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Orangeredblooded said:
I realized while I was in Kingsport that I hadn’t heard anything about a baby shower for my DIL. There was one for her at work and it was a disaster, she has a large family and I thought they would do it. Nope. Poor girl is discouraged. You girls know it has little to do with what gifts you receive, it’s all about the attention before it all goes to the baby. I’m going to throw one for her and if y’all have read my posts, I’m not a girly girl, far from it. I’ve got a posse of buds to guide me, other than that, I don’t have a clue.
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We got you're back! When you're ready to plan let us know.
 
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vollygirl said:
We got you're back! When you're ready to plan let us know.
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Next week when I settle down, is my target for planning. DIL is working on the guest list and thank goodness, the venue is one of my workplace dining rooms. It has a separate entry and don’t have to worry about the guests coming into contact with the residents.
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
I realized while I was in Kingsport that I hadn’t heard anything about a baby shower for my DIL. There was one for her at work and it was a disaster, she has a large family and I thought they would do it. Nope. Poor girl is discouraged. You girls know it has little to do with what gifts you receive, it’s all about the attention before it all goes to the baby. I’m going to throw one for her and if y’all have read my posts, I’m not a girly girl, far from it. I’ve got a posse of buds to guide me, other than that, I don’t have a clue.
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It's definitely tough when no one steps up. Sometimes they don't realize they need to, they figure someone else will.

Kevin's parents 50th anniversary is next month. His parents and brothers (and family) have not all been together since 2014. She complains about this all the time and told us when it was just Kevin, myself and them together last year she really wants us all together for the anniversary. After we get home she sends Kevin a text to not try to plan anything as it is just too tough to get everyone together. Kevin is of course planning it, as a surprise. If it weren't for him, I don't think any of the brothers would have, it's just not something males do!
 
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volwindy said:
It's definitely tough when no one steps up. Sometimes they don't realize they need to, they figure someone else will.

Kevin's parents 50th anniversary is next month. His parents and brothers (and family) have not all been together since 2014. She complains about this all the time and told us when it was just Kevin, myself and them together last year she really wants us all together for the anniversary. After we get home she sends Kevin a text to not try to plan anything as it is just too tough to get everyone together. Kevin is of course planning it, as a surprise. If it weren't for him, I don't think any of the brothers would have, it's just not something males do!
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Things and events are supposed to magically happen with males 🙄. Sounds like your MIL expects and hopes for it and who could blame her. I think just the family gathering together is what she’s looking forward to the most.
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
Things and events are supposed to magically happen with males 🙄. Sounds like your MIL expects and hopes for it and who could blame her. I think just the family gathering together is what she’s looking forward to the most.
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Kevin's dad is in on it just to get her to the location. But he's told us a couple times she has asked if any of the boys were planning anything. He's said he's pretty much laughed at her, yeah right, they never plan anything together, even between two of them (there are 4 bothers). 😄
 
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volwindy said:
Kevin's dad is in on it just to get her to the location. But he's told us a couple times she has asked if any of the boys were planning anything. He's said he's pretty much laughed at her, yeah right, they never plan anything together, even between two of them (there are 4 bothers). 😄
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😂, dead give away.
 
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I also get why it is so hard.

1. Brother 1 is in Texas. He's never suggested for any of us to get together, and I don't know that he has traveled to see any of them, definitely hasn't come to us.
2. Brother 2 is in Florida. They usually travel once a year, and have made an effort to go to each brother, including us.
3. Brother 3 is in Indiana. Same situation as Brother 1.

We've traveled to see each brother in their home, just like #2.

Each brother is also in close proximity to in laws, so it's easier to spend time with wife's family when you don't have to plan.
 
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volwindy said:
I also get why it is so hard.

1. Brother 1 is in Texas. He's never suggested for any of us to get together, and I don't know that he has traveled to see any of them, definitely hasn't come to us.
2. Brother 2 is in Florida. They usually travel once a year, and have made an effort to go to each brother, including us.
3. Brother 3 is in Indiana. Same situation as Brother 1.

We've traveled to see each brother in their home, just like #2.

