Official Gramps' Memorial Eternal OT Thread

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UT_Dutchman said:
So my favorite in East Tennessee is the Nolichucky near Erwin for good class lll-V. Nantahala is nice for easy cruising. If you want the toughest in the east head to the Russell Fork or the Gauley, high end rafting. Both of those are in WV.
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I have been on Ocoee many times, buddy of mine was a guide, Nantahala like twice, Chattooga all stages,. I had friends do the Gauley and they said it was awesome. All long time ago.
 
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So 2 interesting developments in sports of note:

Britney Griner got booted from US team for smoking weed...so Caitlin Clark is headed to paris.

Fanduel dropped the line on UT wins to 8.5 where it began from 9.5 it had moved up to... i would actually take that bet bc i think we win at least 9 games (probably 9) I am assuming the bowlgame or playoffs dont count.
 
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marcusluvsvols said:
So 2 interesting developments in sports of note:

Britney Griner got booted from US team for smoking weed...so Caitlin Clark is headed to paris.

Fanduel dropped the line on UT wins to 8.5 where it began from 9.5 it had moved up to... i would actually take that bet bc i think we win at least 9 games (probably 9) I am assuming the bowlgame or playoffs dont count.
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Griner loves the weed.
 
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I need a good reset boys. Been stressing with lots of spending lately, new roof, new phone, trip to LA, plus all the usual stuff.

well, lost the "new" phone. had to go yesterday and get a new one. Didn't have the "new" phone backed up or anything. hadn't had it long enough, and most of the time I had it I was out of town.

thankfully still had old phone, and was able to get that info on to new new phone. but lost all of the photos from LA.

got the dating anniversary coming up, a couple baseball games I have promised my GF or already bought tickets for, also need to get myself up to Knoxville for a FB game this fall.

just looking to rant. GF of course just thinks I have infinite money and the way to make myself feel better about all the money I spent is to just spend more money (on her).
 
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This is in no way a dig, Louder, but a sincere concern. Is some of this stemming from insecurity? Do you feel you must spend on her to keep her? I expect she cares much more for you versus what you purchase for her. I just wonder if the spending is a girlfriend thing or a you thing.

I get the stress of bulk spending, it's legit. We always had very open conversations about money, wants/needs, and goals. It really helped with identifying and planning where and when to spend for travel and entertainment. But most importantly it kept us on the same page.

There's always give and take, right? Need a new roof? May need to delay that trip to Key West. It happens to everyone. We always chose to avoid debt. You seem like a genuinely great guy and it bothers me you're dealing with so much stress.
 
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gcbvol said:
This is in no way a dig, Louder, but a sincere concern. Is some of this stemming from insecurity? Do you feel you must spend on her to keep her? I expect she cares much more for you versus what you purchase for her. I just wonder if the spending is a girlfriend thing or a you thing.

I get the stress of bulk spending, it's legit. We always had very open conversations about money, wants/needs, and goals. It really helped with identifying and planning where and when to spend for travel and entertainment. But most importantly it kept us on the same page.

There's always give and take, right? Need a new roof? May need to delay that trip to Key West. It happens to everyone. We always chose to avoid debt. You seem like a genuinely great guy and it bothers me your dealing with so much stress.
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we have started talking about it, amongst some other things. The 1 week LA trip staying with a friend was already a compromise from the 2 European trip we had planned.

the problem has been anytime I bring up anything to talk about, it becomes a huge issue. or at least bigger than I thought it would be.
 
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LouderVol said:
I need a good reset boys. Been stressing with lots of spending lately, new roof, new phone, trip to LA, plus all the usual stuff.

well, lost the "new" phone. had to go yesterday and get a new one. Didn't have the "new" phone backed up or anything. hadn't had it long enough, and most of the time I had it I was out of town.

thankfully still had old phone, and was able to get that info on to new new phone. but lost all of the photos from LA.

got the dating anniversary coming up, a couple baseball games I have promised my GF or already bought tickets for, also need to get myself up to Knoxville for a FB game this fall.

just looking to rant. GF of course just thinks I have infinite money and the way to make myself feel better about all the money I spent is to just spend more money (on her).
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Maybe you're being vague and I'm not reading this right but I'm seeing red flags here, friend.
 
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I of course say this as someone who tends to shower my SO with gifts and nice things, but as soon as they ask for it, I give them the boot.

I also say this as someone who just bought their girlfriend a 60 inch 4k TV for her birthday/housewarming gift today.
 
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LouderVol said:
we have started talking about it, amongst some other things. The 1 week LA trip staying with a friend was already a compromise from the 2 European trip we had planned.

the problem has been anytime I bring up anything to talk about, it becomes a huge issue. or at least bigger than I thought it would be.
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Yeah, not good. She needs to be able to have these conversations sans emotion. This stuff needs logic.
 
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gcbvol said:
Yeah, not good. She needs to be able to have these conversations sans emotion. This stuff needs logic.
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I have realized I tend to be way too direct, and she was taking it as confrontational. We are trying to be more effective in our communication. some of it comes down to how GSD (get s**t done) I am, where I don't talk about problems, I just fix them. In a relationship dealing with common issues that isn't the best approach, or at least fair to assume she is going to know/understand what I am GSD'ing.

she seems to be understanding, it just takes more/different communication than I am used to.
 
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LouderVol said:
I have realized I tend to be way too direct, and she was taking it as confrontational. We are trying to be more effective in our communication. some of it comes down to how GSD (get s**t done) I am, where I don't talk about problems, I just fix them. In a relationship dealing with common issues that isn't the best approach, or at least fair to assume she is going to know/understand what I am GSD'ing.

she seems to be understanding, it just takes more/different communication than I am used to.
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Working on understanding and refining communication together is great. The other half is more direct than me, and it did take some time to sync. The important thing is to get it working. Lack of communication is a killer, so keep working on it.
 
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LouderVol said:
I have realized I tend to be way too direct, and she was taking it as confrontational. We are trying to be more effective in our communication. some of it comes down to how GSD (get s**t done) I am, where I don't talk about problems, I just fix them. In a relationship dealing with common issues that isn't the best approach, or at least fair to assume she is going to know/understand what I am GSD'ing.

she seems to be understanding, it just takes more/different communication than I am used to.
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Always keep in mind when you are talking to your significant other that there is only 1 sane person in that conversation and it ain't her.
 
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gcbvol said:
Working on understanding and refining communication together is great. The other half is more direct than me, and it did take some time to sync. The important thing is to get it working. Lack of communication is a killer, so keep working on it.
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as of now the communication is the only thing I am worried about. and not from the relationship side of things, but the understanding/expectation of things. Even as old as I am this is the longest relationship I have been in, so I am still learning how to deal with fairer sex.

she has never made me feel like I had to get her things, its just when I hear something I take it more literal than she means it often. If you watched the Office it is a Kelly / Daryle type of communication style.

she isn't as bad as Kelly, but my GF quotes the "Who says exactly what they are thinking? What kind of game is that?" all the time. or continuing on the Office reference I often use to many "dots" when texting.
 
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LouderVol said:
as of now the communication is the only thing I am worried about. and not from the relationship side of things, but the understanding/expectation of things. Even as old as I am this is the longest relationship I have been in, so I am still learning how to deal with fairer sex.

she has never made me feel like I had to get her things, its just when I hear something I take it more literal than she means it often. If you watched the Office it is a Kelly / Daryle type of communication style.

she isn't as bad as Kelly, but my GF quotes the "Who says exactly what they are thinking? What kind of game is that?" all the time. or continuing on the Office reference I often use to many "dots" when texting.
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Do you "yada, yada" through the best parts?
 
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