Why choose to be negative?

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Smokey1210 said:
I am just curious to why people choose to be negative and take the wait and see aproach. I love this time of year. I am always a little more optimistic at this time of year than I probably should be. Hell this is the time of year we all "have the chance to become champions!". I know unlikely. My point is even if you are taking the wait and see approach, does it not still burn deep inside you with every loss we have? It has always hurt me when we lose. Even last year when I predicted 8 wins. I knew we would probably lose to LSU, UA and AR. It still sucked the wind out of me to lose. So why allow your self to be so negative now when you have the opportunity to be so optimistic and feel great about the potential of the up coming season. Not trying to call out negavols I just want to understand why you choose to deny yourself of the good feel times of preseason hype.
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By choosing to have unrealistic expectations are you not denying yourself the true joy that will come if we do somehow manage to beat UF, USC or UGA this season? You will have gone into the game thinking we are going to win and will see the outcome as simply what you expected to happen, even if those expectations were flawed. Those of us who are grounded in reality however will see a win like that as the shocking result that it truly is and it will revel in the excitement of the team overcoming huge odds to get a win. On the other hand, those grounded in reality will have the pain of losses cushioned to a great degree because we knew going in that the team was facing an almost insurmountable task.
 
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GreyWolf1129 said:
Out of curiosity, what record do you predict?

Phil Steele, who has a pretty good record, has the Vols as one of his "MIP's", and hints at a 10 win season.

I think 8 is a realistic number. Anything beyond that is a plus.

Go Vols.
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With the talent on offense and the 2012 schedule there is no excuse for us to at least win 8 games.
I think the real test for this team will be against the big 4 games against bammer, UF, UGA and USC.
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VolBeef88 said:
You're missing my point. Discussing reality of a situation is not necessarily being negative. Many on this site lack the emotional capacity to understand that concept. For example discussing a lack of a good kicking game isn't being negative. It's talking about the realities this current UT team as it is.
Also questioning the coaching and management of the team is not being negative it's looking at a record and performance of the coach. I nor anyone else that get labeled as "negative" or "negavols" want this team lose a single game. I'd love nothing more than UT to never lose another game. Period!
However many on this site think because some of us have the nerve to question the management of this team means that we're not "true" fans and that just intellectually garbage.
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Listen I have no problem with people looking at the kicking game, running game, new defensive scheme and other unproven aspects of this team. We all see them. I just don't understand the side of people who choose to focus on those as reasons to not be optimistic when this is the time of year I feel absolutely great about our team. It feels good to look at the positives. 3rd year starting QB, unbelievable potential on Oline, sick WR group, a new coaching staff who seems to have a proven track record of coaching at a high level, a true leader in Herman Lathers, team chemistry from all the reports, a definsive line with depth, two returning freshman at line backer that were sick last year, Herman lathers back leading tackler on our team two years ago. A secondary that returns all starters with a slime and scheme that will help them with more pressure on the QB. My god there is just so much to be optimistic about I just don't get why people focus on the negatives. We all get it. Why bring them up all the time is my only question.
 
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VolBeef88 said:
With the talent on offense and the 2012 schedule there is no excuse for us to at least win 8 games.
I think the real test for this team will be against the big 4 games against bammer, UF, UGA and USC.
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Agreed.
 
