Not speaking to OP's exact situation, but is it healthier shoving it down deep, never talking about it, finding yourself constantly angry for no reason, then dying an early death of stress and heart attack...
That's the social engineering part. Telling men they can't be human. Gotta "man up" (because we're so special) and never show emotions (unless it's anger, fighting, screaming, yelling, all byproducts of keeping things buried deep). Men are just as emotional as women, if not more. But it's only socially accepted if it's some destructive, not therapeutic, outburst of emotion.
I get not wanting everyone to be eeyore. Totally. Goes for both sexes. But we men aren't special, we're just human. Folks should embrace their humanity, find real therapeutic solutions to their inner demons, and maybe they'd be less outrageous and abusive towards others. We can embrace our own humanity and show empathy for others in the meantime. It's not that wild a concept.