Help!! need advice from married men with kids

#101
#101
tums said:
The feeling in my posts is light-hearted sarcasm. Just picture me looking disappointed and shaking my head. If you're happy then good for you and more power to you. Marriage really isnt for anyone though. I am by far the happiest and most traveled than any one of my friends. They all, by the way are married with kids. Except one, the partner in crime.
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lol thats cool man.. i didnt mean what i said as a deep emotional thought.... its ALLLL good dude:thumbsup:
 
#102
#102
VOLfrombama said:
This guys sounds experienced. Better listen
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I've been married for 16 years, and the biggest thing I've learned about it is that it's all about picking your battles. The OP says that he's new to football, and hopes to get his wife into it as well; the way to make that eventually appen is not to precipitate a family crisis because he insists on staying home to watch a game in which his team is likely to get absolutely frogstomped. This particular game is overwhelmingly unlikely to be worth the drama.


tums said:
Yes, very experienced. Although this advice isnt just for this game. Its for every single thing that will ever go on throughout his marriage. He signed his life away the moment he got married. Sadly, he is no longer himself.
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It's all about tradeoffs. I give up some of my own absolute autonomy, and in return I get the security and companionship of a family. You enjoy complete freedom, but you're going to get old and die alone. Depends on what your priorities are.
 
#103
#103
TENN said:
alrighty, i just started getting into college football last season (still a lot to learn) but anyway my wife has not picked up the concept im REALLY getting into it..

so a few minutes ago she comes to me and says,, i got free tickets to go see elmo livefor the kids (we dont take our kids out much) so i was like ok thats cool when is it, she response back its Saturday at 2:30... i was like %#$^&@*#^% no, so now she is pulling the guilt trip

wtf do i do.. i cant miss this game after all the tension

unless your married with kids you may not understand..
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I am married and have kids. This is a tough situation. If it were any other Saturday in the fall, I would maybe go with Elmo. This is Florida week. No matter what happens on the field, win or (more than likely) lose it is still the Florida game. Marriages are meant to last a lifetime. It is better to let her know the terms now. Snow, sleet, rain or hail, work project for Monday, Duty with the Military ( if I actualy had a say:salute:) or Elmo live for the kids, the Florida game demands the attention of all who bleed orange.
 
#105
#105
TENN said:
alrighty, i just started getting into college football last season (still a lot to learn) but anyway my wife has not picked up the concept im REALLY getting into it..

so a few minutes ago she comes to me and says,, i got free tickets to go see elmo live for the kids (we dont take our kids out much) so i was like ok thats cool when is it, she response back its Saturday at 2:30... i was like %#$^&@*#^% no, so now she is pulling the guilt trip

wtf do i do.. i cant miss this game after all the tension

unless your married with kids you may not understand..
:banghead2:
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I've missed multiple family weddings due to Tennessee football. They should have known better.

Elmo? We're talking 'bout Elmo.
 
#106
#106
I've got three kids and have missed games in the past. I don't know the score of any of them but I remember where I was when they played. Go to the show, take pictures and get updates on your phone every thirty seconds. Just remember not to swear out loud if you read anything disturbing.
 
#107
#107
kiddiedoc said:
Brother, not to be a "fair-weather fan," but this one's going to be painful. Set the DVR. Go to the Elmo foolishness and enjoy watching your kids laugh hysterically in overpriced seats. Then, get the kids in bed, sit down with a bottle of GJ and watch the game. You'll thank me later.
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:lolabove:
 
#108
#108
cali_vol said:
I've got three kids and have missed games in the past. I don't know the score of any of them but I remember where I was when they played. Go to the show, take pictures and get updates on your phone every thirty seconds. Just remember not to swear out loud if you read anything disturbing.
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Well, in that case he shouldn't check out the scores this weekend.
 
#110
#110
im going to bring my headset.. and keep my phone close by.. as far as not yelling out. .. i already warned my wife that i cant promise that. nothing like going downtown atlanta with the family all geared up in Vols clothing.. my UT mailbox has been bashed many times, but its all good
 
#111
#111
kiddiedoc said:
We all know that is ENTIRELY untrue. You don't "have" to do anything.

Spending time with your kids is one thing. Showing up to a boring ceremony that someone mis-planned at an inconvenient time is another. Even if it's your own.
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Say what? :eek:hmy:
 
#115
#115
Tell her you want a divorce and have her take the kids, when she gets back have make up sex.
Your obligation is to go to ELMO, but DVR the game and do not bring any phone/radio devices with you - dont talk to anyone but your family so nobody can tell you the score and ruin it for you.
 
#116
#116
TENN said:
im going to bring my headset.. and keep my phone close by.. as far as not yelling out. .. i already warned my wife that i cant promise that. nothing like going downtown atlanta with the family all geared up in Vols clothing.. my UT mailbox has been bashed many times, but its all good
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Ah,the joy of living in Georgia(being a Vol fan) and having idiot dawg fans destroy your Tennessee stuff.I have a neighbor next door(dawg fan)who put one of those painted concrete bulldogs on top of his mailbox,I can't say it hasn't crossed my mind to go over there with my sledge hammer and knock its freakin head off.
 