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Ashevillevol said:
You know, you're act is very tiresome. He was just asking why some people choose to be negative when they don't have to, especially when the season hasn't started and there is a lot to be positive about. You take that as a personal insult and start in with the name calling and inane comments about people talking out of their ass just because they don't agree with your opinion. Your opinion is not sacrosanct. You have just as much right to express it though, as anybody else. You always interject belligerence and verbal aggression that leaves people shaking their heads. Get over yourself.
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Because he was way off when he attacked me. Nice try though. And BTW thanks for proving my point of lacking the emotional capacity to discuss reality. Have a nice day.
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The main cause of negative attitude is wrong beliefs about life or certain aspects of it. You see the life through your beliefs and if your beliefs are negative, you will see your life as unhappy or downright pointless. So to change such attitude you need to change your beliefs
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If you find yourself complaining about how unhappy you are, it’s exactly the reason you have such a negative attitude. It may be hard at first to understand and accept this but the quicker you do, the quicker you will be able to change your life for the better. Your complaining alone can keep you stuck in the circumstances that you find unsatisfying. So to change your life you should stop complaining and start working on improving your life.
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Your negative mood affects people around you. You should never make others feel bad because by doing so you are contributing not only to your own misery, but to the unhappiness of others also.
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Every cause has an effect and so your negative attitude (cause) produces negative circumstances. Mostly people think it’s the other way round, but that’s not the case. Your thinking causes your circumstances.
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Smokey1210 said:
I am just curious to why people choose to be negative and take the wait and see aproach. I love this time of year. I am always a little more optimistic at this time of year than I probably should be. Hell this is the time of year we all "have the chance to become champions!". I know unlikely. My point is even if you are taking the wait and see approach, does it not still burn deep inside you with every loss we have? It has always hurt me when we lose. Even last year when I predicted 8 wins. I knew we would probably lose to LSU, UA and AR. It still sucked the wind out of me to lose. So why allow your self to be so negative now when you have the opportunity to be so optimistic and feel great about the potential of the up coming season. Not trying to call out negavols I just want to understand why you choose to deny yourself of the good feel times of preseason hype.
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I do not see that taking a wait and see approach is negative, just realistic.
 
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VolBeef88 said:
Because he was way off when he attacked me. Nice try though. And BTW thanks for proving my point of lacking the emotional capacity to discuss reality. Have a nice day.
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Please explain how I attacked you! I was trying to have civil conversation. I have not attacked anyone. Like you said I was just wanting some intellectual conversation on the subject that actually answers the question.
 
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Smokey1210 said:
Listen I have no problem with people looking at the kicking game, running game, new defensive scheme and other unproven aspects of this team. We all see them. I just don't understand the side of people who choose to focus on those as reasons to not be optimistic when this is the time of year I feel absolutely great about our team. It feels good to look at the positives. 3rd year starting QB, unbelievable potential on Oline, sick WR group, a new coaching staff who seems to have a proven track record of coaching at a high level, a true leader in Herman Lathers, team chemistry from all the reports, a definsive line with depth, two returning freshman at line backer that were sick last year, Herman lathers back leading tackler on our team two years ago. A secondary that returns all starters with a slime and scheme that will help them with more pressure on the QB. My god there is just so much to be optimistic about I just don't get why people focus on the negatives. We all get it. Why bring them up all the time is my only question.
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I agree with almost everything you say here. Those topics have been discussed a lot on this site. I guess I should ask you why you focus on the threads that don't discuss the team strengths?
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VolBeef88 said:
Because he was way off when he attacked me. Nice try though. And BTW thanks for proving my point of lacking the emotional capacity to discuss reality. Have a nice day.
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I have the emotional capacity to discuss reality. Let' go...bring it.
 
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The Types of Negative Attitude

There are certain types of people that indulge in negative states of mind. They are all different in some ways of thinking and acting, but the unifying feature of all of them is their constant negativity. Here are several types of such personalities:

The miserable type. Such people are grumpy from the start of the day. They meet with failures as soon as they wake up, which sets their day to be full of anger and hopelessness.

Usually this type of people keep to themselves and their presence makes others moody. People instantly feel their bad energy and try to stay away from them.

When you talk to the person of this type, s/he may insult you without even intending so. This is because their negativity is so aligned with who they are that they cannot recognise if they make others happy or sad.

The most interesting distinction of this type is that they are mainly unaware of their mental state. They don’t realise that they are negative.

Friendship with the miserable type of people can get you seriously depressed. This is because they have a very strong negative energy resonating from them which might draw you in. This is especially true if you are mentally weak or insecure.

Silent killer. Such people usually understand psychology quite well. They use this knowledge to gradually introduce hatred, anger and low self-esteem in others. They do this by making remarks about how others behave or look. They know that their remarks are destructive, but others may not realise that.

For example, your friend casually implies that you should not wear this type of suit because it emphasizes your waist. Do you see the real intention behind the advice?

Another example could be such situation. You have just met your dream partner and you are in love with each other. You meet your friend and start conversation about your new partner. The friend makes such remark: ‘Hmm, I wonder what made her choose you…’

This kind of advice or statement makes you question your appearance and abilities which leads to low self-esteem and self-doubt.

