A tale of two Dads-
Dad 1 never owned a new vehicle, bass boat, 4-wheeler, pontoon, camper, took lavish vacations, had an expensive gun collection, expensive fishing equipment or really did anything frivolous ever. After saving, scratching, clawing, working long hours and investing, he accumulated $150k. He bought each child a sensible new vehicle that would last 10+ years and gave each child $50k for college and said do what you wish...go to community college and pocket the rest, go be a doctor and figure out the rest of it. Both did well with their funds and education.
Dad 1's coworker Dad-2 constantly traded for a new full size GMC. Last count was 6 new trucks in the last 8 years. He's had multiple bass boats with each being more impressive than the last. He's upgraded campers several times and now has a 5th wheel. Skiing is also a big thing for Dad 2. Poor Dad 2 says "well, my kids are almost done with high school and we have nothing for them. We just couldn't afford to put any money back for them." Dad 2 has a higher salary than Dad 1.
Dad 1 will be livid if the debt of Dad 2's kids is magically wiped away.