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Christian Lowe said:
Personal request for advice here. Keep in mind I’m 25, and my girlfriend is 23.

My grandma needs 24/7 care now so i might have to move in with her since I’m the only one out of her 4 kids and 10 grand kids willing to help her. Do you think they will let me out of my lease to live with her for medical circumstances? My girlfriend and honestly my primary concern is our sex life disappearing and that would put a strain on us for sure.. but at this point I’d rather the ole lady get fed up and leave than not do everything I can to keep my grandmother alive as long as possible.
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Christian Lowe said:
to be fair I bought those for my girlfriend who wanted truly’s. I drink cervezas almost exclusively. Corona, modelo, Pacifico, tecate
I’ll probably have to do that anyways with how much random **** has broken in the place just by way of having cats knock **** over. I have candle wax all over the carpet in one spot.
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Cats and candles...so you are either a witch or just weird.


Why not both?
 
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@Christian Lowe this is a tough one. On one hand meemaw doesn't want you to sacrifice an unknown amount of your young life to care for her. On the other hand, I can understand your concern so the issue is how independent can she be? Maybe moving closer to keep an eye out is a better idea. Or moving her closer to you. Does she have a decent amount of retirement left or is it SS?
 
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Hardy said:
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What the **** is that supposed to mean?

bignewt said:
Cats and candles...so you are either a witch or just weird.


Why not both?
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girlfriend is into candles. admittedly, the cats are mine.
utvols88 said:
@Christian Lowe this is a tough one. On one hand meemaw doesn't want you to sacrifice an unknown amount of your young life to care for her. On the other hand, I can understand your concern so the issue is how independent can she be? Maybe moving closer to keep an eye out is a better idea. Or moving her closer to you. Does she have a decent amount of retirement left or is it SS?
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She’s got my deceased grandfather’s pension and SS. Financially, she’s perfectly fine. However, she requires 24 hour a day assistance. It’s not a matter of living closer. All of her kids and grandkids live within 30 minutes of her.. it’s just someone willing to actually stay with her and help her now that she’s not entirely independent. Turns out, a 25 year old former drug addict who stole from her in the past is the only one who cares enough to make sure she’s okay.
 
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Christian Lowe said:
What the **** is that supposed to mean?


girlfriend is into candles. admittedly, the cats are mine.

She’s got my deceased grandfather’s pension and SS. Financially, she’s perfectly fine. However, she requires 24 hour a day assistance. It’s not a matter of living closer. All of her kids and grandkids live within 30 minutes of her.. it’s just someone willing to actually stay with her and help her now that she’s not entirely independent. Turns out, a 25 year old former drug addict who stole from her in the past is the only one who cares enough to make sure she’s okay.
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I would maintain separation but be close enough to check several times a day. As far as 24 hour care, I'd honestly look into a living facility. A Place For Mom can help select one. Alot of those places have tiers of living. Independent to semi assisted, assisted living and memory care. I'd hit them up.
 
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utvols88 said:
I would maintain separation but be close enough to check several times a day. As far as 24 hour care, I'd honestly look into a living facility. A Place For Mom can help select one. Alot of those places have tiers of living. Independent to semi assisted, assisted living and memory care. I'd hit them up.
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My aunt, who is the only other one receptive to helping but happens to have a husband, career and kids in Columbia about 2 hours away.. has tried to pitch that idea. She’s utterly refused to leave her home. In her words, “this is my home and I will die in my home come hell or high water.”
 
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Christian Lowe said:
My aunt, who is the only other one receptive to helping but happens to have a husband, career and kids in Columbia about 2 hours away.. has tried to pitch that idea. She’s utterly refused to leave her home. In her words, “this is my home and I will die in my home come hell or high water.”
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Then burn it to the ground so she doesn't have a choice. I'm kidding. Don't do that.
 
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Christian Lowe said:
What the **** is that supposed to mean?


girlfriend is into candles. admittedly, the cats are mine.

She’s got my deceased grandfather’s pension and SS. Financially, she’s perfectly fine. However, she requires 24 hour a day assistance. It’s not a matter of living closer. All of her kids and grandkids live within 30 minutes of her.. it’s just someone willing to actually stay with her and help her now that she’s not entirely independent. Turns out, a 25 year old former drug addict who stole from her in the past is the only one who cares enough to make sure she’s okay.
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Sorry. I said doubtful because most leases will not allow you to terminate early without a monetary punishment that prevents said breakage. If you have a copy of the lease, it should be fairly clear. You can surely request a mutual termination. Your relationship with the landlord and the neighborhood/ability to re-rent will be important. It is also a particularly difficult time for landlords right now because of the eviction moratorium.
 
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Hardy said:
Sorry. I said doubtful because most leases will not allow you to terminate early without a monetary punishment that prevents said breakage. If you have a copy of the lease, it should be fairly clear. You can surely request a mutual termination. Your relationship with the landlord and the neighborhood/ability to re-rent will be important. It is also a particularly difficult time for landlords right now because of the eviction moratorium.
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Ah. I thought it was an attack. My bad for getting defensive. They like me, ive been a very quiet tenant, which is a good tenant lol. Always pay rent on time, etc. if the financial penalty is too much for me to stomach, I’m sure the rest of my family would pitch in to pay it just to ensure responsibility is on my shoulders rather than theirs. But we will see.
 
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Christian Lowe said:
What the **** is that supposed to mean?


girlfriend is into candles. admittedly, the cats are mine.

She’s got my deceased grandfather’s pension and SS. Financially, she’s perfectly fine. However, she requires 24 hour a day assistance. It’s not a matter of living closer. All of her kids and grandkids live within 30 minutes of her.. it’s just someone willing to actually stay with her and help her now that she’s not entirely independent. Turns out, a 25 year old former drug addict who stole from her in the past is the only one who cares enough to make sure she’s okay.
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Advice from someone in a similar situation. My dad is to the point he needs someone with him at night specifically. He can be left alone but he needs someone to help him get to bed, help if he needs it in the middle of the night, help getting up, dressed and with breakfast. That has fallen to me and my sister. We alternate nights. When I can't do it, my son, who's a college kid, stays with him. It absolutely means the world to my dad. He goes on and on about how special "that kid" is. I bet your grandmother will feel the same way.
 
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