Wow. A long hard road ahead. I have prayed that her faith will be sustained and that she will find her sufficiency in Christ.
A friend of mine caused the death of his son, and he found solace in this verse from 2 Corinthians.
But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.
He clung to a message he had heard about how the jar had to be cracked for the light of Christ to shine through. It was difficult but they made it through. I will pray that your family does also.