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#155
#155
VolNExile said:
Well, apparently the first step is to NEVER unpack your suitcase. 😁

But seriously folks (ba-dum pish), you just react, and take things one step at a time. And cuss and pray (currently in about equal measures, I’m afraid.) The end of life (they are 91 and 94) is part of life, and you just sort of honor and accept it all. And get rid of throw rugs and what-not.
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It is part of life, but the rollercoaster is rough and tough. My grandma rotated staying with my parents, my uncle, and my aunt each year when she could no longer live at home. It was nice but draining all at the same time. I think it was a relief when she got to the point she could no longer be rotated and needed full time care. But by that point she no longer remembered any of us.
 
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#158
volwindy said:
It is part of life, but the rollercoaster is rough and tough. My grandma rotated staying with my parents, my uncle, and my aunt each year when she could no longer live at home. It was nice but draining all at the same time. I think it was a relief when she got to the point she could no longer be rotated and needed full time care. But by that point she no longer remembered any of us.
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Yeah, I’m dreading that. Kudos to your family for keeping her at home as long as they could. It’s incredibly difficult.

My MIL is well down that road. A few weeks ago, she called Hubs, thinking he was her late husband, saying that she was at the store in Santa Monica at the corner of Pico and something-or-other, and he was 20 minutes late, and where was he? (She was out in the hallway in her jammies and robe.) That’s why she’s in AL, complete with a Wanderguard on her ankle that keeps the elevator doors from opening, and delays the fire doors for 15 seconds, long enough for a nurse to sprint down the hall. We can’t keep her safe at home, especially since she sundowns.

My mother doesn’t have dementia, but her short-term memory is fried after an unknown period of untreated hypertension. So although she’s rational and has reasonably good judgment, her coping skills when things occur (cable going out, etc.) are non-existent, as she can’t remember well enough to do problem-solving.

Hubs and I are pretty sure that we’d rather not make it much past 85 if this is what awaits us.
 
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#159
#159
VolNExile said:
Yeah, I’m dreading that. Kudos to your family for keeping her at home as long as they could. It’s incredibly difficult.

My MIL is well down that road. A few weeks ago, she called Hubs, thinking he was her late husband, saying that she was at the store in Santa Monica at the corner of Pico and something-or-other, and he was 20 minutes late, and where was he? (She was out in the hallway in her jammies and robe.) That’s why she’s in AL, complete with a Wanderguard on her ankle that keeps the elevator doors from opening, and delays the fire doors for 15 seconds, long enough for a nurse to sprint down the hall. We can’t keep her safe at home, especially since she sundowns.

My mother doesn’t have dementia, but her short-term memory is fried after an unknown period of untreated hypertension. So although she’s rational and has reasonably good judgment, her coping skills when things occur (cable going out, etc.) are non-existent, as she can’t remember well enough to do problem-solving.

Hubs and I are pretty sure that we’d rather not make it much past 85 if this is what awaits us.
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About 2 years ago, my mother called me in a panic. I was at work in Rockwood, her and Dad were in Farragut, babysitting my niece. Dad had apparently got ahold of car keys and was gone. An hour at that point. I searched up and down Kingston Pike for a couple of hours. Thank goodness, mom had alerted the police and they found him at a gas station, sitting in the car, confused. It is awful to see your parent or in law like that. You and your husband have a very difficult situation going on. It’s more difficult on the family member than the actual person, themselves.
 
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#162
VolNExile said:
Yeah, I’m dreading that. Kudos to your family for keeping her at home as long as they could. It’s incredibly difficult.

My MIL is well down that road. A few weeks ago, she called Hubs, thinking he was her late husband, saying that she was at the store in Santa Monica at the corner of Pico and something-or-other, and he was 20 minutes late, and where was he? (She was out in the hallway in her jammies and robe.) That’s why she’s in AL, complete with a Wanderguard on her ankle that keeps the elevator doors from opening, and delays the fire doors for 15 seconds, long enough for a nurse to sprint down the hall. We can’t keep her safe at home, especially since she sundowns.

My mother doesn’t have dementia, but her short-term memory is fried after an unknown period of untreated hypertension. So although she’s rational and has reasonably good judgment, her coping skills when things occur (cable going out, etc.) are non-existent, as she can’t remember well enough to do problem-solving.

Hubs and I are pretty sure that we’d rather not make it much past 85 if this is what awaits us.
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Kevin's SIL's dad felt the same way about 2 years ago in July. He had been diagnosed with dementia earlier in the year and committed suicide. I told Kevin I have to wonder if my parents would do the same after going through the care of my grandma and not wanting to go through it themselves. I don't know that they would or that they would even consider it a route, but would not be surprised.
 
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#163
volwindy said:
Kevin's SIL's dad felt the same way about 2 years ago in July. He had been diagnosed with dementia earlier in the year and committed suicide. I told Kevin I have to wonder if my parents would do the same after going through the care of my grandma and not wanting to go through it themselves. I don't know that they would or that they would even consider it a route, but would not be surprised.
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That’s really sad. Hope they can find a new cure like immunotherapy seems to be for cancer.
 
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#165
I just talked to the VA to find out about my consult. Everything is in Nashville, for them to set it up. One minor hitch. They also need the disc with my scans on it sent to Nashville also, so they can review them. So, I will be going to Knoxville one day this week (they want them this week) to pick them up. Would have been nice to know this earlier instead of me having to call and find out. Geez.
 
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#166
#166
Orangeredblooded said:
I just talked to the VA to find out about my consult. Everything is in Nashville, for them to set it up. One minor hitch. They also need the disc with my scans on it sent to Nashville also, so they can review them. So, I will be going to Knoxville one day this week (they want them this week) to pick them up. Would have been nice to know this earlier instead of me having to call and find out. Geez.
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I mean they can't go off of records? They actually have to see the scans? I guess so they have an opportunity to deny it if it looks fine.
 
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#170
Orangeredblooded said:
I just talked to the VA to find out about my consult. Everything is in Nashville, for them to set it up. One minor hitch. They also need the disc with my scans on it sent to Nashville also, so they can review them. So, I will be going to Knoxville one day this week (they want them this week) to pick them up. Would have been nice to know this earlier instead of me having to call and find out. Geez.
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Have you asked to see if they will transfer the files digitally? Or do you live close enough that it's not a problem for you to go get them?
 
#172
#172
Orangeredblooded said:
I just talked to the VA to find out about my consult. Everything is in Nashville, for them to set it up. One minor hitch. They also need the disc with my scans on it sent to Nashville also, so they can review them. So, I will be going to Knoxville one day this week (they want them this week) to pick them up. Would have been nice to know this earlier instead of me having to call and find out. Geez.
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What day are you going? Continuing prayers
 
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#173
#173
MyBloodRunnethOrange said:
I ran into the same thing at Vanderbilt. I had to get a copy of my disc from my local hospital, because they wouldn't send a copy to them. I don't know if it's about competition or what.
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Errbody just tryin to make things hard for us. Just came to get my CT scan and they said some financial company had my account blocked. They had to call IT to kick them out of my account.
 
#175
#175
vollygirl said:
Have you asked to see if they will transfer the files digitally? Or do you live close enough that it's not a problem for you to go get them?
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I live only 15 minutes away from Knoxville. I don't mind going to pick them up (enjoy the drive), it's the fact that they should have already called me. Damn, I'm getting aggravated again, going for a walk around the building.
 
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