tennvols77
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So, for the African Americans who "make it out", why them?
And, why when they speak about their lives and their opinions on how and why they did, they are put down and degraded and labeled many things "not black"?
As someone who spent years, and lots of money and energy and time trying to "make a difference", I can tell you it is 99% all in the individual, and one piece of support (that one family member whomever it was), and the ability to block out the #1 cause of quitting, their peers.
Go spend one year in the downtrodden and poorest area's..... offer hope, offer a way out, and see just how many take you up on it and actually do it. If you haven't spent a year of your time and your energy and your money into trying to make a difference, whatever you think or believe, then, there's nothing to be said except go do it, open your eyes, and the answer is simple.
The individual, plus whatever you would call an awakening/awareness to opportunity and hope that is understood and realized, that's what it takes, all else is excuses. Something so simple as..... yes you can, yes you're smart enough, yes, you are strong enough.......just a little reassurance to remind them that confidence in themselves is really all they need as the base or platform from which everything else is possible.
Doesn't mean that the deck isn't stacked against you, that it is easy, that it is impossible or improbable. It's a daily choice, and being willing to block out the voices that say it isn't, because that is the majority, make no mistake, and being consistent, and confident in one's self, is all it really does take simply put. Once again, not easy, but, is more than probable.
You disagree, then tell me how many of these kids you really helped break the cycle, and your experiences. I saw them achieve it, not because of me, but, them, it just took opportunity and hope to open their eyes.
Further, the success stories are so few that they do become sullied by the disproportionate amount of kids that fall off and don't open their eyes, and truly just quit, they really do almost cancel out all the good that you felt with the kids who decided to do, rather than be done to.
As always there's generalization here, but, from my experience, that truly was and is the difference in the kids who achieve and move on, versus those that stay put and stuck.
And, that's not a white or black thing, or environemt thing, it's an individual thing. I've seen just as many rich white kids piss way their futures, too.
Let's discuss the actual time and sweat equity people are putting in to try and help the youth. Because, like a parent, its simple time and sweat equity that need to be put in with these kids, and why isn't that being done from families and friends and community and education.......simple answers......because "we" have failed these kids, not that these kids are failing.
The government ain't your source for that, throw money and lip service at the problem, and see what that has gotten. It's about people spending time with these kids all over and actually being sincere and genuine in your concern for their welfare and betterment. More and more of that is needed, not much else.
And, why when they speak about their lives and their opinions on how and why they did, they are put down and degraded and labeled many things "not black"?
As someone who spent years, and lots of money and energy and time trying to "make a difference", I can tell you it is 99% all in the individual, and one piece of support (that one family member whomever it was), and the ability to block out the #1 cause of quitting, their peers.
Go spend one year in the downtrodden and poorest area's..... offer hope, offer a way out, and see just how many take you up on it and actually do it. If you haven't spent a year of your time and your energy and your money into trying to make a difference, whatever you think or believe, then, there's nothing to be said except go do it, open your eyes, and the answer is simple.
The individual, plus whatever you would call an awakening/awareness to opportunity and hope that is understood and realized, that's what it takes, all else is excuses. Something so simple as..... yes you can, yes you're smart enough, yes, you are strong enough.......just a little reassurance to remind them that confidence in themselves is really all they need as the base or platform from which everything else is possible.
Doesn't mean that the deck isn't stacked against you, that it is easy, that it is impossible or improbable. It's a daily choice, and being willing to block out the voices that say it isn't, because that is the majority, make no mistake, and being consistent, and confident in one's self, is all it really does take simply put. Once again, not easy, but, is more than probable.
You disagree, then tell me how many of these kids you really helped break the cycle, and your experiences. I saw them achieve it, not because of me, but, them, it just took opportunity and hope to open their eyes.
Further, the success stories are so few that they do become sullied by the disproportionate amount of kids that fall off and don't open their eyes, and truly just quit, they really do almost cancel out all the good that you felt with the kids who decided to do, rather than be done to.
As always there's generalization here, but, from my experience, that truly was and is the difference in the kids who achieve and move on, versus those that stay put and stuck.
And, that's not a white or black thing, or environemt thing, it's an individual thing. I've seen just as many rich white kids piss way their futures, too.
Let's discuss the actual time and sweat equity people are putting in to try and help the youth. Because, like a parent, its simple time and sweat equity that need to be put in with these kids, and why isn't that being done from families and friends and community and education.......simple answers......because "we" have failed these kids, not that these kids are failing.
The government ain't your source for that, throw money and lip service at the problem, and see what that has gotten. It's about people spending time with these kids all over and actually being sincere and genuine in your concern for their welfare and betterment. More and more of that is needed, not much else.
