This is the one! And I'm grateful it's not moving like before. We're not all on tenterhooks, waiting for the next news flash.
No one has officially said anything about Gruden, including that he was even in play in the first place. My own opinion, based on nothing much other than how it went down, is that he was intrigued with the idea of coaching football, but that's all it was, and he was never really committed to making the jump. I think UT did all that was reasonable (and more), and in the end, he said no. And that's OK, although frustrating.
I said a few times before that although I was OK to shoot the moon for salary (with other people's money, lol), I was VERY nervous about establishing a precedent of a $10 million salary. When the time came for him to move on, how do you tell the next candidate, "Yeah, we'll go $7 mill, even $7.5" when you've already shown that you'd pay 10?
At any rate, we're all glad that you're back, and thoughts and prayers for your family at this time.