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#65,101
#65,101
going to vent for second here because I can do it here without upsetting people closer to me in life.

I hate the way life works. every time I make plans something comes up and conflicts with it. This is precisely why I avoid planning anything, but people are always on to me to get out there and do stuff. They always tell me, you can't be happy if you just sit at home, and don't plan stuff. you have to be active, you have to go out and make plans. you have to go live this life that OTHER people want you to live. so I go and make plans for myself for the first time all year, have something nice planned with my GF scheduled for months, get back to the doctors to deal with a small issue that won't go away and they don't know what it is, schedule to attend a work-related event to "expand" my opportunities. nope, I get to do none of that. All the scheduling and planning gone. I help out people all the time, I like helping others; but here I am making plans for myself for once, and I don't get to have that moment.

The timing of things is KILLER. My mom broke her ankle and I am going to care for her. she needs help, so I want to help her. So we are dividing up times to be with her. Dad can cover most of it living with her. we were scheduling who could be with her when; going over when we had no conflicts, small conflicts, and what I am calling critical conflicts. The only time I have ANY conflicts, none are critical, is the only time the rest of my family has critical conflicts.

seriously, last week, I had nothing going on.
this week nothing going on.
next week, I had three events.
week after that, nothing.
week after that, nothing,
you have to go to July 4th to find the next conflict.

when is the time ONLY time i HAVE to cover? The one week where I have multiple things going on.
I will be helping out some other times, but for that we were able to schedule things so no one is missing. there was literally one conflict.

again, I am going to help my mom. Not upset by that. I know I sound like I am complaining about that and a POS son; but I am frustrated because stuff like this ALWAYS happens. I stay in, don't plan on anything, nothing pops up. As soon as I venture out here are 10 things all at once that HAVE to be dealt with. Can anyone of them show up when I have NOTHING going on, and actually have flexibility and time to deal with them? No.

my biggest frustration with life. its not that crap happens, crap is always going to happen, and I am always going to have to deal with it. that life, and that's not all that bad. Its just that the crap happens all at once, and it all happens at the one time I actually make time/plans for myself. thankfully I am not suffering from depression nearly as much because this is the type of crap that caused me to spiral.

anyway just needed to vent here so I don't say something IRL that causes an issue.

*kicks the soap box as I get off of it*
 
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LouderVol said:
going to vent for second here because I can do it here without upsetting people closer to me in life.

I hate the way life works. every time I make plans something comes up and conflicts with it. This is precisely why I avoid planning anything, but people are always on to me to get out there and do stuff. They always tell me, you can't be happy if you just sit at home, and don't plan stuff. you have to be active, you have to go out and make plans. you have to go live this life that OTHER people want you to live. so I go and make plans for myself for the first time all year, have something nice planned with my GF scheduled for months, get back to the doctors to deal with a small issue that won't go away and they don't know what it is, schedule to attend a work-related event to "expand" my opportunities. nope, I get to do none of that. All the scheduling and planning gone. I help out people all the time, I like helping others; but here I am making plans for myself for once, and I don't get to have that moment.

The timing of things is KILLER. My mom broke her ankle and I am going to care for her. she needs help, so I want to help her. So we are dividing up times to be with her. Dad can cover most of it living with her. we were scheduling who could be with her when; going over when we had no conflicts, small conflicts, and what I am calling critical conflicts. The only time I have ANY conflicts, none are critical, is the only time the rest of my family has critical conflicts.

seriously, last week, I had nothing going on.
this week nothing going on.
next week, I had three events.
week after that, nothing.
week after that, nothing,
you have to go to July 4th to find the next conflict.

when is the time ONLY time i HAVE to cover? The one week where I have multiple things going on.
I will be helping out some other times, but for that we were able to schedule things so no one is missing. there was literally one conflict.

again, I am going to help my mom. Not upset by that. I know I sound like I am complaining about that and a POS son; but I am frustrated because stuff like this ALWAYS happens. I stay in, don't plan on anything, nothing pops up. As soon as I venture out here are 10 things all at once that HAVE to be dealt with. Can anyone of them show up when I have NOTHING going on, and actually have flexibility and time to deal with them? No.

my biggest frustration with life. its not that crap happens, crap is always going to happen, and I am always going to have to deal with it. that life, and that's not all that bad. Its just that the crap happens all at once, and it all happens at the one time I actually make time/plans for myself. thankfully I am not suffering from depression nearly as much because this is the type of crap that caused me to spiral.

anyway just needed to vent here so I don't say something IRL that causes an issue.

