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If ever been married, have you had a marriage that ended in divorce?


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Wow. What is bad enough to walk away after 18 years plus however many before marriage?
You would have to ask her, she said she never really connected with me and the marriage fell apart (This is what she told me, I assume there is more). It's a long sad story, like any marriage that fails.
We dated for a little over a year before we got married. That's a long time to be with someone and then they are gone. This is why I have a hard time saying I'd do it again.
 
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You would have to ask her, she said she never really connected with me and the marriage fell apart (This is what she told me, I assume there is more). It's a long sad story, like any marriage that fails.
We dated for a little over a year before we got married. That's a long time to be with someone and then they are gone. This is why I have a hard time saying I'd do it again.

Wow. Hard to understand how she could stay married to someone that she "never really connected with". Seems that you find that out early on and split or after 18 years of marriage just accept it.

I can understand not wanting to do it again though.

Best of luck to you. :hi:
 
Wow. Hard to understand how she could stay married to someone that she "never really connected with". Seems that you find that out early on and split or after 18 years of marriage just accept it.

I can understand not wanting to do it again though.

Best of luck to you. :hi:
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I heard that same connection bull****. Just means the ***** connected with somebody else. Get over it. I have. 14 years and now we need to split. Really??????

There is no reason to trust anyone ever again. Deal with, but never trust. This **** happened right under my nose while I was "in love". :lol: . What a jackass! Never again. Not in a million years. HD&BG from now on.

Let me get this straight. So she used the "not connected" angle on you after 14 years and three children. Asks you for a divorce on your birthday. Doesn't tell you what is up for a month after that. You have a weekend that is kind of a make-up weekend. Then, it comes to light that she has been fooling around or banging another guy on the side which would explain why she is "not connected" to you. On top of that, she has been getting suspiciously more religious out of guilt and using that new found religion not have sex with you?

Am I getting that right?
 
Let me get this straight. So she used the "not connected" angle on you after 14 years and three children. Asks you for a divorce on your birthday. Doesn't tell you what is up for a month after that. You have a weekend that is kind of a make-up weekend. Then, it comes to light that she has been fooling around or banging another guy on the side which would explain why she is "not connected" to you. On top of that, she has been getting suspiciously more religious out of guilt and using that new found religion not have sex with you?

Am I getting that right?
Same thing happened to me. Twice. It's what they do.
 
Let me get this straight. So she used the "not connected" angle on you after 14 years and three children. Asks you for a divorce on your birthday. Doesn't tell you what is up for a month after that. You have a weekend that is kind of a make-up weekend. Then, it comes to light that she has been fooling around or banging another guy on the side which would explain why she is "not connected" to you. On top of that, she has been getting suspiciously more religious out of guilt and using that new found religion not have sex with you?

Am I getting that right?

If this is what happened. Go find one of hot friends and start banging her. In your own house. And make sure she knows it
 
Let me get this straight. So she used the "not connected" angle on you after 14 years and three children. Asks you for a divorce on your birthday. Doesn't tell you what is up for a month after that. You have a weekend that is kind of a make-up weekend. Then, it comes to light that she has been fooling around or banging another guy on the side which would explain why she is "not connected" to you. On top of that, she has been getting suspiciously more religious out of guilt and using that new found religion not have sex with you?

Am I getting that right?
No proof of an actual boyfriend. Just reading the signs. Spot on with the rest though. The sex deal was more or less she would do it, but it would not be any feeling in it for her. No love involved, so to speak. Who the hell wants sex like that? Certainly not I. I have no good explanation as to why/when/how we got "disconnected", but that is right from her mouth. I just can't believe my marriage & family life is over. I did not want this or try to make it happen. It just imploded right in my face, while I was here. She evaulated me, decided she was better of without me, and THEN she informed me. It has all the strategic mastery of an MI6 operative. By far her most impressive undertaking (@ least that I know of anyway :) ). Never again for me.
 
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No proof of an actual boyfriend. Just reading the signs. Spot on with the rest though. The sex deal was more or less she would do it, but it would not be any feeling in it for her. No love involved, so to speak. Who the hell wants sex like that? Certainly not I. I have no good explanation as to why/ when/how we got "disconnected", but that is right from her mouth. I just can't believe my marriage & family life is over. I did not want this or try to make it happen. It just imploded right in my face, while I was here. She evaulated me, decided she was better of without me, and THEN she informed me. It has all the strategic mastery of an MI6 operative. By far her most impressive undertaking (@ least that I know of anyway :) ). Never again for me.

has she actually filed for divorce, and started the process
 
The latest stat I've seen is that around 45% of all marriages end in divorce. I'm interested to see where VN falls.

If you have gotten married at some point in your life, did you have a marriage that resulted in divorce?

If you have never tied the knot, then don't vote 'No' in the poll. :hi:

Note: the results of this poll are private.

I was married for 13 years to my first wife. It was awful for the last 8 years, but I tried to keep it together. I ended up hating her. I have been remarried now for 13 years next month, to an absolute angel. I will never have to go through that crap again. I think the trick is to marry the right (not perfect) person for you.
 
Everyday without my wife (though I sleep "next" to her) makes it easier to be without her. Now I am considering my options. Hard to go back on some of the things she has said. Maybe it is time for a change of scenery. Who knows......
 
Hang in there brother. Don't give up hope. The revelation you had about being yourself is a good start as you have to come at the relationship as a whole person. Then, if you love her in the emotional sense, love her with your actions. The reason a lot of us are recommending Fire Proof and the book The Love Dare is because it requires the person to do things for the other person for 40 days straight. The things are small at first and get bigger as you go along. The idea is that your actions will speak louder than words.

Don't quit, this is important.
 
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