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SweetasSoda said:
Thank you! 🧡 Things are good other than my husband’s drinking problem, but it’s about at the end. He’s either got to quit or very serious health problems are coming. He had a seizure on me last fall (apparently there’s a link between alcoholism and having seizures as a kid), memory loss (something happened againThursday where he is confused and loses memory, and now he can’t remember me being in the hospital or my dad dying), missed 3 days last week so may be fired tomorrow, and all the financial problems that come with hitting the bottom. He says he really wants to quit now and is going to the doctor in the morning. So any prayers would be appreciated! I said 2021 was the worst year of my life. Now I want to go back! This place helps...love the people here!
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Still praying for you and your family. It's almost impossible to articulate how wearing it is on your psyche, your emotions, energy, finances...and on and on, to live that every day. Every minute of every day. I hate you're having to deal with it, and I pray God gives you the comfort, peace, and strength you need.
 
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SweetasSoda said:
Knowing that is what makes it so bad watching him get worse everyday. And he knows. His mom is a nurse and tells him constantly. I’m terribly sorry that y’all have had to go through everything you have. I’m sure it’s taken its toll on you.
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It's been incredibly tough. I thought the worst was the house fire but nope we never got a chance to really process that because this happened directly after and took center stage. And anything that can upstage losing everything is well, huge. But cancer and liver failure have a way of making themselves known. I honestly just wish I could somehow convey to your hubby what he's giving up and how much pain and suffering is genuinely involved. I know he probably feels like he can't stop but with help he really can. We never went through the addiction side of things (it all happened too fast for that) but I know there are rehabs out there designed to help if he's willing to give things a shot.

I mean this week we're planning to go see Batman. Such a small thing for most people to go see a movie. But it's a huge victory for us and something I'm pumped about doing because it's something we can do without too much worry. It's something that we simply couldn't have done a few months ago and something that we might not be able to do at any given time. I don't want that for you or for anyone else.
 
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TitanicVolz said:
Prayers for everyone on this peticular subject,I'm actually in the mist of very very similar situations with my wife.I casual drink few times a month,but she's 10 yrs n on a 5th a day now.That really hit home for me I prefer not to put it all on here but she refuses to see a doctor or anything.Im at a loss at this point and I know what that stuff can do I lost my father in 2019 over alcohol.Reading what u both wrote let's me know that I'm not wrong in the things I'm telling her and how I feel this is going to end.Thanks for sharing its appreciative and why I enjoy this place some amazing people here.
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So sorry! Will be praying for you also!
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
I am so sorry, I am so sorry.... I want to say that again and again. I had hope when you told us that he had laid the bottle down this past year. Hard times brings out the worst coping mechanisms in all of us as your family has had to deal with. You’ve certainly have and had prayers for you and your family. Is there anything else you need? I don’t say this lightly, just message me on here, even if it’s just a ear. I would love that, believe me, I’ve encountered enough alcoholics in my own family. Again 🧡
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Thank you so much, Red! He wants to want to quit because he knows he needs to, but he has struggled. Each time he gets a little closer to following through. He is going to the doctor tomorrow that he talked to last fall and gave him some meds that are supposed to help. Prayers that he can sleep tonight because he is anxious about going and not drinking.
 
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TitanicVolz said:
Prayers for everyone on this peticular subject,I'm actually in the mist of very very similar situations with my wife.I casual drink few times a month,but she's 10 yrs n on a 5th a day now.That really hit home for me I prefer not to put it all on here but she refuses to see a doctor or anything.Im at a loss at this point and I know what that stuff can do I lost my father in 2019 over alcohol.Reading what u both wrote let's me know that I'm not wrong in the things I'm telling her and how I feel this is going to end.Thanks for sharing its appreciative and why I enjoy this place some amazing people here.
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Prayers for you also 🙏. Everyone needs an outlet. Wished I had better to post for you and your family’s battle.🙏. That’s the best I can do. I’m sorry and my heart knows.
 
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TitanicVolz said:
Prayers for everyone on this peticular subject,I'm actually in the mist of very very similar situations with my wife.I casual drink few times a month,but she's 10 yrs n on a 5th a day now.That really hit home for me I prefer not to put it all on here but she refuses to see a doctor or anything.Im at a loss at this point and I know what that stuff can do I lost my father in 2019 over alcohol.Reading what u both wrote let's me know that I'm not wrong in the things I'm telling her and how I feel this is going to end.Thanks for sharing its appreciative and why I enjoy this place some amazing people here.
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Stand your ground on this but you gotta know ahead of time she will not like it at all. But you are most certainly in the right. Maybe start with trying to get her to reduce the amount of alcohol she is consuming or if you can get her off hard liquour and on to wine or beer. She'll still get her buzz in but hard liquor is so much worse on the body. I know for a lot of people abstaining completely is the only way but when you're just starting to deal with a problem reduction is a path to consider. There's no easy answers here but that's what I would try first. Most of all know that you're doing the right thing even if she says hateful or manipulative things about it -- that's the addiction talking.
 
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SweetasSoda said:
Thank you so much, Red! He wants to want to quit because he knows he needs to, but he has struggled. Each time he gets a little closer to following through. He is going to the doctor tomorrow that he talked to last fall and gave him some that are supposed to help. Prayers that he can sleep tonight because he is anxious about going and not drinking.
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I think I’ve told you before, but I know what he’s going through. I struggled with the same thing for years. If there’s anything you want to ask or whatever, I’m always open to talk. Just let me know! In the meantime, I’ll be praying for you all
 
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TitanicVolz said:
Prayers for everyone on this peticular subject,I'm actually in the mist of very very similar situations with my wife.I casual drink few times a month,but she's 10 yrs n on a 5th a day now.That really hit home for me I prefer not to put it all on here but she refuses to see a doctor or anything.Im at a loss at this point and I know what that stuff can do I lost my father in 2019 over alcohol.Reading what u both wrote let's me know that I'm not wrong in the things I'm telling her and how I feel this is going to end.Thanks for sharing its appreciative and why I enjoy this place some amazing people here.
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Alcohol is truly the devil...I battled alcoholism for 20 years... Finally took the proper steps to get my life in order... Been sober for 4 years now...I still fight it every day, but know where all that leads for me.. I'll pray for u and your family
 
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SweetasSoda said:
So sorry! Will be praying for you also!
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Will pray for u and yours as I was in the same boat as your husband... It almost killed me a couple times with my health... Got sober 4 years ago after battling alcoholism for 20 years of my life...I hope your husband finds it within himself to do the same
 
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