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Orangeredblooded said:
@VolNExile, missed seeing you around. Hope everything is well for you
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Hi yes, getting back to whatever normal is.

Sister-in-law passed peacefully 12 days ago; husband, 94-year-old mother-in-law with an impressive level of dementia, elder step-daughter aka the “grandma-whisperer” landed in Asheville 7 days ago; four of us in a 2BR 1BA house since then; MIL ranges from good days to not-so-good days thinking Hubs is her late husband and rages at him for “not telling her” that all this would be happening; Hubs went back to Denver Monday to finish emptying out her apartment; local marathon shopping mission resulted in furnishing a small efficiency apartment under 12x13 in under 36 hours for less than $4k for furniture, bedding, towels, mini-kitchen setup, etc etc (MIL, like many Depression-era kids obsesses unrealistically over finances, which are fine); day and a half spent setting up these purchases in hopes of making MIL feel somewhat at home; moved her in today and please-please-please she seems to have mostly accepted it.

Step-daughter + daughter #2 and I at home tonight chillaxing for the first time in several months. My back flared up with all the furniture-toting and whatnot and therefore my left leg mostly doesn’t work, but I don’t care.

I thought that cancer was bad, but I’m gonna have to say that dementia might be worse. MIL’s older sister is turning 100, physically healthy and bat-youknowwhat-crazy, younger sister is 92, physically healthy, and starting down the road. We would be happy and honored to have her here with us, but step-daughter could literally not go take a pee without MIL heading out the door. How are loving families supposed to keep their elders both happy and secure at home??

And our craptastic US health system does pretty much NOTHING to support home care by families, assisted living, skilled nursing care, or memory care, because somehow it’s more important to fund sending drones to bomb the crap out of... never mind. /rant
 
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VolNExile said:
Hi yes, getting back to whatever normal is.

Sister-in-law passed peacefully 12 days ago; husband, 94-year-old mother-in-law with an impressive level of dementia, elder step-daughter aka the “grandma-whisperer” landed in Asheville 7 days ago; four of us in a 2BR 1BA house since then; MIL ranges from good days to not-so-good days thinking Hubs is her late husband and rages at him for “not telling her” that all this would be happening; Hubs went back to Denver Monday to finish emptying out her apartment; local marathon shopping mission resulted in furnishing a small efficiency apartment under 12x13 in under 36 hours for less than $4k for furniture, bedding, towels, mini-kitchen setup, etc etc (MIL, like many Depression-era kids obsesses unrealistically over finances, which are fine); day and a half spent setting up these purchases in hopes of making MIL feel somewhat at home; moved her in today and please-please-please she seems to have mostly accepted it.

Step-daughter + daughter #2 and I at home tonight chillaxing for the first time in several months. My back flared up with all the furniture-toting and whatnot and therefore my left leg mostly doesn’t work, but I don’t care.

I thought that cancer was bad, but I’m gonna have to say that dementia might be worse. MIL’s older sister is turning 100, physically healthy and bat-youknowwhat-crazy, younger sister is 92, physically healthy, and starting down the road. We would be happy and honored to have her here with us, but step-daughter could literally not go take a pee without MIL heading out the door. How are loving families supposed to keep their elders both happy and secure at home??

And our craptastic US health system does pretty much NOTHING to support home care by families, assisted living, skilled nursing care, or memory care, because somehow it’s more important to fund sending drones to bomb the crap out of... never mind. /rant
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Bless your heart, My father has dementia and I know how trying it can be. I've had to be at work a lot this week, (lord, is it only Thursday?) and planning for the wedding. Your situation seems to make my week look like a vacation. Too bad you aren't close, would meet up with you for a drink. Seems like we both might need it. Prayers with you during this time.
 
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VolNExile said:
Hi yes, getting back to whatever normal is.

