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GBO2011 said:
I need some help. So back in December, my Gigi passed away from lung cancer. For most of my life her husband (not my grandfather, he got in a car accident when my dad was young) treated me fine and all, but, as I’ve grown up, I’ve seen things and found out how much he treated my dad like ****, and the last couple of visits to see her, it felt like he was that one person who follows you around everywhere in the house like a stalker like he’s hiding something. I also found out that before my dad met my mom, that lying sack of **** had been cheating on her for almost a decade. He purposely tried to keep my dad out of there for a long time even after she started to show severe memory loss. Hell, she had OCD, and when she died, part of what killed her was cause there was so much cat piss in the air poisoning her lungs because of how bad that house had gotten. I have hated that man since her passing because I watched for years him treating her like a toy you can just throw away. Will I go to hell if I can’t find it in my heart to forgive him, and if so then that’s a major problem with Christianity because that man is a lying pos
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The major problem is with people and the choices they make. God loves all of us. We choose to either accept and follow Christ or not.
Jeremiah says
"The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?"
The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?"
Forgiving the person is for you. Turn it over to God and trust Him. Don't let it fester into hate.
 
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GBO2011 said:
I need some help. So back in December, my Gigi passed away from lung cancer. For most of my life her husband (not my grandfather, he got in a car accident when my dad was young) treated me fine and all, but, as I’ve grown up, I’ve seen things and found out how much he treated my dad like ****, and the last couple of visits to see her, it felt like he was that one person who follows you around everywhere in the house like a stalker like he’s hiding something. I also found out that before my dad met my mom, that lying sack of **** had been cheating on her for almost a decade. He purposely tried to keep my dad out of there for a long time even after she started to show severe memory loss. Hell, she had OCD, and when she died, part of what killed her was cause there was so much cat piss in the air poisoning her lungs because of how bad that house had gotten. I have hated that man since her passing because I watched for years him treating her like a toy you can just throw away. Will I go to hell if I can’t find it in my heart to forgive him, and if so then that’s a major problem with Christianity because that man is a lying pos
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I could understand that he would be really difficult to forgive. And yet, if over time, you could eventually find a way to do it, that would free a part of you that's all knotted up.

I have had to learn to let go of some grudges that I held onto for the longest time. Part of what helped me was realizing that I couldn't hardly ask God to forgive me unless I could extend the same to others. I hope you can find that peace some day.
 
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GBO2011 said:
I need some help. So back in December, my Gigi passed away from lung cancer. For most of my life her husband (not my grandfather, he got in a car accident when my dad was young) treated me fine and all, but, as I’ve grown up, I’ve seen things and found out how much he treated my dad like ****, and the last couple of visits to see her, it felt like he was that one person who follows you around everywhere in the house like a stalker like he’s hiding something. I also found out that before my dad met my mom, that lying sack of **** had been cheating on her for almost a decade. He purposely tried to keep my dad out of there for a long time even after she started to show severe memory loss. Hell, she had OCD, and when she died, part of what killed her was cause there was so much cat piss in the air poisoning her lungs because of how bad that house had gotten. I have hated that man since her passing because I watched for years him treating her like a toy you can just throw away. Will I go to hell if I can’t find it in my heart to forgive him, and if so then that’s a major problem with Christianity because that man is a lying pos
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There's the old saying forgive and forget. Not exactly real life though. You just need to find that happy place that you understand forgiving is not holding on to anger that destroys from within and trust in God's grace, and his judgement. It is not yours to bear. I'm kind of in a similar boat, except with my parent's doctor, and what i perceived was mismanaged care. And I went to church with one of them. Gotta let those grudges go. When that doc looked at me and said he was upset too when he saw how many prescriptions my mom had been given by her specialists. I point blank told him he was her PCP and that was his job. I've not been back in that church since to avoid seeing him and what else I might say. It's neither healthy, nor biblical. Has had an affect on me physiacally and spititually and i'm working through it. And it helps to understand that forgiveness is not for the other person. It's for you.
 
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Mark 12

6Are not five sparrows sold for two farthings, and not one of them is forgotten before God? 7But even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not therefore: ye are of more value than many sparrows. 8Also I say unto you, Whosoever shall confess me before men, him shall the Son of man also confess before the angels of God: 9But he that denieth me before men shall be denied before the angels of God.
 
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Psalms 36:7​

7How excellent is thy lovingkindness, O God!, therefore the children of men put their trust under the shadow of thy wings. 8They shall be abundantly satisfied with the fatness of thy house; and thou shalt make them drink of the river of thy pleasures. 9For with thee is the fountain of life: in thy light shall we see light
 
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GBO2011 said:
I need some help. So back in December, my Gigi passed away from lung cancer. For most of my life her husband (not my grandfather, he got in a car accident when my dad was young) treated me fine and all, but, as I’ve grown up, I’ve seen things and found out how much he treated my dad like ****, and the last couple of visits to see her, it felt like he was that one person who follows you around everywhere in the house like a stalker like he’s hiding something. I also found out that before my dad met my mom, that lying sack of **** had been cheating on her for almost a decade. He purposely tried to keep my dad out of there for a long time even after she started to show severe memory loss. Hell, she had OCD, and when she died, part of what killed her was cause there was so much cat piss in the air poisoning her lungs because of how bad that house had gotten. I have hated that man since her passing because I watched for years him treating her like a toy you can just throw away. Will I go to hell if I can’t find it in my heart to forgive him, and if so then that’s a major problem with Christianity because that man is a lying pos
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Well before talking this through, are you a follower of Jesus?

Your last statement gives me pause, like you’re throwing stones from the other side of the line and won’t actually hear feedback in good faith.
 
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KnoxRealtorVOL said:
Well before talking this through, are you a follower of Jesus?

Your last statement gives me pause, like you’re throwing stones from the other side of the line and won’t actually hear feedback in good faith.
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Yes I am a Christian but there are problems I have with how we practice faith
 
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GBO2011 said:
Yes I am a Christian but there are problems I have with how we practice faith
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I didn’t ask if you were a Christian though. I mean this is America, basically everyone calls themselves a “Christian” here.

Are you a follower of Jesus? And if so, what does the Word of God say about whether or not you will go to hell for not forgiving him?

I would also ask this, for perspective, is getting to Heaven your overwhelmingly primary goal?
 
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