspective.
Trying to put it behind you, wishing it never happened, attempting to forget it? Okay, I get that, it's a coping mechanism. But trying to forget it is different from saying you don't mind that it happened, it was just a thing.
That, I don't get.