Oh, I totally get what the OP is saying.
There is a huge difference between measured critique and thoughtless vitriol. Far too much of the latter in the world, and a fair share of it finds its way here.
Those who are twisting the OP into a cry for a safe space (it's not) or a plea for rainbows and unicorns (it's not) are (intentionally or not) letting the OP's point fly right over their heads.
He's simply asking for a place where fans can gather and discuss Tennessee football without insulting or unreasonable negativity (and a second spot where other fans can gather to revel in their NegaVolness). For the former, a spot where folks are mature enough not to let their emotions run away with them, even during and after a loss. Where folks share ideas like, you know, adults.
I get it, OP. And I agree with you.
It'll never happen.