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#141,151
Sandman Vol said:
Good point. How do you effectively do this when they live with you? She started to recognize when I wasn’t actually paying attention/listening.
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There are different medications that can help, and a good doctor will work with them to figure out the lowest possible dosage and safest option. But ultimately support & grace is what you have to show them...it's never an obligation though and if you don't want to be there then don't. As cruel as that may sound there is always the potential that separating could improve the quality of life for each of you.
 
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Sandman Vol said:
Good point. How do you effectively do this when they live with you? She started to recognize when I wasn’t actually paying attention/listening.
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I would start, if serious, by seeing if your work covers therapy. Start by looking at literature, ask if there are any wholistic remedies. Someone with that level of anxiety is looking in wrong places for answer, perhaps you taking care of you will lead by example and that will be what they need.

Therapists will prescribe SSRI's. I'd recommend marijuana, edibles. Or, yoga/or a hobby. Pickleball, or a marathon. Preferably a two to three day marathon, for wives.
 
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Jackcrevol said:
I would start, if serious, by seeing if your work covers therapy. Start by looking at literature, ask if there are any wholistic remedies. Someone with that level of anxiety is looking in wrong places for answer, perhaps you taking care of you will lead by example and that will be what they need.

Therapists will prescribe SSRI's. I'd recommend marijuana, edibles. Or, yoga/or a hobby. Pickleball, or a marathon. Preferably a two to three day marathon, for wives.
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I'd expect our resident Subaru driver to know how to spell holistic.

Couldn't agree more on hobbies, especially social ones, for wives. I don't know what it is about some women, but they actively resist having fun.

And most importantly for anyone struggling with anxiety, GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA. Not reduce, not limit, eliminate. The social media experience for women is so different than it is for men, their algorithms are designed to breed and perpetuate anxiety.
 
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Sandman Vol said:
I consider myself to sometimes particular or ocd in my own way, but I wouldn’t categorize it as anxious… Curious how yall deal with anxious people.

Like when someone is always anxious, negative, high maintenance, complaining, it literally gives me anxiety. I think it’s the ick, as in please keep that vibe as far away from me as possible. So tell me, how do yall deal with overly anxious people?

Obviously this doesn’t apply to this forum, where being overly anxious is not only appropriate but an expectation. What’s a volnation without its worry circle amiright…
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Well that's a feedback loop.

She's neurotic. Something stresses her out. She sees the anxiety push you away. That stresses her out more, more anxious... So on and so forth.

The only thing I would say you can do is try to be a calm, assertive presence in the relationship. When she gets anxious, detach less and try to take more control of whatever the problem of the hour is.

You could try recommending counseling/therapy. I wouldn't personally recommend that for anxiety. Anxiety, in my humble opinion, is just an aspect of the human condition. Not something to be "fixed" by talking through a mental block in your own head or taking SSRI's. If anxiety became crippling for someone I knew, I'd start with their life, not their head. Work-life balance? Hobbies? Church? I'd start there.

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jave said it best. No social media might just be the cure all lol
 
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Sandman Vol said:
Good point. How do you effectively do this when they live with you? She started to recognize when I wasn’t actually paying attention/listening.
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But you should probably just talk to them. You could start by saying:

"We've known each other for so long
Your heart's been aching, but you're too shy to say it
Inside, we both know what's been going on
We know the game, and we're gonna play it

And if you ask me how I'm feeling
Don't tell me you're too blind to see"
 
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Enki_Amenra said:
Not sure this is a good place for advice. We'll have you in divorce court in a week.
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Can’t get divorced if you’re not married. It’s more of a long-term committed domestic partnership at this point, and I’m hoping she can grow through it so we can stay together. Presently it is not making for a healthy environment/relationship.
 
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Sandman Vol said:
Can’t get divorced if you’re not married. It’s more of a long-term committed domestic partnership at this point, and I’m hoping she can grow through it so we can stay together. Presently it is not making for a healthy environment/relationship.
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You know how to fix it? Have some babies, then stay together for them. . . seems to work most of the time.
 
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Brillovol said:
Just sent this to my wife. Let’s see how this goes.

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Jackcrevol said:
I would start, if serious, by seeing if your work covers therapy. Start by looking at literature, ask if there are any wholistic remedies. Someone with that level of anxiety is looking in wrong places for answer, perhaps you taking care of you will lead by example and that will be what they need.

Therapists will prescribe SSRI's. I'd recommend marijuana, edibles. Or, yoga/or a hobby. Pickleball, or a marathon. Preferably a two to three day marathon, for wives.
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Yep, mine is on some med (I think an SSRI), and does yoga, pickleball, and mah jongg.
 
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