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Ulysees E. McGill said:
Deleted my original first sentence, because I am pretty sure I misread your meaning...sorry

I whupped those tails when I had to, and my kids all turned out great, and they all love me and say I am the reason they are who they are.
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Don't get me wrong. Anyone who chooses to discipline their kids with whoopins is OK in my book. I just found that there was a more effective discipline for my kids. Telling them that their actions had disappointed us was far worse than any whooping would have been. Some kids need physical punishment and some need alternative. Whatever works best for your kids is what you should do. As long as it comes from a place of love then you will almost always be on the right side of things.
 
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SweetasSoda said:
🧡 Kids are different. Some really demand it. Others you can just look disappointed, and that's enough. I had the two extremes. Most are somewhere between. Can't remember if it was Dobson, author of The Strong Willed Child, or someone else, but he was telling about going around to churches giving advice on how to raise kids properly. Worked great until he had the 4th one who none of his advice worked for.
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I feel it really doesn’t matter if you whip your kids or choose some other form of punishment..... the most important part is the relationship you have with your kids.
 
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UTMVol76 said:
I am blessed that I was raised in a family with no issues with things like alcoholism or abuse issues, but my dad in particular was very much a disciplinarian from a Christian perspective and basis. It wasn’t until I saw and learned of situations of true disfunction. It was then I learned that not all solutions work the same when the foundation is broken and not everything is a one size fits all solution.
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This is true. I was blessed with Christian parents that definitely raised us with love and discipline. Was never around anyone who drank until high school. Still didn't really understand what people lived with until I taught school and saw evidence of dysfunction in many different forms.
 
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Ulysees E. McGill said:
I never ever spanked my kids when I was angry, I usually waited till several hours later or the next day, and then I would set them down and explain to them why it was happening and that what was happening was their choice and not mine...I absolutely hated doing it.
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It’s hard being a parent.I swear I believe my son would pad his pants when he knew he had a spanking coming.He has turned out to be an honorable man though.
 
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SweetasSoda said:
This is true. I was blessed with Christian parents that definitely raised us with love and discipline. Was never around anyone who drank until high school. Still didn't really understand what people lived with until I taught school and saw evidence of dysfunction in many different forms.
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We have some real issues in the schools today. Maybe they’ve always existed, but seems like there are so many more issues with kids now vs when I was a kid. Saddens me.
 
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volbeast33 said:
I feel it really doesn’t matter if you whip your kids or choose some other form of punishment..... the most important part is the relationship you have with your kids.
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I felt this same way until I had my son. I had taught school for 5 years and handled 7th and 8th grade boys with no problems. And trust me, I really did not want to whip him because I am so empathetic I feel everyone's pain. Can't hurt an animal let alone a kid. I was the kid you only had to give a stern look to so I was going to love him so much he would never make we whip him. It just didn't work with him. I even asked him one day why he continued to do something when I had whipped him every time he had done it. He said he just had to. Thank God my daughter was like me! But he is the kindest, most respectful, most loving son, husband and father right now!
 
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UTMVol76 said:
We have some real issues in the schools today. Maybe they’ve always existed, but seems like there are so many more issues with kids now vs when I was a kid. Saddens me.
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They took away the abilities of teachers and administrators to punish kids in schools. Parents have largely stopped punishing kids at home because so many would rather be their kids friends than the hard work it takes to be their parents. When the kids realized that nobody was going to punish them they decided they would see what they could get away with. The problem is that kids ultimately see discipline as someone caring for them and when nobody disciplines them then they feel nobody cares and they act accordingly. Very sad. That is why I discipline my kids everyday because they mess up at least a little everyday. I do too and I make sure I call myself out when I do.
 
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UTMVol76 said:
We have some real issues in the schools today. Maybe they’ve always existed, but seems like there are so many more issues with kids now vs when I was a kid. Saddens me.
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You would not believe the extreme change I experienced from the time I taught before I had kids, and the time I went back after they were in school! Even worse now.
 
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Glitch said:
They took away the abilities of teachers and administrators to punish kids in schools. Parents have largely stopped punishing kids at home because so many would rather be their kids friends than the hard work it takes to be their parents. When the kids realized that nobody was going to punish them they decided they would see what they could get away with. The problem is that kids ultimately see discipline as someone caring for them and when nobody disciplines them then they feel nobody cares and they act accordingly. Very sad. That is why I discipline my kids everyday because they mess up at least a little everyday. I do too and I make sure I call myself out when I do.
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It's a combination of this and broken homes. You wouldn't believe how many grandparents are raising kids right now.
 
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SweetasSoda said:
You would not believe the extreme change I experienced from the time I taught before I had kids, and the time I went back after they were in school! Even worse now.
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I can’t like your statement because the situation is too bad to throw a like to. The stories I hear are truly horrifying. On top of that we’re asking teachers to become psychologists because these kids are so screwed up. That’s BS. Add to that the curriculum being thrown out there and it is a true mess.
 
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SSVol said:
I don't know. Listening to the ladies panting and screaming hard, haaaaard, go, go, go is kind of...hmmm....wait....maybe there is something to this.
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Yes yes ….oh go a little bit higher and to the left. Right there. Park it right there. Perfect spot. Ohhh…awesome!
 
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