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VOLtownUSA said:
Casual conversation in class,workplace, etc. But before I would ask a girl out or to "go ride around", we have to both be comfortable with each other. I'm sure if she was of similar mind-set to me (which is what I'm looking for I suppose) than she would want to take things slow as well.
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Ok I see those things, but isn't that (if you're on the same innocent mindset) the same as those guys taking a ride together.....just conversation. I'm not saying that everytime stuff like that happens its all good clean christian fun, but not all girls that do that are super skanks either and it doesn't always end in sex and stds :hi: I do completely see and understand what you're saying though and I promise I'm not trying to bust on your viewpoints either
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VOLtownUSA said:
Casual conversation in class,workplace, etc. But before I would ask a girl out or to "go ride around", we have to both be comfortable with each other. I'm sure if she was of similar mind-set to me (which is what I'm looking for I suppose) than she would want to take things slow as well.
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To expound further on this, we could meet at a diner for example and chat. She drives her car, I drive mine, both go do our own thing afterwords. TO me, to ride around with someone, just the two of you takes a lot of trust. It's just you and her, no one else. No one there for you except each other, no one to protect you or depend on than your companion. Just seems sacred to me...if that makes sense. Kinda like a mini-marriage...maybe I just think in metaphors though :wacko:
 
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farmersdaughter said:
Ok I see those things, but isn't that (if you're on the same innocent mindset) the same as those guys taking a ride together.....just conversation. I'm not saying that everytime stuff like that happens its all good clean christian fun, but not all girls that do that are super skanks either and it doesn't always end in sex and stds :hi: I do completely see and understand what you're saying though and I promise I'm not trying to bust on your viewpoints either
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see above ^ :)
 
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I'm just extra paranoid about relationships because of my ****ed up family. Causes me to over think things, perhaps. Dad and Mom both went through a lot of people before they got together, didn't help them any.
 
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VOLtownUSA said:
To expound further on this, we could meet at a diner for example and chat. She drives her car, I drive mine, both go do our own thing afterwords. TO me, to ride around with someone, just the two of you takes a lot of trust. It's just you and her, no one else. No one there for you except each other, no one to protect you or depend on than your companion. Just seems sacred to me...if that makes sense. Kinda like a mini-marriage...maybe I just think in metaphors though :wacko:
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I see what you're saying. I have rode with contractors before to jobs in the middle of nowhere, and yeah I've been leery at first, but now they are some of my best friends / customers and I could call them now and have whatever I wanted or needed, the friendship just required stepping out on faith. Now does this make me a hoochie because I rode with them? I don't think so, but if you just saw me do it or heard of me jumping in the truck with them then you're liable to think so if you judge it like that
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farmersdaughter said:
I see what you're saying. I have rode with contractors before to jobs in the middle of nowhere, and yeah I've been leery at first, but now they are some of my best friends / customers and I could call them now and have whatever I wanted or needed, the friendship just required stepping out on faith. Now does this make me a hoochie because I rode with them? I don't think so, but if you just saw me do it or heard of me jumping in the truck with them then you're liable to think so if you judge it like that
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You work with them, not the same thing. :hi:
I'm talking about girls that just randomly "hey I'm gonna ride with this guy".
 
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VOLtownUSA said:
You work with them, not the same thing. :hi:
I'm talking about girls that just randomly "hey I'm gonna ride with this guy".
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I get what you're saying, I just don't want you missing the "one" while you're waiting....kinda like being at the airport when she comes riding in on the train, does that make sense to you?
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farmersdaughter said:
I get what you're saying, I just don't want you missing the "one" while you're waiting....kinda like being at the airport when she comes riding in on the train, does that make sense to you?
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It makes sense, I'm not worried though. I believe there is someone for everyone and we will meet them eventually, just gotta wait, open our heart and listen. I.e. if she is in the train station while I'm at the airport, it wasn't time for us to meet yet
 
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You're probably right on some level, VT. But, if the "one" is the standard by which I'm to choose then, culturally, I have about a 50% chance of making that work in perpetuity, according to the current success rate of American marriages....
 
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VOLtownUSA said:
To expound further on this, we could meet at a diner for example and chat. She drives her car, I drive mine, both go do our own thing afterwords. TO me, to ride around with someone, just the two of you takes a lot of trust. It's just you and her, no one else. No one there for you except each other, no one to protect you or depend on than your coYyympanion. Just seems sacred to me...if that makes sense. Kinda like a mini-marriage...maybe I just think in metaphors though :wacko:
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You are a romantic. That's a compliment.
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PoochPunt3rdDown said:
You're probably right on some level, VT. But, if the "one" is the standard by which I'm to choose then, culturally, I have about a 50% chance of making that work in perpetuity, according to the current success rate of American marriages....
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I would counter by saying that certain circumstances cause more failed marriages in America due to the culture and mindset. Couple fools around as teenagers girl gets pregnant, he chickens out and runs, doesn't develop a respect for women and never can treat one right. Couple fools around as teenagers girl gets pregnant, he does right thing and marries her, both too young to make a relationship work; desperate people finally get a date and jump on it, eventually get married; drugs of course ruins marriages; Man (or woman) not raised with proper respect of opposite sex, habitually cheats on spouse; etc. Anyways, I firmly believe the number of failed marriages would be much, much lower if people took an approach like I am. Not to say my particular approach is the best, but a more cautious one would be best for everyone IMO. Also think if people would lay off the drinking and drugs, it would help but that'll never happen. We live in a generation that wants everything now, sex, happiness, money, and doesn't want to work for it. I hate that./rant
 
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