Sister-in-law passed peacefully 12 days ago; husband, 94-year-old mother-in-law with an impressive level of dementia, elder step-daughter aka the “grandma-whisperer” landed in Asheville 7 days ago; four of us in a 2BR 1BA house since then; MIL ranges from good days to not-so-good days thinking Hubs is her late husband and rages at him for “not telling her” that all this would be happening; Hubs went back to Denver Monday to finish emptying out her apartment; local marathon shopping mission resulted in furnishing a small efficiency apartment under 12x13 in under 36 hours for less than $4k for furniture, bedding, towels, mini-kitchen setup, etc etc (MIL, like many Depression-era kids obsesses unrealistically over finances, which are fine); day and a half spent setting up these purchases in hopes of making MIL feel somewhat at home; moved her in today and please-please-please she seems to have mostly accepted it.

Step-daughter + daughter #2 and I at home tonight chillaxing for the first time in several months. My back flared up with all the furniture-toting and whatnot and therefore my left leg mostly doesn’t work, but I don’t care.

I thought that cancer was bad, but I’m gonna have to say that dementia might be worse. MIL’s older sister is turning 100, physically healthy and bat-youknowwhat-crazy, younger sister is 92, physically healthy, and starting down the road. We would be happy and honored to have her here with us, but step-daughter could literally not go take a pee without MIL heading out the door. How are loving families supposed to keep their elders both happy and secure at home??

And our craptastic US health system does pretty much NOTHING to support home care by families, assisted living, skilled nursing care, or memory care, because somehow it’s more important to fund sending drones to bomb the crap out of... never mind. /rant
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That surprises me. When I got out of the hospital Medicare paid for a nurse, physical therapist and occupational therapist to come to my house and it’s paying for physical therapy at a rehab place three times a week.
 
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hmanvolfan said:
That surprises me. When I got out of the hospital Medicare paid for a nurse, physical therapist and occupational therapist to come to my house and it’s paying for physical therapy at a rehab place three times a week.
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I work for an Assisted Living facility and use to work in insurance and billing, she is exactly right. When coding a diagnosis and procedure, one word difference can mean the difference in hundreds of dollars and benefits. One of the reasons I got out of the that business and went back to my true passion, cooking. Lawyers can't hold a candle to the insurance business in bottom feeders.
 
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VolNExile said:
Noodz sent.

Seriously, if this is your usual gee mail account (not a throwaway), once you hear from @Orangeredblooded, delete this, plus ask anyone who quoted it to do the same.
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This WAS my junk address, but if I’m gonna keep getting nood pics from the “Ladies of VN” I’ll go ahead and make it my primary!!
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
I work for an Assisted Living facility and use to work in insurance and billing, she is exactly right. When coding a diagnosis and procedure, one word difference can mean the difference in hundreds of dollars and benefits. One of the reasons I got out of the that business and went back to my true passion, cooking. Lawyers can't hold a candle to the insurance business in bottom feeders.
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I can’t count the times my wife has shared the same sentiment about insurance companies.
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
I work for an Assisted Living facility and use to work in insurance and billing, she is exactly right. When coding a diagnosis and procedure, one word difference can mean the difference in hundreds of dollars and benefits. One of the reasons I got out of the that business and went back to my true passion, cooking. Lawyers can't hold a candle to the insurance business in bottom feeders.
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I understand all that, I hate insurance companies as well. However, I was talking about Medicare which the relatives she was talking about would be eligible for.
 
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VolNExile said:
Hi yes, getting back to whatever normal is.

Sister-in-law passed peacefully 12 days ago; husband, 94-year-old mother-in-law with an impressive level of dementia, elder step-daughter aka the “grandma-whisperer” landed in Asheville 7 days ago; four of us in a 2BR 1BA house since then; MIL ranges from good days to not-so-good days thinking Hubs is her late husband and rages at him for “not telling her” that all this would be happening; Hubs went back to Denver Monday to finish emptying out her apartment; local marathon shopping mission resulted in furnishing a small efficiency apartment under 12x13 in under 36 hours for less than $4k for furniture, bedding, towels, mini-kitchen setup, etc etc (MIL, like many Depression-era kids obsesses unrealistically over finances, which are fine); day and a half spent setting up these purchases in hopes of making MIL feel somewhat at home; moved her in today and please-please-please she seems to have mostly accepted it.

