it's ok. we've been managing it for about 2.5 years. my grandma is a trooper, i'll tell you what. if nothing else i've truly learned the meaning of love and devotion through this process. no one would have blamed her if a year or so ago she would have put him in the nursing home, but she refuses. she manages all his care during the day and then at night someone stays so that she can sleep. mostly, she's admitted, she fears him dying in the middle of the night and her being the only one here, but also if we weren't here she'd never get any rest/peace.