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VolNExile said:
Even aside from the threat to staff, this guy has no business being around vulnerable elderly residents!

Go Superwoman on this one. Good luck!
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I think I sorta left out the part about how you and your staff should be able to feel reasonably safe at work, and that you should do whatever is necessary to protect yourselves, along with the residents. So yeah, absolutely do that!

And who knows, maybe this guy has a family who is trying to get help for him, and an official complaint will green light getting him into treatment. Win win.
 
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VolNExile said:
I think I sorta left out the part about how you and your staff should be able to feel reasonably safe at work, and that you should do whatever is necessary to protect yourselves, along with the residents. So yeah, absolutely do that!

And who knows, maybe this guy has a family who is trying to get help for him, and an official complaint will green light getting him into treatment. Win win.
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He has Asperger’s syndrome. Didn’t know when I hired him. References checked out but I saw flags after, I have a family member with autism. His mom knows, he doesn’t, and she’s never seeked out any kind of medical advice about it.
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
He has Asperger’s syndrome. Didn’t know when I hired him. References checked out but I saw flags after, I have a family member with autism. His mom knows, he doesn’t, and she’s never seeked out any kind of medical advice about it.
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Well damn. I can understand having empathy and trying to give him extra chances. But it seems those chances have passed.
 
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hmanvolfan said:
Of course you’re aware of workplace shootings done by disgruntled employees. This is a very dangerous situation. I agree with NorCal that the police should be made aware of the situation and if you have a carry permit then carry, if not have armed security in place. This whole thing is very scary to me, we can’t afford for you to get hurt. 😠
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h, I’m fine and will be. This is just a kid, He is just a mixed up one, have a lot of people around me, all the time. 😘. I was just spooked for a second, but I’m fine.
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
He has Asperger’s syndrome. Didn’t know when I hired him. References checked out but I saw flags after, I have a family member with autism. His mom knows, he doesn’t, and she’s never seeked out any kind of medical advice about it.
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That’s interesting. My son has Asperger’s. Graduated from ETSU Honors School, an incredibly gifted writer, tested at 150 IQ but they felt much higher (150 was upper limit on test), but is currently grossly underemployed working in retail at maybe 30 hours/ week, barely enough to get health insurance, due to being unable to understand how to play the corporate game. He is the kindest, gentlest person I know, and he puts me to shame, as I sure can’t claim any credit for the genuinely decent person that he is.

And this is typical for Aspies, who are typically balanced toward fairness and justice (which to them are simple common sense.) But at some point, the frustration over “Why can’t I fit in?” and “Why don’t girls like me?” and “Why don’t my bosses see what I have to give?” can certainly break them.

His mom needs to suck it up and inform him/ work with him about Asperger’s. He most certainly knows that he is different from others, no doubt figuring that it’s a failure on his part, and he needs to know why that is (it’s not a failure on his part; he is wired differently from others) and how to make adjustments in his life to reduce friction with neurotypicals.

Anyway, I hope that SOMEONE intervenes in this mess to both reduce any danger to others as well as to help him find some sort of comfortable place in which he can be himself without causing concern among others.
 
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VolNExile said:
That’s interesting. My son has Asperger’s. Graduated from ETSU Honors School, an incredibly gifted writer, tested at 150 IQ but they felt much higher (150 was upper limit on test), but is currently grossly underemployed working in retail at maybe 30 hours/ week, barely enough to get health insurance, due to being unable to understand how to play the corporate game. He is the kindest, gentlest person I know, and he puts me to shame, as I sure can’t claim any credit for the genuinely decent person that he is.

And this is typical for Aspies, who are typically balanced toward fairness and justice (which to them are simple common sense.) But at some point, the frustration over “Why can’t I fit in?” and “Why don’t girls like me?” and “Why don’t my bosses see what I have to give?” can certainly break them.

His mom needs to suck it up and inform him/ work with him about Asperger’s. He most certainly knows that he is different from others, no doubt figuring that it’s a failure on his part, and he needs to know why that is (it’s not a failure on his part; he is wired differently from others) and how to make adjustments in his life to reduce friction with neurotypicals.

Anyway, I hope that SOMEONE intervenes in this mess to both reduce any danger to others as well as to help him find some sort of comfortable place in which he can be himself without causing concern among others.
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my nephew is incredible smart, we saw that from an age, but wasn’t emotional connected to any of us. He wasn’t no where near “Rain Man” He could show his affection to his dad, but seemed out of sync with the rest of family. The only way I got to him, Watergate salad. He wandered into the kitchen, during one Christmas, and started watching me, at some point asked me “Aunt Jenny, you making that green stuff?” I didn’t know it was something he liked. He’s 25 now and still struggles.
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
my nephew is incredible smart, we saw that from an age, but wasn’t emotional connected to any of us. He wasn’t no where near “Rain Man” He could show his affection to his dad, but seemed out of sync with the rest of family. The only way I got to him, Watergate salad. He wandered into the kitchen, during one Christmas, and started watching me, at some point asked me “Aunt Jenny, you making that green stuff?” I didn’t know it was something he liked. He’s 25 now and still struggles.
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That’s a great example of why they call it Autism Spectrum Disorder. It runs the gamut (the “spectrum”) of those who are profoundly disabled, locked into their own interior world, banging their heads against the wall), through Rain Man, to somewhat better functioning with normal or above-normal intellect, to people like my son, brilliant but as if he came from another planet (maybe he belongs in the previous category), to basically normal, but goofy and suffering from serious and endless foot-in-mouth syndrome, due to their blindness to social clues.

They tend to do well on social media, as they can finally interact with others without the agony (no exaggeration, it really is) of physical, eye-to-eye contact.

It seems to be genetic, as it runs in families, and it has increased in the US population as one goofy nerd finds another goofy nerd and reproduces. Sheldon Cooper in “Big Bang Theory” is Aspie (very exaggerated). From a coldly pragmatic view, it would be useful to know more Aspies, as their brains work in unusual ways and could provide unique insights.

So meanwhile, as one would post on other forums, “for full disclosure”, I’m very much on the spectrum, and my former husband (my son’s father) is an Aspie, both of us taking forever to find our places in the world. I don’t think that many people understand what it’s like to be different unless they are different themselves.
 
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VolNExile said:
No, we haven’t. We are incredibly lame at getting out and exploring things nearby, but we keep telling ourselves that we will get our thumbs out of our whatevers and get going!

Are you guys thinking of going up there?
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We've been trying to think of something to do for a weekend getaway when she's feeling up to it. I was looking at hot springs Arkansas earlier just for maybe next year if we go out west again. Saw the one in NC, and got to wondering, she said she'd like to see it.
 
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joevol33 said:
We've been trying to think of something to do for a weekend getaway when she's feeling up to it. I was looking at hot springs Arkansas earlier just for maybe next year if we go out west again. Saw the one in NC, and got to wondering, she said she'd like to see it.
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I’ve heard great things about it, but I have no personal info. 1580444188058.gif

I think that any time you get out of the house and go free-ranging up the roads, it’s probably a good thing!
 
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Which she could lay back and rest while I drive. She gets worn out "doing stuff".
 
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Like if we go to the beach, after a little while she's gotta go lay down
 
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