Recruiting Forum: Football Talk XV

[pattiycake]

Life is hard man, hang in there. We can take your rants all day if that's what you need. Praying for you brother. Hang on to that grace.

+1 I'm praying too!

 

[rocktopper16]

So..cool story bro moment..

Some of you guys know I've been going through an extremely rough & depressing time lately.

My mom almost passed away multiple times at the hospital over the past month..anyway my longtime girlfriend of 6 years took a break from me the week my mom got sick..she said she just wanted a little break & that she wanted us to get back together & start a family together in the future...Lol well the whole time my moms laying on her death bed & I thought she was about to die this girl wouldn't even speak to me. I was at the lowest point I've ever been in my life & she wouldn't even give me the time of day..and now I find out that she had already been with some other guy THREE DAYS after she wanted a break from me Lol..6 freaking years loving this girl with all of my heart and soul being good to her & never not once even thinking about being unfaithful or not treating her good & this is what I get..life really sucks sometimes.

Sorry guys..just needed to rant.

Dude.. I'm sorry. I do hope God puts his healing hands on your mother..

I got a story for you though

My cousin Philip had a step brother John and he had been in a relationship with a girl for 5 years. He had just got home from his deployment and she asked him the same for a small break to get her head back on.

That night she died in a car crash with the guy she had been cheating on him with. Karma is a beeeitch.

 

[TriedAndTrueVOL]

Life is hard man, hang in there. We can take your rants all day if that's what you need. Praying for you brother. Hang on to that grace.

This. You deserve better man. Thoughts and prayers...

 

[flowd82]

So..cool story bro moment..

Some of you guys know I've been going through an extremely rough & depressing time lately.

My mom almost passed away multiple times at the hospital over the past month..anyway my longtime girlfriend of 6 years took a break from me the week my mom got sick..she said she just wanted a little break & that she wanted us to get back together & start a family together in the future...Lol well the whole time my moms laying on her death bed & I thought she was about to die this girl wouldn't even speak to me. I was at the lowest point I've ever been in my life & she wouldn't even give me the time of day..and now I find out that she had already been with some other guy THREE DAYS after she wanted a break from me Lol..6 freaking years loving this girl with all of my heart and soul being good to her & never not once even thinking about being unfaithful or not treating her good & this is what I get..life really sucks sometimes.

Sorry guys..just needed to rant.

F*** her sister, IMO.

 

[Catbone]

Thoughts and prayers with you Grace

 

[zhangliao04]

So..cool story bro moment..

Some of you guys know I've been going through an extremely rough & depressing time lately.

My mom almost passed away multiple times at the hospital over the past month..anyway my longtime girlfriend of 6 years took a break from me the week my mom got sick..she said she just wanted a little break & that she wanted us to get back together & start a family together in the future...Lol well the whole time my moms laying on her death bed & I thought she was about to die this girl wouldn't even speak to me. I was at the lowest point I've ever been in my life & she wouldn't even give me the time of day..and now I find out that she had already been with some other guy THREE DAYS after she wanted a break from me Lol..6 freaking years loving this girl with all of my heart and soul being good to her & never not once even thinking about being unfaithful or not treating her good & this is what I get..life really sucks sometimes.

Sorry guys..just needed to rant.

Bro, I got nothing that can help your pain. There are no words that I can say that will cure your heartache. But, there is one thing that is certain and that is that God will take care of you. I know it sucks. I know it hurts. I had 2 girls break up with me in almost the exact same way (one leaving me for a guy she basically had been seeing while we were together). I will pray for you. Also, let me give you some words of advice: do not let yourself go down the path of hate. Focus fully on God and trust Him that He will heal your broken heart and spirit. It will take time, but the beauty out of all of this is that you now know where she truly stands. You don't want that. You don't deserve that. You deserve someone who will be with you by your side through the thick and thin. If you allow hate and anger to control you here it will only take so much longer to get over it. I promise you that. Let God's love win the day and restore you to where He wants you to be. If you need anything you can email me at jlang5@vols.utk.edu

 

[DD4ME]

Bro, I got nothing that can help your pain. There are no words that I can say that will cure your heartache. But, there is one thing that is certain and that is that God will take care of you. I know it sucks. I know it hurts. I had 2 girls break up with me in almost the exact same way (one leaving me for a guy she basically had been seeing while we were together). I will pray for you. Also, let me give you some words of advice: do not let yourself go down the path of hate. Focus fully on God and trust Him that He will heal your broken heart and spirit. It will take time, but the beauty out of all of this is that you now know where she truly stands. You don't want that. You don't deserve that. You deserve someone who will be with you by your side through the thick and thin. If you allow hate and anger to control you here it will only take so much longer to get over it. I promise you that. Let God's love win the day and restore you to where He wants you to be. If you need anything you can email me at jlang5@vols.utk.edu

Well said. Prayers Grace. You deserve better.

