Leaving husband of 40 years: "Will I still be entitled to half his pension?"

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Rasputin_Vol said:
Apparently, in England you get half. I'm not so sure that isn't also the case in some states here.
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Not to sound Sexiest but why are women entitled to anything they didnt earn? Take what you bring to a relationship. If the man earns the most money, buys all the crap he should leave with all the crap. house included. Same thing to be said for the woman...
 
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Dudleys87 said:
Not to sound Sexiest but why are women entitled to anything they didnt earn? Take what you bring to a relationship. If the man earns the most money, buys all the crap he should leave with all the crap. house included. Same thing to be said for the woman...
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yea, you can do that with a prenup
 
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Just a note of clarification: NHS refers to a system in the United Kingdom. Divorce laws here are different so keep that in mind when reading the article.
 
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I was having this argument the other day. Why does the wife "sacrificing her career" automatically earn her half her husbands assets? Like Juanita Jordan. Are we to believe she would have earned hundreds of millions had she been a career woman and not rode Jordan's coat tails?

It's a pretty ridiculous system, and if government backed the hell off all of this would be predetermined with contracts. If there's no legal standard for sorting this on the back end it forces people to do a prenuptial. As it stands, prenuptials are kind of frowned upon, and are "un-romantic" but truthfully, every marriage should have a prenup.
 
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n_huffhines said:
I was having this argument the other day. Why does the wife "sacrificing her career" automatically earn her half her husbands assets? Like Juanita Jordan. Are we to believe she would have earned hundreds of millions had she been a career woman and not rode Jordan's coat tails?

It's a pretty ridiculous system, and if government backed the hell off all of this would be predetermined with contracts. If there's no legal standard for sorting this on the back end it forces people to do a prenuptial. As it stands, prenuptials are kind of frowned upon, and are "un-romantic" but truthfully, every marriage should have a prenup.
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This. Some people want to say that you're dooming the marriage from the start but I think that's bs. Men have to protect themselves with the way things are.
 
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It's one thing to split assets but to have any right to a persons retirement pension is ridiculous.
 
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So if a male soldier is married for 10 years while in the service and divorces anytime after that, his ex-wife is entitled to half of his pension for the rest of his life and survivor benefit plan if she lives longer than he does (which is normally half of the pension).

I've never heard of it going the other way around, though I know many female soldiers with husbands at home. Maybe it has been tested, but the common thought was that the "house-husband" would have a difficult time collecting half of the pension if they divorced.

Yeah, it isn't fair.
 
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Yes ,She will get AT Least half your money . The MORAL of the story is , " Don't marry some goofy Biatch that is gonna take half your money "
 
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Dudleys87 said:
Not to sound Sexiest but why are women entitled to anything they didnt earn? Take what you bring to a relationship. If the man earns the most money, buys all the crap he should leave with all the crap. house included. Same thing to be said for the woman...
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word so true
 
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I really feel sorry for the guy on another level. Basically, if the answer to her question is "no", then that means that she'll probably just stay around in a marriage just for the security and comfort that the husband is able to provide for her, even though she doesn't love him.terrible position to be locked in to... you've been together 40 years and she doesn't love you enough to stick it out the rest of your lives together. Sad state of affairs.
 
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I have a buddy that just finalized a divorce after 30 years of marriage. No cheating, no abuse. Just two people that had run out of gas for each other and decided to move on.

He was the bread winner of the family. She was a home maker and took on small jobs over the years for extra cash and to get out of the house while the kids were in school.

She was awarded half of his pension benefits in the settlement. Half of everything.
 
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UT IE 95 said:
I have a buddy that just finalized a divorce after 30 years of marriage. No cheating, no abuse. Just two people that had run out of gas for each other and decided to move on.

He was the bread winner of the family. She was a home maker and took on small jobs over the years for extra cash and to get out of the house while the kids were in school.

She was awarded half of his pension benefits in the settlement. Half of everything.
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He was ok with that??? I'm not saying she doesn't deserve any of his pension but 50% seems too much, especially if he is still working and adding to his pension.
 
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when two people build a life together, then wouldnt it be right for them to split it equally. i could only be cold hearted about this if there was an infidelity on her part, or mine for that reason only , could you be right in not wanting to split equally. any other reason would be childish and simply put prickish.
 
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