#117
#117
GIVEHIM-6 said:
Ah,the joy of living in Georgia(being a Vol fan) and having idiot dawg fans destroy your Tennessee stuff.I have a neighbor next door(dawg fan)who put one of those painted concrete bulldogs on top of his mailbox,I can't say it hasn't crossed my mind to go over there with my sledge hammer and knock its freakin head off.
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Do IT!:rock2:
 
#118
#118
GIVEHIM-6 said:
Ah,the joy of living in Georgia(being a Vol fan) and having idiot dawg fans destroy your Tennessee stuff.I have a neighbor next door(dawg fan)who put one of those painted concrete bulldogs on top of his mailbox,I can't say it hasn't crossed my mind to go over there with my sledge hammer and knock its freakin head off.
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HaHaHa i know the concrete bulldogs. crazy that dude has it on top of his mailbox. those things are kinda big.. me and my grandfather was talking about getting a huge ass Davey Crockett bronze statue with the biggest pa system we can find and play rocky top all day on the tn/uga game
but thats beyond my budget,,, but yea the dawg fans are pretty dang destructive where i live,, but hell ill just keep knocking the dents out and keep respray painting my mailbox and apply another sticker
 
#119
#119
TENN said:
HaHaHa i know the concrete bulldogs. crazy that dude has it on top of his mailbox. those things are kinda big.. me and my grandfather was talking about getting a huge ass Davey Crockett bronze statue with the biggest pa system we can find and play rocky top all day on the tn/uga game
but thats beyond my budget,,, but yea the dawg fans are pretty dang destructive where i live,, but hell ill just keep knocking the dents out and keep respray painting my mailbox and apply another sticker
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It's not a regular mailbox,all the mailboxes in my neighborhood are brick with mailbox inserts.
 
#120
#120
you have to take the kids try to dvr and then rewind and watch it from beginning but if not you still have to go w kids, because they dont understand why daddy won't go to see that with them and you can't get that opportunity back. I have 2 kids btw
 
#121
#121
Find something your wife loves. Tell her yall are taking a family fishing trip during it. When she complains explain the situation. For your wife this may be a friends baby shower, it may be a wedding.

I explained it like this, there are 1 or 2 games every year that are as big to me as any wedding of a friend my wife might have. We cannot miss those games.

If she does not want to go and cheer that is fine, but she needs to look at a UT calendar and realize that for 3-4 hours every Saturday in the fall I am unavailable. If it is very important, she can schedule it for Memphis or Ohio weekend, and that is all.

Worked out well so far.'

Also do not make the kids the center of your schedule and life. If you make your world revolve around your children they will grow up to be entitled brats who will want to go to Vanderbilt and get a job through your nepotism. You have to make them realize that there are other people and their desire to see a gay red haired puppet is not as important as the Vols.

They can also always watch another DVD. Kids are easy to distract and they do not enjoy live performances of anything except the zoo and the circus as much as their parents think they will.
 
#122
#122
DVR the game. Sacrifice for kids man - that's not a question. It sucks but that's the way it has to be. Just don't let anyone tell you the score and when you get home to watch it - it will be like it's in real time!
 
#123
#123
Eric Berry vs Tim Tebow OR Elmo vs ? any GOOD woman would understand this concept. from: Husband w/ 19 month old.
 
#124
#124
I'm married with two kids (ages 6 & 4). Fortunately my wife's a Vol too so we don't have any issues with her planning activities on football Saturday's. Be that as it may, I say go see Elmo and DVR the game. That's time you can't get back.

Now let me torment you a bit... What if the Vols actually win?! Sure, it doesn't look remotely probable but what if?! I missed the '98 UT/UF overtime game because my wife was visiting from UT Memphis and didn't have a ticket. My memories of storming the field all take place in my apartment. :bad:
 
#125
#125
TENN said:
alrighty, i just started getting into college football last season (still a lot to learn) but anyway my wife has not picked up the concept im REALLY getting into it..

so a few minutes ago she comes to me and says,, i got free tickets to go see elmo live for the kids (we dont take our kids out much) so i was like ok thats cool when is it, she response back its Saturday at 2:30... i was like %#$^&@*#^% no, so now she is pulling the guilt trip

wtf do i do.. i cant miss this game after all the tension

unless your married with kids you may not understand..
:banghead2:
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Tell her you will go see Elmo.. then on Thursday tell her the boss said you have to work on saturday and tell her that your mother (or her mother) would love to go to something like that with the grandkids.
get up on saturday and (pretend) go to work....drive by the house a few mins before the game starts to make sure she is gone......if she is..go in turn on the game..kick back with a beer....when she comes home tell her you got out early.

hey...I have 2 teenage daughters and 10 years of marrage under my belt................................................of course I got 11 years of divorce under there to. :)
 
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