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His mom sent me an email saying he's excited to come but is more upset than normal about leaving home this trip and even mentioned if he could go back before my time is up. I personally think he'll be fine once he gets here.
 
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TEX_VOLFAN said:
His mom sent me an email saying he's excited to come but is more upset than normal about leaving home this trip and even mentioned if he could go back before my time is up. I personally think he'll be fine once he gets here.
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Just being away from mom nerves, I'm guessing.
 
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TEX_VOLFAN said:
His mom sent me an email saying he's excited to come but is more upset than normal about leaving home this trip and even mentioned if he could go back before my time is up. I personally think he'll be fine once he gets here.
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Sounds like a little mom propaganda to me. Once he gets with you I guarantee that story will change and actually be reversed.
 
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wildnkrazykat said:
She might be feeding the fire at home. If so then he's worried about her being ok while he's gone too
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I think you're on the money but I don't get why some parents worry they might lose their childs affection when they leave on a visit somewhere else. I would be secure in my connection with my child regardless of where they might go for whatever reason.
 
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hmanvolfan said:
I think you're on the money but I don't get why some parents worry they might lose their childs affection when they leave on a visit somewhere else. I would be secure in my connection with my child regardless of where they might go for whatever reason.
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She's worried about him wanting to come live with me one day. He's getting older and she knows she's on borrowed time.
 
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TEX_VOLFAN said:
I'm worried about that to be honest! If that's the case, she needs to stfu!
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I know you will reinforce the concept to him, when he's with you, that the both of you love him more than anything and that will never change. Trying to make the child choose sides is just wrong.
 
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hmanvolfan said:
I know you will reinforce the concept to him, when he's with you, that the both of you love him more than anything and that will never change. Trying to make the child choose sides is just wrong.
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He's a very sensitive and loving kid. He hates that we live so far apart. We (his mom and I) really have a good relationship.
 
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TEX_VOLFAN said:
She's worried about him wanting to come live with me one day. He's getting older and she knows she's on borrowed time.
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I understand and agree but errbody needs to give the boy credit for being smart enough to know the both of you love him more than life itself. She needs to understand the story about the judgement of Solomon when two people were trying to take possession of a child and why he made his decision. Both parties should want the best for the child and realize he is smart enough to figure out who has his best interests at heart and hopefully it is both parents.
 
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hmanvolfan said:
I understand and agree but errbody needs to give the boy credit for being smart enough to know the both of you love him more than life itself. She needs to understand the story about the judgement of Solomon when two people were trying to take possession of a child and why he made his decision. Both parties should want the best for the child and realize he is smart enough to figure out who has his best interests at heart and hopefully it is both parents.
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I know on my end I don't pressure him or make him feel bad about staying up there. I went through a bad divorce and so did his mom, so we are doing a pretty good job, IMO. Trust me, if things were F'ed up up there, I'd be all up in their shiz!
 
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My sister has a situation somewhat like yours. She has custody but he's a boy and he's getting older. My nephew's dad isn't the best guy in the world but hell it's his dad. My sister frets about him choosing to be with his Dad down the road. Sometimes she does it too much. I just always tell her to enjoy whatever time you have because all of it, custody aside is borrowed. In the end what is supposed to be will be.
 
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TEX_VOLFAN said:
I know on my end I don't pressure him or make him feel bad about staying up there. I went through a bad divorce and so did his mom, so we are doing a pretty good job, IMO. Trust me, if things were F'ed up up there, I'd be all up in their shiz!
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I understand and I wasn't thinking about her new situation, I was talking about your boy having to choose between you and your ex in his mind, which is the point in its entirety cause he should be made to feel he shouldn't have to choose. I know you understand that but from what you were saying it sounded like your ex was afraid she might lose him to you. My point was to make him know you both love him very much and assure him he doesn't have to pick a side.
 
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