Been married nearly 11 years. Wife miscarried a long time ago. Then she got stage 3 colon cancer. She beat it. 3 years later we started trying again. We were told she might not be able to have a baby because of chemo. We tried hard for like 2 years. We got to the point 2 years ago where we wrote it off. We weren't going to worry about it and if it didn't happen by age 35 (for her), we were going to adopt...and we were happy with that outlook. Then out of nowhere, she got pregnant. a little girl is coming in August.
I suggest you watch the movie Lion. It will make you feel great about the prospect of adoption. We decided we didn't want to spend a ton of money on a science baby when there are so many kids who need a good home. We may still end up adopting.
Good luck with everything.
