Post-death arrangements questions.

[orangebloodgmc]

So, this topic might be troubling to some, but I have a couple questions about making some of the arrangements for one's self. No, I don't foresee leaving soon, but it could happen any time to any of us.

1. Memorial stone ... I would like one in my family's cemetary, but I expect my ashes to be elsewhere. I am curious what you folks think of that, (though I will end up doing whatever I want to).

2. Obit, writing one's own (at least partly).
I don't want to write my entire one just to brag on myself, but I figure my kids don't know about my early work history, and it might be helpful to them to jot down a few notes on what were my favorite highlights. Of course, afterwards, I don't reckon I'll know what was or was not done.

Thoughts?

 

[superdave1984]

1. Sounds fine to me. And you get to write whatever you want on it, except the end date of course.
2. I think it is a great idea. Include some funny stories they maybe never heard.

 

[Thunder Good-Oil]

Viking funeral on Tellico.

Set a boat on fahr and float me out to the main channel.

 

[hog88]

Viking funeral on Tellico.

Set a boat on fahr and float me out to the main channel.

Told the wife I wanted a Viking Funeral on Dale Hollow. She said just because your dead doesn't mean I'm going to start giving you what you want.

 

[McDad]

So, this topic might be troubling to some, but I have a couple questions about making some of the arrangements for one's self. No, I don't foresee leaving soon, but it could happen any time to any of us.

1. Memorial stone ... I would like one in my family's cemetary, but I expect my ashes to be elsewhere. I am curious what you folks think of that, (though I will end up doing whatever I want to).

2. Obit, writing one's own (at least partly).
I don't want to write my entire one just to brag on myself, but I figure my kids don't know about my early work history, and it might be helpful to them to jot down a few notes on what were my favorite highlights. Of course, afterwards, I don't reckon I'll know what was or was not done.

Thoughts?

Both seem reasonable and even conscientious to me. When our parents passed, the 5 'kids' (all were adults) sat around for hours trying to craft the obit. Had they put something together it would have been a big help.

Only thing to offer is if the family cemetery is on private land and not zoned as a functioning cemetery, you better verify the state will allow a new headstone there. I cannot image they wouldn't since you aren't buried there, but there are some rules and regs on stuff like that now that weren't in place a few decades ago. A mortician or a funeral home should be able to give some good advice as a starting place.

 

[McDad]

Told the wife I wanted a Viking Funeral on Dale Hollow. She said just because your dead doesn't mean I'm going to start giving you what you want.

I hope they will toss me in the woods or donate my body to something. I don't need a grave or a stone. I don't want my ashes to sit on someone's mantle. I don't want a funeral.

 

[Thunder Good-Oil]

The Body Farm for the win!

 

[feathersax]

Told the wife I wanted a Viking Funeral on Dale Hollow. She said just because your dead doesn't mean I'm going to start giving you what you want.

Winner! I'm a curmudgeon & this is classic!

 

[joevol33]

Told the wife I wanted a Viking Funeral on Dale Hollow. She said just because your dead doesn't mean I'm going to start giving you what you want.

I'm willing to come do it for you now, we don't gotta wait till you die. I've been keeping receipts for that Georgia crap

 

[hog88]

I'm willing to come do it for you now, we don't gotta wait till you die. I've been keeping receipts for that Georgia crap

LOL

 

[McDad]

I'm willing to come do it for you now, we don't gotta wait till you die. I've been keeping receipts for that Georgia crap

Excellent point!

No poll needed. Unanimous support.

 

[Tin Man]

So, this topic might be troubling to some, but I have a couple questions about making some of the arrangements for one's self. No, I don't foresee leaving soon, but it could happen any time to any of us.

1. Memorial stone ... I would like one in my family's cemetary, but I expect my ashes to be elsewhere. I am curious what you folks think of that, (though I will end up doing whatever I want to).

2. Obit, writing one's own (at least partly).
I don't want to write my entire one just to brag on myself, but I figure my kids don't know about my early work history, and it might be helpful to them to jot down a few notes on what were my favorite highlights. Of course, afterwards, I don't reckon I'll know what was or was not done.

Thoughts?

McDad already mentioned the private land regulatory concerns. A public cemetery will have rules (I wanted to place a memorial marker on the family plot for my father whose ashes were scattered per his request. Eventually, I added the memorial to my mother’s foot stone.). Check into it.

My mother wrote her own obit. We didn’t use her words, but it gave us a framework.