your hatred is not so veiled as you think it is luther. its entirely equivalent, and also predicated off of each other. its always the other side that has a problem, they need to change. maybe, maybe once they change to appease you, you MIGHT change your ways to be a little less hateful. you are as maga as any on this board.
like I said you are nose blind to it. you obviously have biases you actively avoid challenging. I deal with this specific issue with my fiance', she is quiet liberal, quiet suburban and typically anti-rural, and her feed reflects it. when I point out the obvious bs that she buys into, she is always shocked that it isn't correct. even when I point out how my parents small rural town doesn't match the bs, she just shrugs and says that doesn't change anything. she refuses to leave the bubble of small town living as being less than. not just on a preference side, she believes it makes people less, and she has one of the milder opinions about it.
Look at Covid reactions. the ongoing anti-anti-vax views, even when they were Mennonites/amish there was a ton of hatred poured out to the larger whole. while I understand the tik tok "trad" life is bs, there is still huge push back against traditional lifestyles. how much rhetoric is pushed on women who do just want to raise kids at home, its at least as bad as any uncle tom talk. how much effort has been pushed to end small time farming, blaming them for the environment, pushing to get rid of meat, there are very vocal minorities who call eating meat murder and compare it to eating humans. there is a lot of hatred that gets spread out over enough topics where you can pretend its nothing.
the hate is there, you just don't recognize it as hate because you generally agree with it or those who say it.