Guys, I need some honest help..

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volmanic

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So I have been married for 4 months. Sure, it's had it's rocky bottoms but this morning it just got alot worse. My wife, wanted to head out and go shopping today. She wanted me to go with her, and when I didnt show concern for going, she made me feel horrible about it. Say's I would let her walk out of the door over football. That I would rather spend the day watching football than with her my wife. Football is only a few short months out of the year. Is it so bad for me to want to stay home and watch this huge game? It was a huge argument and she just left very pissed off at me. NOT GOOD!!!

What in the world should I do?
 
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Have supper cooked or take her out to a resturant and sit where you can see the tvs. Then monday first thing i would go out and GET A DVR
 
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volmanic said:
So I have been married for 4 months. Sure, it's had it's rocky bottoms but this morning it just got alot worse. My wife, wanted to head out and go shopping today. She wanted me to go with her, and when I didnt show concern for going, she made me feel horrible about it. Say's I would let her walk out of the door over football. That I would rather spend the day watching football than with her my wife. Football is only a few short months out of the year. Is it so bad for me to want to stay home and watch this huge game? It was a huge argument and she just left very pissed off at me. NOT GOOD!!!

What in the world should I do?
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Man, I'm not even hitched yet and my fiance' does the same kind of crap to me today....It's a woman thing, she will get over it if you make it up to her somehow down the road...She will understand soon enough, I know mine has lol

That being said DVR is a beautiful thing but I know, its not the same as watching it live because chances are someone will ruin it and tell you what happend
 
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LOL, welcome to the world of Marriage, it's all about give and take bro. The game has not even started. Get your butt up and go with her. Just tell her you need to be back in time for the game. If not tape it. It's a lot cheaper then getting a divorce.
 
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Invite friends over to watch the game.. when she comes home she will be so glad you planed a party that she will forget and forgive everything
 
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Tell her no dude wants to go shopping unless hes gay and this is the Florida/Tennessee game.
 
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Start early. Turn the same argument on her and act indignant that she would deign to go shopping and not share this nearly religious experience with you.
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There's an old Motley Crue song that fits:

Girl, don't go away mad, girl, just go away.
 
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Sounds like she needs to grow up a little. Not trying to be mean, but you MARRIED her for the rest of her life I assume. The mall will still be there tomorrow. Call her cell and tell her to spend an extra $100 bucks (if you can afford it). And you might want to tell her she knew you were a Vol fan when she married you.
 
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personally, if I was a TN fan, might be less painful/problematic in the long run, to go shopping with her today?
 
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AllVols said:
LOL, welcome to the world of Marriage, it's all about give and take bro. The game has not even started. Get your butt up and go with her. Just tell her you need to be back in time for the game. If not tape it. It's a lot cheaper then getting a divorce.
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So simple, even a caveman can do it.
 
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Sounds like you married the wrong person. If she doesn't like you for being you, then what's the point?

My wife hates football, but she's going to watch the baby today while I go to the game with an old friend. She's even going to give me a ride down there and pick me up. Because she knows its important to me.

I'll have to make it up to her of course, she knows i will because I love her.

Compassion and understanding are key in a marriage. If you don't have that, after just 4 short months, then...

You sir, are totally screwed.

Good luck today.
 
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Did she not know you were a football fan before you got married?

Seems kind of a petty thing to be upset about. But in any case, It sounds like you better go and track her down. Wanting to watch this ass-whupping is no reason to piss away your marriage.
 
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It is a woman thing, sadly. We get our panties in a wad, and most of the time we know it isn't rational but we do it anyway. It could be a little bit of a control thing, but being newlyweds, I'd say it's more just a little bit of hurt feelings on her part. Us women would like to think you guys would walk to the end of the earth for us. And if we really needed you to you would. We just have a flair for the dramatic some days.

My suggestion is this: When she comes back, calmly ask if you can compromise and would she watch a little bit of the games with you and then later you'd love to do something that she really likes doing. 50/50 chance that will work. And not knowing anything about your relationship that may be way off base.

Biggest help will time for her to pout and get over it. My husband knows how much time it takes for me to get over certain things. LOL No matter what he does to try to fix it, sometimes I just wanna sulk for a little while. I'm not proud of it, but at least we both recognize what's happening and I'm slowly decreasing the amount of time it takes me to get over.

Sorry for writing a book. lol
 
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Honestly, I've been put in the same situation and I learned there is really nothing you can do. It really depends on how she reacts to talking. If she can carry on a conversation without getting defensive, I would just sit her down and explain that she should understand you a little better. She's known for a while that you want to watch football. But also, you want to suck up a little so it won't happen again. Say something along the lines of "I'd do anything for you, I'd go anywhere with you, your my everything" Type stuff.

Also, taking her out to eat tonight couldn't hurt, if you can't afford it, have some candles lit on the table and some food cooking when she gets home
 
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So, I fell victim to something like this. Basically, my wife was upset that I would make sure every single thing was perfectly setup for the games (make sure I have backup taping going on, make 100% positive I will be getting the game up here, have just the right foods, be wearing clothes in a certain order for a few days, talking about it nonstop, etc.), but that I rarely, if ever, did anything with that much meticulousness with regard to her or for her.

She had a point. Once she expressed it to me that way I had a much better idea of why she would get upset that I would spend an entire day watching football. So, I invite her to watch the games with me now, of course, but I also try to actually *plan* things for her sometime during the week (even if it is planning a dinner and executing things out with actual planning).

The same thing might be going on with you. There's nothing wrong with wanting to devote a day to watching your game. You should be able to do that without a fight. But, it may require work on your part at some other time to avoid that fight or hurt feelings.....

Alternatively, you could just slap the b****. :)
 
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Think about it. After watching the game for ten minutes you will be asking yourself why you are watching it. If you tape the game after hearing the final score you won't even bother to watch the first down.
 
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You know the saying "Vols before Ho's"

BTW, this Football issue should have been settled long before the ring my friend.
 
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AFL2008 said:
Sounds like you married the wrong person. If she doesn't like you for being you, then what's the point?
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Sweetie, you need some coffee. Quick.

AFL2008 said:
My wife hates football, but she's going to watch the baby today while I go to the game with an old friend. She's even going to give me a ride down there and pick me up. Because she knows its important to me.

I'll have to make it up to her of course, she knows i will because I love her.

Compassion and understanding are key in a marriage. If you don't have that, after just 4 short months, then...

You sir, are totally screwed.

Good luck today.
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Nah. She's just still in the moonlight and roses phase of being married. This is a minor bump in the road.
 
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