Help!! need advice from married men with kids

#126
#126
I have kids and I dont want them being influenced by ELMO . Take the kids to the game and they will be Tennessee fans . They will thank you for it later .
 
#127
#127
Vols fan or not, the kids have to come first. You will thank yourself later. Take every chance you get to spend time with them. They grow up faster than you know.
 
#128
#128
as has been stated, you're going to have to chalk this up as a loss. Your wife will gradually get the idea that it is best not to schedule stuff like this on saturday afternoons during the fall. Basically, you have tell her that in the future, when there is an event like this with like 8 different show times over the course of the weekend, that Saturdays are not an option. I have a two year old and am faced with the same stuff every weekend. There are some steps that I have devised to preempt these disputes in the future though.

1.) Plan some REAL family time every Saturday from the time you wake up (I get my girls up at 7am just to really get the show on the road) until noon or so. This involves missing College Gameday but those guys suck really bad anyway. Do things like cook a big breakfast, go to the park, whatever. This is just so the wife can't throw it in your face later that you have been watching football all day.

2.) Always make big plans for Sundays as well during the times that your NFL team isn't playing. This should mean that you make yourself available up to 75% of the day on Sunday as well. She can't complain about that.

3.) Off weeks for the Vols as well as games like Ohio are your real opportunity to shine. This is when you plan, well in advance, a big family weekend with stuff like Elmo or a trip to freaking Dollywood, whatever. Don't mention that it is an off-week and say stuff leading up to it like "i'm so excited about getting to spend this weekend with you all, etc. Really hash it up.

4.) If she is still slow catching on, recommend that she start going to the spa or doing something like that for herself on Saturday mornings while you watch the kids. This gets expensive, otherwise it would be the first option. If she spends several hours at the spa on Saturday, break out the Dickel at noon b/c the rest of your day is bulletproof.
 
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#132
#132
kcvols1 said:
I got 2 kids under 3. Given that you don't have tickets for the game, just dvr it and watch it afterward.

They play this game every year. Your kids are only young once. Soon enough you won't be able to get them to spend any time with you at all.

However, if you don't dress your kids up head to toe in orange to watch the game, then you are a total vahj!

Please be advised that I am totally going to rag on you to my friends in attendance at the game.

Chances are that you will be far mor entertained than I by 4pm Saturday.

Say hey to Dorothy the goldfish for me.
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This pretty much sums it up. It won't be long until they dont want to do anything like this again...
The thing I try to do is tell my wife at some point during the week what time the game comes on to avoid scheduling things during the game.

BTW, I've taken my daughter to Sesame St. live and Disney on ice and I wouldn't trade it for ANYTHING. It'll be worth it!
 
#134
#134
How long could an Elmo show be? The game isn't until 3:30p, so even if the show is an hour, you could be in the car and listening to the game on the radio by kickoff.
 
#135
#135
Nobody on the football team is gonna pick your nursing home. Go see elmo with the kids.

FWIW, I'm going to a wedding too. Husband's neice is getting married. It might be the only bright spot to the day, dancing with husband and eating cake. We'll come home and watch the recorded game and make the most of it.
 
#136
#136
Look on the bright side. While you're watching Elmo, you won't have to be concerned about the Grouch knocking him down repeatedly and jumping up and down and celebrating everytime he does it, while laughing screaming rednecks hang out of every window of Sesame Street.
 
#137
#137
Tivo it and take your happy hiney to Elmo. It sounds like you're worse at the dad thing than you are the football thing. Turn the ship around.
 
#138
#138
You won't find anyone that supports UT more than me and my family. We rarely missed a home game travelling 12 hours round trip 6 or 7 Saturdays every fall.

The last several seasons we have been giving our tickets away (when people would take them) and watching more in the comfort of our home.

You've had some good advice in this thread and some not-so-good advice. My two cents would be to record it. MAKE SURE YOU RECORD THE SHOW ON AFTER THE GAME TOO.

Actually I will be doing that too. My son has a commitment Saturday at 3:00. I missed his flag football game last Saturday morning to drive to Knoxville (sheesh). I won't be doing that again.

Football is every season - your kids being young and going to Elmo has a limited window.
 
#139
#139
I am married and have two young sons (4) & (1). This is your own fault my friend. You should have laid the ground work months ago. My wife understands that Saturdays in the fall are for football. You should have been telling her this since January, suck it up and go to Elmo, lesson learned for next season. You won't want to watch this game anyway.
 
#140
#140
In the future i'd hope you would print out a schedule and explain to your wife that these days are not negotiable. if she gets pissy remind her it's only 12 days out of the year. unless she's a complete ***** this wont be a problem in the future.
 