*kicks the soap box as I get off of it*
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My advice, don't get married and don't have kids because something will always come up to mess up your plans.
 
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LouderVol said:
going to vent for second here because I can do it here without upsetting people closer to me in life.

I hate the way life works. every time I make plans something comes up and conflicts with it. This is precisely why I avoid planning anything, but people are always on to me to get out there and do stuff. They always tell me, you can't be happy if you just sit at home, and don't plan stuff. you have to be active, you have to go out and make plans. you have to go live this life that OTHER people want you to live. so I go and make plans for myself for the first time all year, have something nice planned with my GF scheduled for months, get back to the doctors to deal with a small issue that won't go away and they don't know what it is, schedule to attend a work-related event to "expand" my opportunities. nope, I get to do none of that. All the scheduling and planning gone. I help out people all the time, I like helping others; but here I am making plans for myself for once, and I don't get to have that moment.

The timing of things is KILLER. My mom broke her ankle and I am going to care for her. she needs help, so I want to help her. So we are dividing up times to be with her. Dad can cover most of it living with her. we were scheduling who could be with her when; going over when we had no conflicts, small conflicts, and what I am calling critical conflicts. The only time I have ANY conflicts, none are critical, is the only time the rest of my family has critical conflicts.

seriously, last week, I had nothing going on.
this week nothing going on.
next week, I had three events.
week after that, nothing.
week after that, nothing,
you have to go to July 4th to find the next conflict.

when is the time ONLY time i HAVE to cover? The one week where I have multiple things going on.
I will be helping out some other times, but for that we were able to schedule things so no one is missing. there was literally one conflict.

again, I am going to help my mom. Not upset by that. I know I sound like I am complaining about that and a POS son; but I am frustrated because stuff like this ALWAYS happens. I stay in, don't plan on anything, nothing pops up. As soon as I venture out here are 10 things all at once that HAVE to be dealt with. Can anyone of them show up when I have NOTHING going on, and actually have flexibility and time to deal with them? No.

my biggest frustration with life. its not that crap happens, crap is always going to happen, and I am always going to have to deal with it. that life, and that's not all that bad. Its just that the crap happens all at once, and it all happens at the one time I actually make time/plans for myself. thankfully I am not suffering from depression nearly as much because this is the type of crap that caused me to spiral.

anyway just needed to vent here so I don't say something IRL that causes an issue.

*kicks the soap box as I get off of it*
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If it helps, I can completely understand. I used to hate those days when I'd go in to work, and with nothing on the horizon; I could finally deal with all those niggling little things that I'd been ignoring but my conscience kept reminding me I had to do. Then as usual the crap hit the fan, and by the end of the day those things that I was finally going to do were so far down the list that they were invisible.

At one point, it was apparently decided in the family that if my dad was in the hospital (not an uncommon thing) that I should stay with him. And there were the never ending stream of medical appointments for both parents in Nashville (at least 1.5 hr drive each way, and we could never do two or more appointments in a day) and things that needed doing at their house, and being retired I was always the logical one. It's really hard not to get overwhelmed by the things you can't control, or not losing it when you see all the stuff lining up that is somehow more important than you and what you need to do.

My wife complains about our boys not being great when it comes to calling, and I remind her of all the times we heard the same thing from our parents while we were trying to cope with our own lives. Never feel bad about venting here or asking for advice. Most of us aren't experts, but we've still probably muddled through similar things. I got to be pretty good at the not planning to do stuff. I will plan to mow on an upcoming day or go out for errands on another and generally that works out, but plan to spend a week or so at the other house doing what needs there and ....

Do what you can for everybody else, but take care of yourself. Remember life is a little like the warning on an airplane about putting the oxygen mask on yourself first; it's really not a selfish act; you just can't help anyone else if you are incapacitated.
 
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AM64 said:
If it helps, I can completely understand. I used to hate those days when I'd go in to work, and with nothing on the horizon; I could finally deal with all those niggling little things that I'd been ignoring but my conscience kept reminding me I had to do. Then as usual the crap hit the fan, and by the end of the day those things that I was finally going to do were so far down the list that they were invisible.

