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I know it blows, but you did the right thing.Sorry for the long post with not much dinner news ( metal people may skip to the last paragraph).
Just got off the phone with the memory care director where we moved /placed my dad into a room yesterday and overall things went pretty good last night but he was resistive and combative with staff but was expected. He had bit me a few days ago when we trying to get him changed for bed and he has bruised hands on mom and 2 ladies helping In the past several weeks. For someone so weak and frail and who’s unable to dress, change diaper ,feed, or walk the man has hand strength of a 25 yo weightlifter. As one of the hospice nurses said “your dad isn’t hitting and biting you the Alzheimer’s disease is hitting you your dad is a kind gentle man being controlled by a terrible disease we can’t fix”. moving him should have happened several months ago as we were committed to keeping dad at home as long as possible but mom had to get there mentally. 3.5 years we managed to keep him in his home which more than anyone could expect. By the time she did corona changed the game completely but we got there at long last.
My mom is at my house and we (me and my wife) were up at 630 with coffee,talking a bit and crying a bit wondering how dad did last night so we called to see about 9am and will FaceTime with the director and she will video with dad around lunchtime. He is unable to form many coherent thoughts/ sentences but she did say he was asking for my mom and thank God I wasn’t on speaker for my mom to hear. She was sitting there crying listening to the one way good news I was conveying.
He is in 14 day quarantine and no visitors for at least 30 days so mom is really upset nobody can go visit ( thus the abandoned comments) but we will get through. MY daughter in law brought our granddaughter up this am so my mom is distracted playing with her great grandaughter for the first time in 2+months so that should help the pain some today! Thanks so much for the prayers and kind thoughts and as I said it’s somewhat uplifting for me to just read this thread and share a bit With the great folks here!
@Tin Man as promised my wife wanted to fix something comforting for us after mom said “ toughest day of my life abandoning my husband of 58 years to strangers”. We had one of our farm raised meat chickens that turned into chicken and pastry with side of English green peas and was a pleasant ending to an absolutely terrible (but the right decision) day.
thank you friends!![]()
Hang in there brother. My prayers are with you and your family.Sorry for the long post with not much dinner news ( metal people may skip to the last paragraph).
Just got off the phone with the memory care director where we moved /placed my dad into a room yesterday and overall things went pretty good last night but he was resistive and combative with staff but was expected. He had bit me a few days ago when we trying to get him changed for bed and he has bruised hands on mom and 2 ladies helping In the past several weeks. For someone so weak and frail and who’s unable to dress, change diaper ,feed, or walk the man has hand strength of a 25 yo weightlifter. As one of the hospice nurses said “your dad isn’t hitting and biting you the Alzheimer’s disease is hitting you your dad is a kind gentle man being controlled by a terrible disease we can’t fix”. moving him should have happened several months ago as we were committed to keeping dad at home as long as possible but mom had to get there mentally. 3.5 years we managed to keep him in his home which more than anyone could expect. By the time she did corona changed the game completely but we got there at long last.
My mom is at my house and we (me and my wife) were up at 630 with coffee,talking a bit and crying a bit wondering how dad did last night so we called to see about 9am and will FaceTime with the director and she will video with dad around lunchtime. He is unable to form many coherent thoughts/ sentences but she did say he was asking for my mom and thank God I wasn’t on speaker for my mom to hear. She was sitting there crying listening to the one way good news I was conveying.
He is in 14 day quarantine and no visitors for at least 30 days so mom is really upset nobody can go visit ( thus the abandoned comments) but we will get through. MY daughter in law brought our granddaughter up this am so my mom is distracted playing with her great grandaughter for the first time in 2+months so that should help the pain some today! Thanks so much for the prayers and kind thoughts and as I said it’s somewhat uplifting for me to just read this thread and share a bit With the great folks here!
@Tin Man as promised my wife wanted to fix something comforting for us after mom said “ toughest day of my life abandoning my husband of 58 years to strangers”. We had one of our farm raised meat chickens that turned into chicken and pastry with side of English green peas and was a pleasant ending to an absolutely terrible (but the right decision) day.
thank you friends!![]()
She's a keeper.I ze b wrking, me wife b cooking...LOL Came home She had smoked a Pork Shoulder Roast on the grill and planted 8 shrubs.View attachment 271958
I ze b wrking, me wife b cooking...LOL Came home She had smoked a Pork Shoulder Roast on the grill and planted 8 shrubs.View attachment 271958