 

[UTProf]

So..cool story bro moment..

Some of you guys know I've been going through an extremely rough & depressing time lately.

My mom almost passed away multiple times at the hospital over the past month..anyway my longtime girlfriend of 6 years took a break from me the week my mom got sick..she said she just wanted a little break & that she wanted us to get back together & start a family together in the future...Lol well the whole time my moms laying on her death bed & I thought she was about to die this girl wouldn't even speak to me. I was at the lowest point I've ever been in my life & she wouldn't even give me the time of day..and now I find out that she had already been with some other guy THREE DAYS after she wanted a break from me Lol..6 freaking years loving this girl with all of my heart and soul being good to her & never not once even thinking about being unfaithful or not treating her good & this is what I get..life really sucks sometimes.

Sorry guys..just needed to rant.

I kept waiting for the cool story part and instead it just kept getting worse. hmy:

I'm sorry you're going through so much all at once but anyone who can't even support you when you need it most isn't someone you need in your life - not as a friend and certainly not as a girlfriend. It sucks and it won't make the pain go away but you're better off without her in your life.

 

[Aesius]

So..cool story bro moment..

Some of you guys know I've been going through an extremely rough & depressing time lately.

My mom almost passed away multiple times at the hospital over the past month..anyway my longtime girlfriend of 6 years took a break from me the week my mom got sick..she said she just wanted a little break & that she wanted us to get back together & start a family together in the future...Lol well the whole time my moms laying on her death bed & I thought she was about to die this girl wouldn't even speak to me. I was at the lowest point I've ever been in my life & she wouldn't even give me the time of day..and now I find out that she had already been with some other guy THREE DAYS after she wanted a break from me Lol..6 freaking years loving this girl with all of my heart and soul being good to her & never not once even thinking about being unfaithful or not treating her good & this is what I get..life really sucks sometimes.

Sorry guys..just needed to rant.

If she was willing to drop everything you had just like that, she wasn't the one anyway.

You'll find someone much better than her.

 

[VolFromNashville]

So..cool story bro moment..

Some of you guys know I've been going through an extremely rough & depressing time lately.

My mom almost passed away multiple times at the hospital over the past month..anyway my longtime girlfriend of 6 years took a break from me the week my mom got sick..she said she just wanted a little break & that she wanted us to get back together & start a family together in the future...Lol well the whole time my moms laying on her death bed & I thought she was about to die this girl wouldn't even speak to me. I was at the lowest point I've ever been in my life & she wouldn't even give me the time of day..and now I find out that she had already been with some other guy THREE DAYS after she wanted a break from me Lol..6 freaking years loving this girl with all of my heart and soul being good to her & never not once even thinking about being unfaithful or not treating her good & this is what I get..life really sucks sometimes.

Sorry guys..just needed to rant.

Hate to hear that for you man. She's definitely not worth it. Focus on your mom and yourself for awhile. Find some good books to read, workout, volunteer. Those can help, especially over time.

 

[amazingGRACE]

Thanks so much guys..honestly just reading words of encouragement helps so much. I've never been a fan of someone bragging on themselves but I would consider myself a good person..I've never hurt anybody in my life & I honestly don't have the heart to even if I tried. I know people are going through much worse than me right now but this pain and torment is something real to me and I've never experienced before in my 22 years..i feel so bad for putting it out there but I don't really have anybody else to tell it to.

We spend so much time trying to take care of my mama I can't burden my family with this. Thanks guys..honest to God if I could ever do anything for any of y'all I would in a heartbeat I promise.

 

[TriedAndTrueVOL]

Thanks so much guys..honestly just reading words of encouragement helps so much. I've never been a fan of someone bragging on themselves but I would consider myself a good person..I've never hurt anybody in my life & I honestly don't have the heart to even if I tried. I know people are going through much worse than me right now but this pain and torment is something real to me and I've never experienced before in my 22 years..i feel so bad for putting it out there but I don't really have anybody else to tell it to.

We spend so much time trying to take care of my mama I can't burden my family with this. Thanks guys..honest to God if I could ever do anything for any of y'all I would in a heartbeat I promise.

Hey, we're one big family. It does make things easier. You can always talk to us knuckleheads

 

[Maxwell]

Grace, hang in there and trust in God. He has a plan. My ex put me through it. We had 3 kids and she ups and decides she wants a divorce. She was cheating on me but I did not know it at the time. Within a year after the divorce I met my future wife in a church bowling league of all places. We have been married for 25 years ! Will be 26 in Jan. I will be praying for you. It will work out !!!

 

[JacketVol]

Thanks so much guys..honestly just reading words of encouragement helps so much. I've never been a fan of someone bragging on themselves but I would consider myself a good person..I've never hurt anybody in my life & I honestly don't have the heart to even if I tried. I know people are going through much worse than me right now but this pain and torment is something real to me and I've never experienced before in my 22 years..i feel so bad for putting it out there but I don't really have anybody else to tell it to.