The reason why silent killers act this way is because they are very insecure beings. Because of that, they want to make others feel as insecure as them. Getting others in such negative state gives them reassurance, control and satisfaction.

Drama queen This is the most common type. Their emotions range from anger to self-pity, and every small incident can be turned into the storm. They seem to like the fact that they can change how others feel and be the centres of attention.

Such people are needy and insecure, they crave for constant reassurance. They strive for attention and approval. If they don’t receive what they want, they begin acting in childish ways. They may start crying, throwing things around or trying to get on others’ nerves.

That eventually backfires on them. Once that happens, drama queens become scared and surprised by the reaction they caused. This way drama queens try to make others feel guilty and cruel.

This kind of behaviour is the result of neediness and low self esteem.

Woe is me. Such people love to talk about their failures to everyone who would listen. They do that purely to get attention and sympathy of others.

Many people do not realise that such unfortunate stories can do a lot of harm. You should stay away from such people because they will draw you in to their world of unfairness and unhappiness.

This especially applies if you are mentally weak. By listening to the stories of the ‘woe is me’ type, you are likely to start visualising their troubles and invite them into your own life.

The paranoid type. They perceive others to be constantly trying to worsen their lives. If they go shopping, they think that shopkeepers are trying to rip them off; If someone wants to befriend them, they think that s/he wants something in return for the friendship.

Many people who live in foreign countries fall into this type. Once they encounter one unfortunate situation when they are treated unfairly because they are foreign, they start to see unfairness everywhere. It may come to the stage where they would see that everyone is against them because of their skin colour or accent.

This negative attitude is mainly caused by self-doubt and poor self-image.

Trigger type. Such people seek ways to release their anger or self-pity. An example would be a person who gets into the conversation with someone who is sure to make him feel angry or hopeless. This way he destroys his mental balance and health.

Another example could be a person who tries to spark an argument. He starts accusing someone of doing something insignificant and continue with his/her accusations until another person finally breaks down.

By releasing their emotions they discharge their negativity and give some of their negative energy to the people they argue with.

These are the most common types of people with negative attitude. One person can have a mixture of several types, but then one type will be more prominent than others.
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Smokey1210 said:
Please explain how I attacked you! I was trying to have civil conversation. I have not attacked anyone. Like you said I was just wanting some intellectual conversation on the subject that actually answers the question.
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My first response to your thread was that I disagreed with the premise that reality is negative and you responded with "No! Your reality is an opinion of negativity if you choose to feel that way"
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We used to have the best board around. I do not think it is any better than GVX or TOS now. This site is watered down with too many people taking things personally and agruing over the smallest things. We are all Vol fans through and through. Some of us just happend to be glass-half-full while others are the opposite.

I can see both sides. Being real is not being negative. Given, there are a few on here you just have to ignore but that is said of the sunshine pumpers as well. Take it all in with a grain of salt. If your butt hurts that bad, probably best just not to say anything at all. If so, I am sure you will be called out over something idiotic said and the cycle goes on.

I, for one, am excited to see what happens this year but am on the fence. Time will tell and winning os the cure all. I stand in the middle and hope that the negavols are wrong and hope like hell the positive Betties are nice enough not to throw it in anyone's face.
 
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To answer the OP:

because as of right now, its really, really easy to be that way.

Anyone who knows anything about football has to try real hard to stay positive with all the ammo the negavols have. I still have hope, I just really dont know exactly why. GBO!!!!!
 
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VolBeef88 said:
I agree with almost everything you say here. Those topics have been discussed a lot on this site. I guess I should ask you why you focus on the threads that don't discuss the team strengths?
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Because I enjoy looking at the positives. I enjoy thinking this year could be the year that people stop thinking UT is in the cellar. I enjoy thinking that we have a "chance" at being the surprise team in the country this year. I like feeling excited sharing that with my son talking about how going to MS St this year and watching us get a good SEC road win while we are on our trip. It is just an enjoyable time of year. I don't like analyzing this team to try and temper down my excitement it feels good to look at the optimistic sides this year and every other year.
 
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