#141
#141
Take the kids to the show. It means more to them than you know. Highlights will be on ESPN for at least 2 days.
 
#142
#142
GAVol said:
I'm with you. I skipped out on the Wiggles last year and I still haven't experienced remorse.
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Seriously, I love my kids, but ELMO??? C'mon. I don't think there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth if you miss it on your part. I know I had no regrets for missing the Dora show 3 years ago.

Sounds to me like you need to take every opportunity to find your wife a best friend that will be her FIRST option when things like this come up! Trust me, I haven't seen a chick-flick in 10 years because I am NOT the first option every time "Sex and the City" comes out.

And, for you promise-keepers out there, I have been married for 12 years and my wife and I have a wonderful relationship because we recognze the differences between us, but still make time for ourselves.

Damn, sorry, just realized I got all Dr. Phil on the board. How bout them Vols?

Uh... Nevermind.

BTW, going to ELMO will give you a permanent tick.
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#143
#143
Chat_Town VOL said:
I am married and have two young sons (4) & (1). This is your own fault my friend. You should have laid the ground work months ago. My wife understands that Saturdays in the fall are for football. You should have been telling her this since January, suck it up and go to Elmo, lesson learned for next season. You won't want to watch this game anyway.
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#144
#144
My credentials: Married w/ children, all girls ages 11, 9 and 4. We live in TX, so getting to go to a TN game is a special treat and not a regular occurance.

Think long term here. Go to Elmo with the kids. Record the game or find a way to watch it online afterwards. If TN wins, that will be tough on you, but again we are thinking long term. Then, buy tickets for your family to next year's Florida vs TN game in Knoxville. Make a family trip out of it. Spend a day in the East TN mountains with your family (or something else that your wife would love to do) and then take them to the game including the pre-game festivities. You have a whole year to get your family excited about the trip, which could include watching a few games on tv this year. If we win that game at home Neyland will be a madhouse. Your whole family will love TN football after that experience. Short term loss... long term win. Make sure you get a pic of the kids with Smokey!
 
#145
#145
start getting sick today... and let it progress till the weekend... sore throat, night sweats, coughing and by Saturday you are just to sick to get out of bed...even maybe take a day off work on Friday cus you feel so sick... it will be worth it in the end...
 
#146
#146
TENN said:
alrighty, i just started getting into college football last season (still a lot to learn) but anyway my wife has not picked up the concept im REALLY getting into it..

so a few minutes ago she comes to me and says,, i got free tickets to go see elmo live for the kids (we dont take our kids out much) so i was like ok thats cool when is it, she response back its Saturday at 2:30... i was like %#$^&@*#^% no, so now she is pulling the guilt trip

wtf do i do.. i cant miss this game after all the tension

unless your married with kids you may not understand..
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Put your skirt on and DVR it.

:hi:
 
#147
#147
my wife told me yesterday we have a wedding to go to on Sat. I said what time? She said WHY? I said TN plays FL at 3.. End of conversation....lol
 
#148
#148
TENN said:
alrighty, i just started getting into college football last season (still a lot to learn) but anyway my wife has not picked up the concept im REALLY getting into it..

so a few minutes ago she comes to me and says,, i got free tickets to go see elmo live for the kids (we dont take our kids out much) so i was like ok thats cool when is it, she response back its Saturday at 2:30... i was like %#$^&@*#^% no, so now she is pulling the guilt trip

wtf do i do.. i cant miss this game after all the tension

unless your married with kids you may not understand..
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Ouch! That is a tough one for me because my wife is as big of a UT fan as I and my boys favorite thing to watch is football. I would never have been put in this situation. :ermm:

Look at it this way though... As much as it will hurt you to do it, go with the kids & wife, make them happy & god don't complain about missing the game because it will just make wifey feel guilty. The game is just 3 hours on a Saturday, you've got to live with wifey & the kids for the rest of your life.

Besides, I don't think you're gonna be missing much IMHO.
 
#149
#149
Take the kids to Elmo. My son is graduating next year (and sadly will be attending FSU) and I would give anything to be able to have some of those times back that I lost because of football or any other thing. Families HAVE to take priority.
 
#150
#150
martyvols said:
Take the kids to Elmo. My son is graduating next year (and sadly will be attending FSU) and I would give anything to be able to have some of those times back that I lost because of football or any other thing. Families HAVE to take priority.
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Agreed.

I'll either be taking my son to an air show or birthday party Saturday. I have to say my wife and I scheduled our wedding around football season.
 
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