Each brother is also in close proximity to in laws, so it's easier to spend time with wife's family when you don't have to plan.
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That’s sad to me. Life is life, and it’s experienced differently for all of us. My family was the same as what you’re describing. We were all living in different places and really never could get together except for maybe once a year.
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
That’s sad to me. Life is life, and it’s experienced differently for all of us. My family was the same as what you’re describing. We were all living in different places and really never could get together except for maybe once a year.
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It is sad and frustrating. His family puts no effort into getting together. Even last year when we went to Indiana, we stayed in the area Kevin pretty much grew up in. About an hour south of the brother in IN now. We drove to their place two days in a row to visit and hang out and invited them to go with us to a farm the next day near where we were staying. They wouldn't. It's like wtf.
 
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volwindy said:
It is sad and frustrating. His family puts no effort into getting together. Even last year when we went to Indiana, we stayed in the area Kevin pretty much grew up in. About an hour south of the brother in IN now. We drove to their place two days in a row to visit and hang out and invited them to go with us to a farm the next day near where we were staying. They wouldn't. It's like wtf.
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Broken record, but sad. Where do you think the problem is? I can imagine and can’t.
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
Broken record, but sad. Where do you think the problem is? I can imagine and can’t.
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I'm not sure, but maybe MIL. She is a glass half empty person. The fact that she over worries, over analyzes anything and everything may cause avoidance as I see all the brothers as whatever kind of people.

In fact, on one of the zoom calls for planning this, one brother mentioned, as we plan this, I want to think about handling things so I don't get a call from Mom when we return about how we did or didn't do something during this get together. 🤪 he jokes, but....

When the pandemic first started, she kept saying we'll never get to be able to get together again. I told her in the meantime, why not do family zoom calls, my family does them every Friday (we still do!). She said that would be too much for everyone. I told her then do them once a month, or heck, just whoever shows up shows up - same with my family, sometimes it's all of us, sometimes others have something going on. She didn't like that either. So there was another missed opportunity to have everyone "together" multiple times for the last year.
 
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volwindy said:
I'm not sure, but maybe MIL. She is a glass half empty person. The fact that she over worries, over analyzes anything and everything may cause avoidance as I see all the brothers as whatever kind of people.

In fact, on one of the zoom calls for planning this, one brother mentioned, as we plan this, I want to think about handling things so I don't get a call from Mom when we return about how we did or didn't do something during this get together. 🤪 he jokes, but....

When the pandemic first started, she kept saying we'll never get to be able to get together again. I told her in the meantime, why not do family zoom calls, my family does them every Friday (we still do!). She said that would be too much for everyone. I told her then do them once a month, or heck, just whoever shows up shows up - same with my family, sometimes it's all of us, sometimes others have something going on. She didn't like that either. So there was another missed opportunity to have everyone "together" multiple times for the last year.
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I know that they can’t really help this (unless they recognize that it’s a problem and get some help), but I find people like this completely exhausting. Pessimists just seem to suck the life out of everything. 🙁
 
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volwindy said:
I'm not sure, but maybe MIL. She is a glass half empty person. The fact that she over worries, over analyzes anything and everything may cause avoidance as I see all the brothers as whatever kind of people.

In fact, on one of the zoom calls for planning this, one brother mentioned, as we plan this, I want to think about handling things so I don't get a call from Mom when we return about how we did or didn't do something during this get together. 🤪 he jokes, but....

When the pandemic first started, she kept saying we'll never get to be able to get together again. I told her in the meantime, why not do family zoom calls, my family does them every Friday (we still do!). She said that would be too much for everyone. I told her then do them once a month, or heck, just whoever shows up shows up - same with my family, sometimes it's all of us, sometimes others have something going on. She didn't like that either. So there was another missed opportunity to have everyone "together" multiple times for the last year.
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You’ve said from the get go, your family is different, willing to try and do something different, and Kevin’s are who they are. Neither are going to change.
 
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VolNExile said:
I know that they can’t really help this (unless they recognize that it’s a problem and get some help), but I find people like this completely exhausting. Pessimists just seem to suck the life out of everything. 🙁
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I do too. I can only handle it in bits and pieces. She recognizes she is this way, she's said it multiple times, but refuses to get help or make any changes.
 
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joevol33 said:
Kiddo got some highlights today. I kinda like it figured you ladies would appreciate more in this thread 🤣View attachment 378048
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Looks great!

—until you get highlights yourself, you’ll never know what a long, involved process this is. At least they don’t do the shower cap with holes/crochet hook method any more. Ouchies.
 
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