At one point, it was apparently decided in the family that if my dad was in the hospital (not an uncommon thing) that I should stay with him. And there were the never ending stream of medical appointments for both parents in Nashville (at least 1.5 hr drive each way, and we could never do two or more appointments in a day) and things that needed doing at their house, and being retired I was always the logical one. It's really hard not to get overwhelmed by the things you can't control, or not losing it when you see all the stuff lining up that is somehow more important than you and what you need to do.

My wife complains about our boys not being great when it comes to calling, and I remind her of all the times we heard the same thing from our parents while we were trying to cope with our own lives. Never feel bad about venting here or asking for advice. Most of us aren't experts, but we've still probably muddled through similar things. I got to be pretty good at the not planning to do stuff. I will plan to mow on an upcoming day or go out for errands on another and generally that works out, but plan to spend a week or so at the other house doing what needs there and ....

Do what you can for everybody else, but take care of yourself. Remember life is a little like the warning on an airplane about putting the oxygen mask on yourself first; it's really not a selfish act; you just can't help anyone else if you are incapacitated.
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Last year I finally had to put my foot down with the kids, wife and the inlaws. Both son and daughter (our fault) had just grown accustomed to telling us what they have planned and we had to accommodate, now these events generally revolved around the grandkids but still. And her family would just call and let us know they were coming to visit, never bothering to ask if they can or if we had plans. Got so bad last year that there was a span of 4 or 5 weekends in a row where there was either a birthday party, recital, inlaws coming for a visit or something that I lost it. Finally told them all that if they planned something that required my attendance they better check my schedule and if not I would probably not be there.
 
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JOEY’S ALL VOL !!! said:
First it was Bud Light, then Target, now Academy Sports. Quit pushing your agenda on us!

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True story:
Nearly every time I go into a sports store in Huntsville, I will loudly “ must’ve sold out of the UT stuff”. For some reason you won’t find any other team but Bama and Barn garbage.
 
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hog88 said:
Last year I finally had to put my foot down with the kids, wife and the inlaws. Both son and daughter (our fault) had just grown accustomed to telling us what they have planned and we had to accommodate, now these events generally revolved around the grandkids but still. And her family would just call and let us know they were coming to visit, never bothering to ask if they can or if we had plans. Got so bad last year that there was a span of 4 or 5 weekends in a row where there was either a birthday party, recital, inlaws coming for a visit or something that I lost it. Finally told them all that if they planned something that required my attendance they better check my schedule and if not I would probably not be there.
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My, what a cranky grandpa you are.
 
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So I’m at the beach in PCB…. I’m enjoying the nice weather and several beers when I see a horde of drunken Bammers gathering in front of me to get their picture taken together….. it was one 50 something man and 4-5 40s-50s women that were posing…. One of the women made a comment to the man and he pulled his suit down exposing his bare ass for the photo. The group was somewhat laughing except for what appeared to be his wife. She said “you shouldn’t have done that”….. so I piped up and said “no…no… it looked really good… great picture”…. Then the ass showing bammer said “it will be the best looking face in that picture”….. his wife walked over and then he said “my ass looks better than your face”…. 😁
 
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Carl Pickens said:
So I’m at the beach in PCB…. I’m enjoying the nice weather and several beers when I see a horde of drunken Bammers gathering in front of me to get their picture taken together….. it was one 50 something man and 4-5 40s-50s women that were posing…. One of the women made a comment to the man and he pulled his suit down exposing his bare ass for the photo. The group was somewhat laughing except for what appeared to be his wife. She said “you shouldn’t have done that”….. so I piped up and said “no…no… it looked really good… great picture”…. Then the ass showing bammer said “it will be the best looking face in that picture”….. his wife walked over and then he said “my ass looks better than your face”…. 😁
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PCB and drunk Bammers, what could possibly go wrong?
 
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So contracting is getting real. I now have a badge and while I don’t have my laptop yet we sent emails to the IT people to reset/initialize my credentials so that I can actually use the laptop. I just left it with them since it’s a paperweight at the moment.

I was in there around three hours running into people and catching up and while I made it clear I’m only part time a couple of days a week there are already four programs telling me they want me for specific problems/issues/concepts that need resolution and I could easily work 60 hrs a week for the next two months and not clear off most those drive by taskers. Gonna be interesting to see how this unfolds over the next couple of months.

I tried to make it clear that after hearing all their information that the most important thing I need to address in the next 36 hours is my 9am tee time on Thursday that I’m not going to miss 🤷‍♂️
 
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