We spend so much time trying to take care of my mama I can't burden my family with this. Thanks guys..honest to God if I could ever do anything for any of y'all I would in a heartbeat I promise.

The advice Z gave you is solid. Others said you deserve better and they are right. Be glad you are finding this out now before you had kids with her and stuff. Small light at the end of the tunnel. Hang in there and you will find the right one and they will be your true friend even when the fire comes at you.

 

[zhangliao04]

Thanks so much guys..honestly just reading words of encouragement helps so much. I've never been a fan of someone bragging on themselves but I would consider myself a good person..I've never hurt anybody in my life & I honestly don't have the heart to even if I tried. I know people are going through much worse than me right now but this pain and torment is something real to me and I've never experienced before in my 22 years..i feel so bad for putting it out there but I don't really have anybody else to tell it to.

We spend so much time trying to take care of my mama I can't burden my family with this. Thanks guys..honest to God if I could ever do anything for any of y'all I would in a heartbeat I promise.

God said in His Word to bear each others burdens and pray for/each other. I know I have never met you before, but being a Christ follower makes you a brother in Christ to me. So, anytime you need encouragement or time to talk about a praise then let it loose.

Also, 22 years old man you got time lol

 

[amazingGRACE]

God said in His Word to bear each others burdens and pray for/each other. I know I have never met you before, but being a Christ follower makes you a brother in Christ to me. So, anytime you need encouragement or time to talk about a praise then let it loose.

Also, 22 years old man you got time lol

Thanks man honestly it means a lot to me.

Yeah I know I'm young but this is the only girl I've ever wanted to be with in my life. We were together when I was younger like super young..from 6th to 8th grade & we broke up in high school. Got back together my senior year & we always agreed that we always knew God would bring us back together and we were meant to be. She's really I've ever known & was my best friend in the world.

Idk..it's just hard to wrap your brain around how somebody could do you like that when you were so good to them. Oh well..guess it's just life eh?

 

[zhangliao04]

Thanks man honestly it means a lot to me.

Yeah I know I'm young but this is the only girl I've ever wanted to be with in my life. We were together when I was younger like super young..from 6th to 8th grade & we broke up in high school. Got back together my senior year & we always agreed that we always knew God would bring us back together and we were meant to be. She's really I've ever known & was my best friend in the world.

Idk..it's just hard to wrap your brain around how somebody could do you like that when you were so good to them. Oh well..guess it's just life eh?

Yeah man, no prob bro. I gotcha.

It does suck. I have never been in a relationship that long with one person before (longest for me was 2.25 years). But, I'm sure after going through it your mind is spinning in circles trying to make sense of everything. You know, the last relationship I was in I 100% without a doubt knew I would marry that girl. I had this sense of peace about it that I couldn't explain and I loved her. We spent so much time together and were best friends. But, she decided to end it. Sent me through a whirlwind asking myself "what did I do" and "if only I would have...". I was pretty down, my heart ached and spirit was crushed. I never bad mouthed her or anything like that (although I did believe she made a bad choice which is not bad in and of itself). I decided to take the high road with that stuff. But, what got me through was focusig all of my energy on allowing God to heal me. Not living in the "what if..." or being angry and bad mouthing her and what not because that will seriously drain you of more energy and even more happiness. (Not saying you are doing it, just giving my story). Many things in life will never be fully understood. It is life, but you have a choice. Do you want this situation to control you? Or do you want to control the situation by allowing God to have the reigns and heal your broken heart and shattered spirit? I know it is hard, but trust me when I say it is worth it to focus on God and give everything you got into allowing Him to heal you.

Btw, I'm not too much older than you. I'm sitting here at the ripe old age of 26 lol. Just a few more months until 27. So we can relate pretty well age-wise.

 

[RiotVol]

Thanks so much guys..honestly just reading words of encouragement helps so much. I've never been a fan of someone bragging on themselves but I would consider myself a good person..I've never hurt anybody in my life & I honestly don't have the heart to even if I tried. I know people are going through much worse than me right now but this pain and torment is something real to me and I've never experienced before in my 22 years..i feel so bad for putting it out there but I don't really have anybody else to tell it to.

We spend so much time trying to take care of my mama I can't burden my family with this. Thanks guys..honest to God if I could ever do anything for any of y'all I would in a heartbeat I promise.

Wishing you the best, man.

 

[Catbone]

For the love of all thing Holy, if you're planning on going to fernandina beach (you should) GO TO TASTYS BURGERS! It's the bomb.

 

[amazingGRACE]

Yeah man, no prob bro. I gotcha.

