Weezer
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What could a 1 year old possibly absorb from a smack aside from a destabilizing blunt force, dude?
They can hardly walk at that point, let alone decipher right from wrong.
Children are smarter than your giving them credit for. At one, they're starting to learn right from wrong. Is it a concept they have a firm grasp on? No, but they are certainly developing. At one, it's more about positive and negative reenforcement than it is punishment. One year olds tend to try to get into everything. Some things could be extremely hazardous. A swat on a diapered bottom does nothing more than hurt their feelings, while teaching them what they were doing was bad.
Most of the whoopings I received didn't hurt physically. What hurt most was knowing I'd done something to deserve it. I always got the "this is going to hurt me more" speech. The simple fact is, it was true. Some parents give that speech and it's insincere, but I knew my parents loved me, so I knew it really hurt them. That's what made it an effective punishment.
I've been whipped with a switch. Those things hurt like hell, but I learned my lesson. FTR, I could count the number of times I was whipped with a switch on one hand.
There's a difference between a whoopin' and beating your child. The concept that any whoopin' is child abuse and therefore barbaric is simply idiotic IMO. I have not seen the pics of AP's kid, so I have no opinion if he crossed a boundary. If he did, he deserves to be prosecuted, but the simple act of whooping your child shouldn't be construed as abuse.
Society and govt have overstepped their bounds when it comes to parenting, IMO. Children should be protected from actual abuse, but far too often judgements are made without sufficient knowledge of what actually happened. We've crossed a line where we're breeding a generation of enablers. Everyone and everything are to blame except for the individual him (or her)self.