Step-daughter + daughter #2 and I at home tonight chillaxing for the first time in several months. My back flared up with all the furniture-toting and whatnot and therefore my left leg mostly doesn’t work, but I don’t care.

I thought that cancer was bad, but I’m gonna have to say that dementia might be worse. MIL’s older sister is turning 100, physically healthy and bat-youknowwhat-crazy, younger sister is 92, physically healthy, and starting down the road. We would be happy and honored to have her here with us, but step-daughter could literally not go take a pee without MIL heading out the door. How are loving families supposed to keep their elders both happy and secure at home??

And our craptastic US health system does pretty much NOTHING to support home care by families, assisted living, skilled nursing care, or memory care, because somehow it’s more important to fund sending drones to bomb the crap out of... never mind. /rant
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Sympathies. Ranting justified.
 
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hmanvolfan said:
I understand all that, I hate insurance companies as well. However, I was talking about Medicare which the relatives she was talking about would be eligible for.
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You were (I think) in short-term rehab or something similar. That is covered (as long as you were hospitalized as an inpatient for 3 days) for a couple of months, I think? Pretty sure that hospice is covered as well.

By contrast, my mother-in-law is in Assisted Living, which isn't a skilled nursing setting, although there are nurses galore there (seriously, Givens Estates is utterly amazingly wonderful.) She's not there to receive PT/OT/ST in order to recover from an illness or injury with the expectation that she will be able to go home after strengthening. She will not recover from dementia. I think (once the dust settles in the next few weeks, I will confirm) that if she had to go into the hospital for medical or surgical care and stayed for the magical three days, Medicare would pay for any time in skilled nursing/ rehab, but not once she returns to AL for this chronic issue.

Ironically, she takes one pill a day for her thyroid. That's it. Physically very healthy.

It's a weird way that we deal with healthcare in this country.
 
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MoodyVol said:
This WAS my junk address, but if I’m gonna keep getting nood pics from the “Ladies of VN” I’ll go ahead and make it my primary!!
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Lord help you, if you ever get noodes from some of us that are in the older crowd, might be considered late night comedy for you and your family, of course I’m talking about myself. 😂
 
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VolNExile said:
You were (I think) in short-term rehab or something similar. That is covered (as long as you were hospitalized as an inpatient for 3 days) for a couple of months, I think? Pretty sure that hospice is covered as well.

By contrast, my mother-in-law is in Assisted Living, which isn't a skilled nursing setting, although there are nurses galore there (seriously, Givens Estates is utterly amazingly wonderful.) She's not there to receive PT/OT/ST in order to recover from an illness or injury with the expectation that she will be able to go home after strengthening. She will not recover from dementia. I think (once the dust settles in the next few weeks, I will confirm) that if she had to go into the hospital for medical or surgical care and stayed for the magical three days, Medicare would pay for any time in skilled nursing/ rehab, but not once she returns to AL for this chronic issue.

Ironically, she takes one pill a day for her thyroid. That's it. Physically very healthy.

It's a weird way that we deal with healthcare in this country.
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Not many will get this, in a way, it’s the worst in dementia, that’s where I am. Super healthy but not in his mind.
 
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VolNExile said:
You were (I think) in short-term rehab or something similar. That is covered (as long as you were hospitalized as an inpatient for 3 days) for a couple of months, I think? Pretty sure that hospice is covered as well.

By contrast, my mother-in-law is in Assisted Living, which isn't a skilled nursing setting, although there are nurses galore there (seriously, Givens Estates is utterly amazingly wonderful.) She's not there to receive PT/OT/ST in order to recover from an illness or injury with the expectation that she will be able to go home after strengthening. She will not recover from dementia. I think (once the dust settles in the next few weeks, I will confirm) that if she had to go into the hospital for medical or surgical care and stayed for the magical three days, Medicare would pay for any time in skilled nursing/ rehab, but not once she returns to AL for this chronic issue.

Ironically, she takes one pill a day for her thyroid. That's it. Physically very healthy.

It's a weird way that we deal with healthcare in this country.
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Too bad, skilled nursing use to give them 100 days, which helped with planning and families.
 
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