Growing Up

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Volsfan895

Volsfan895

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Im about a month away from turning 16 now, and I find myself starting to have anxiety of having to "grow up"....im just 2 years from having to decide which college to attend. The scariest thing is leaving home- If anyone had/has this fear please give me some advice
 
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the best thing is just to follow your heart and pray. Also you will continue to learn that your parents really do know a lot more than you realize. Trust them. And then trust them some more.
 
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no reason to be scared right now u got the rest of your life for that...take the next 2 years and enjoy the helll out of them...talk to everyone have no enemies dont waste time ono pity grudges....experience all the things u can right now that u want be able to later
 
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volfanbill said:
the best thing is just to follow your heart and pray. Also you will continue to learn that your parents really do know a lot more than you realize. Trust them. And then trust them some more.
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Unfortunately I will for once agree with this dude. :p Listen to the parents, they might suggest something that you don't want to do, when in the end its the best situation for you in the long run, whether that is on a personal level, financial level, etc.
 
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volwindy said:
Unfortunately I will for once agree with this dude. :p Listen to the parents, they might suggest something that you don't want to do, when in the end its the best situation for you in the long run, whether that is on a personal level, financial level, etc.
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it scares me sometimes how much i wind up falling back on advice that my dad has given me throughout life even if i thought it was dumb when he said it. I even find myself adjusting my beliefs on my own only to realize I'm becoming more like him. These days though, I'm glad i'm headed in that direction.
 
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My advice is to know when to hold 'em. Know when to fold 'em. Know when to walk away. Know when to run. And by all means, never count your money while sitting at the table. There will be time enough for counting when the dealing is done.
 
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GAVol said:
My advice is to know when to hold 'em. Know when to fold 'em. Know when to walk away. Know when to run. And by all means, never count your money while sitting at the table. There will be time enough for counting when the dealing is done.
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so in short, listen to Kenny Rogers?

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volfanbill said:
it scares me sometimes how much i wind up falling back on advice that my dad has given me throughout life even if i thought it was dumb when he said it. I even find myself adjusting my beliefs on my own only to realize I'm becoming more like him. These days though, I'm glad i'm headed in that direction.
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Yeah I sometimes still don't necessarily want to take their advice, still being stubborn, but those occurances are becoming less and less.
 
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There just so happens to be a Bruce Springsteen song about this very subject.
 
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Volsfan895 said:
Im about a month away from turning 16 now, and I find myself starting to have anxiety of having to "grow up"....im just 2 years from having to decide which college to attend. The scariest thing is leaving home- If anyone had/has this fear please give me some advice
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Relax. No one is going to expect you to magically transform into a mature adult over the next 2, 3, or 4 years. Adults aren't lying when they tell you to enjoy this time in your life...it should be fun and free of anxiety. Don't overwhelm yourself with this kind of stress. I promise, you're overthinking things.

And, it's natural to worry about moving away from home...but you're not leaving forever. You'll come back on some weekends, breaks, holidays, summers...hell, you may even move back home after college. The point is, while your living arrangements may change, your relationship with your family will not be adversely affected.

My first day away from home at college was miserable. But, my 2nd day (and every day thereafter) was awesome...it didn't take me long to realize how great it was to be independent and free to make my own decisions. And, if your freedom doesn't take your mind away from being homesick, the girls at college will.

You don't know it yet, but these next 5 years are going to be the most exciting years that you've ever had.
 
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kptvol said:
There just so happens to be a Bruce Springsteen song about this very subject.
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i would definitely take Kenny's advice over the Boss's.

I mean Kenny Rogers sang Islands in the Stream with Dolly. He obviously grew up right...
 
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GAVol said:
My advice is to know when to hold 'em. Know when to fold 'em. Know when to walk away. Know when to run. And by all means, never count your money while sitting at the table. There will be time enough for counting when the dealing is done.
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She BeliEEEEEEEEEves in me! :)
 
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I'm about in the same boat as you. I'll be 19 in July & right now I'm not in school & don't have a job. I'm going to UT when I get the money but first I'll have to go through community college for a year or two & then transfer.

My truck is broken down right but I'm hoping it will be fixed in a week or two, then I'll look for a job.

I could go to Bama but there's not a snowball's chance in hell I'm going there.
 
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To quote No Country for Old Men, "Whatcha got ain't nothin new. This country's hard on people, you can't stop what's coming, it ain't all waiting on you. That's vanity."

You can't try to always be in control. Bad things are going to happen but you have to roll with the punches. I'm just now on the other side of where you are now and the best advice I could give is to do what I did because of advice given to me, and that is to just enjoy the time, have no worries, and have no regrets. You're going to fail tests, you're going to have a wreck, you're going to be under lots of pressure, you're going to be asked to experiment with things, but that just makes you human. Everyone has survived what you're about to go through. Just try to minimize your mistakes by learning from others mistakes. I always made it a point to not make the same mistake I just watched someone else make. Finally just remember that you will live through whatever tough times you come across, so try not to get too stressed...it really, honestly, isn't worth it. It's hard to see it now, but one day in a couple years you'll look back and not even remember what you were stressed about at the time.

Just keep your head up and be a leader.
 
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Oh and stay away from girls. They provide much more harm than good. Wait as long as possible before getting sucked into that endless cycle. You'll have plenty of time to find a nice girl once you get to college. You don't want to just be some girls meal plan all through high school then move on.
 
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Jaytrain5 said:
Relax. No one is going to expect you to magically transform into a mature adult over the next 2, 3, or 4 years. Adults aren't lying when they tell you to enjoy this time in your life...it should be fun and free of anxiety. Don't overwhelm yourself with this kind of stress. I promise, you're overthinking things.

And, it's natural to worry about moving away from home...but you're not leaving forever. You'll come back on some weekends, breaks, holidays, summers...hell, you may even move back home after college. The point is, while your living arrangements may change, your relationship with your family will not be adversely affected.

My first day away from home at college was miserable. But, my 2nd day (and every day thereafter) was awesome...it didn't take me long to realize how great it was to be independent and free to make my own decisions. And, if your freedom doesn't take your mind away from being homesick, the girls at college will.

You don't know it yet, but these next 5 years are going to be the most exciting years that you've ever had.
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I agree with this, and add to it that your parents might seem geeky and boring but in truth they would both battle a grizzly bear bare handed just to give you time to escape. Also where you are now they've already been...footprints in the sand. Yes the styles change from decade to decade but the same morals are consistant, keep in mind where you are they've already been. Be smart and do what they tell you.
 
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I'm 26 and I still haven't grown up. You've got plenty of time, kid. :hi:
 
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RockyTop572 said:
Oh and stay away from girls. They provide much more harm than good. Wait as long as possible before getting sucked into that endless cycle. You'll have plenty of time to find a nice girl once you get to college. You don't want to just be some girls meal plan all through high school then move on.
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SWIL said:
I'm 26 and I still haven't grown up. You've got plenty of time, kid. :hi:
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That is the truth!!! :p
 
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