It does suck. I have never been in a relationship that long with one person before (longest for me was 2.25 years). But, I'm sure after going through it your mind is spinning in circles trying to make sense of everything. You know, the last relationship I was in I 100% without a doubt knew I would marry that girl. I had this sense of peace about it that I couldn't explain and I loved her. We spent so much time together and were best friends. But, she decided to end it. Sent me through a whirlwind asking myself "what did I do" and "if only I would have...". I was pretty down, my heart ached and spirit was crushed. I never bad mouthed her or anything like that (although I did believe she made a bad choice which is not bad in and of itself). I decided to take the high road with that stuff. But, what got me through was focusig all of my energy on allowing God to heal me. Not living in the "what if..." or being angry and bad mouthing her and what not because that will seriously drain you of more energy and even more happiness. (Not saying you are doing it, just giving my story). Many things in life will never be fully understood. It is life, but you have a choice. Do you want this situation to control you? Or do you want to control the situation by allowing God to have the reigns and heal your broken heart and shattered spirit? I know it is hard, but trust me when I say it is worth it to focus on God and give everything you got into allowing Him to heal you.

Btw, I'm not too much older than you. I'm sitting here at the ripe old age of 26 lol. Just a few more months until 27. So we can relate pretty well age-wise.

Yeah I agree. I've already beat myself up enough over this past month because I felt there was something wrong with me & that's why she needed a break..the whole time I've been trying to make myself better & take care of mom thinking one day soon we'd get back together..it was just finding that out tonight is what really hurt me. Oh well.

Thanks for taking your time to talk..I know you didn't have to do that at all. Everybody that has said something..I appreciate it and it means a lot.

 

[RockyTop411]

amazingGrace...

I'm sorry about that man, I truly am. That's an awful experience and I couldn't imagine going through it myself, but as Z said, God will ALWAYS have your back. Pray, pray, and keep praying. Try not to think of the negatives in your life, but the positives you have going for you. I know it's hard, but it's a little advice to try and make things better. I can't offer any true advice, because I've never been in that situation, and I wish I could, but I can pray for you and I will. Feel free to say a prayer for me as well, anyone, because I'm also going through one of the toughest times in my life as well. I'd appreciate any prayers guys, and I will pray for you and your situation. Don't ever underestimate the power of prayer and the power of our God and what He can do! God bless.

 

[jjay2518]

Thanks man honestly it means a lot to me.

Yeah I know I'm young but this is the only girl I've ever wanted to be with in my life. We were together when I was younger like super young..from 6th to 8th grade & we broke up in high school. Got back together my senior year & we always agreed that we always knew God would bring us back together and we were meant to be. She's really I've ever known & was my best friend in the world.

Idk..it's just hard to wrap your brain around how somebody could do you like that when you were so good to them. Oh well..guess it's just life eh?

They really sucks man. Like others have said she obviously wasn'the one if she was willing to do this to you. Just try and remember that somewhere out there there's a girl who can make you wonder how you could ever think anyone else was the one. You seem like a good dude, so I'm sure you'll have plenty of other chances in the future.

I'm not old by any means (31), but I've been through enough really crappy situations to know that time really can heal all wounds of you let it. Just try and keep a positive attitude, ask for help when you need it, and slowly it'll keep getting easier to deal with.

And any time you need to vent we're all just a click away.

 

[SmokinBob]

Yeah I agree. I've already beat myself up enough over this past month because I felt there was something wrong with me & that's why she needed a break..the whole time I've been trying to make myself better & take care of mom thinking one day soon we'd get back together..it was just finding that out tonight is what really hurt me. Oh well.

Thanks for taking your time to talk..I know you didn't have to do that at all. Everybody that has said something..I appreciate it and it means a lot.

Sometimes...thank God for unanswered prayers.....

 

[LurtzVol109]

Thanks so much guys..honestly just reading words of encouragement helps so much. I've never been a fan of someone bragging on themselves but I would consider myself a good person..I've never hurt anybody in my life & I honestly don't have the heart to even if I tried. I know people are going through much worse than me right now but this pain and torment is something real to me and I've never experienced before in my 22 years..i feel so bad for putting it out there but I don't really have anybody else to tell it to.

We spend so much time trying to take care of my mama I can't burden my family with this. Thanks guys..honest to God if I could ever do anything for any of y'all I would in a heartbeat I promise.

My best friend of 8 years, fiance of three turned into a heroin addicted prostitute while I was in the Q Course and aborted my child and proceeded to cheat on me with 68 different guys (that she could remember). The depression has cost me my military career and I'm only just starting to gain something resembling normal when I found out my grandma has lymphoma last week. I feel your pain. Prayers go out to you grace.

 

[volssam]

There can be a lot of bad stuff and bad things in this world and life. Sometimes it seems to pile on at once. Makes it tough.

Will pray for ya AG. You too Lurtz