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I thought that I would start a thread where you could ask specific advice
on any particular subject and I will start......I have a friend who is very
ill with cancer and we talk often but he can go into a rant very easily and
so I just usually go with the flow, but the rants sometimes will have
insults flying towards me and I understand he is very ill, but like last
night I just finally had to hang up. So I guess I just need to just act
like it never happened and let it go.....
 
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My opinion, it's probably nothing against you. He's mad/scared about his health, and taking it out on you. If it continues, maybe point it out. Hard to say.
 
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Vjcvette said:
I thought that I would start a thread where you could ask specific advice
on any particular subject and I will start......I have a friend who is very
ill with cancer and we talk often but he can go into a rant very easily and
so I just usually go with the flow, but the rants sometimes will have
insults flying towards me and I understand he is very ill, but like last
night I just finally had to hang up. So I guess I just need to just act
like it never happened and let it go.....
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Maybe:

“Hey, I know you’re going through a lot, but wow, you just treated me crappy. I want to be here for you, and listen to you when you need to vent, but I don’t let people treat me that way.

“Can we come up with something that is good for us both?”

something like this, but in your own words
 
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Vjcvette said:
I thought that I would start a thread where you could ask specific advice
on any particular subject and I will start......I have a friend who is very
ill with cancer and we talk often but he can go into a rant very easily and
so I just usually go with the flow, but the rants sometimes will have
insults flying towards me and I understand he is very ill, but like last
night I just finally had to hang up. So I guess I just need to just act
like it never happened and let it go.....
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Been there, done that with the cancer...

Having said that to say this. In those times the support network is critical. You don't alienate your friends nor insult them. I felt like utter poo quite often but knew there were those supporting me.

Point it out to gun and let him know there are boundaries that don't need to be crossed. If he continues, well, every village needs an a-hole, but you don't have to be growths with them.

That disease sucks the life out of you. But you don't take it out on others.
 
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Grand Vol said:
Been there, done that with the cancer...

Having said that to say this. In those times the support network is critical. You don't alienate your friends nor insult them. I felt like utter poo quite often but knew there were those supporting me.

Point it out to gun and let him know there are boundaries that don't need to be crossed. If he continues, well, every village needs an a-hole, but you don't have to be growths with them.

That disease sucks the life out of you. But you don't take it out on others.
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Hey thanks for your input, I appreciate that because I feel bad about what he is dealing with and also feel bad about hanging up the phone when I was talking with him.
 
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VolNExile said:
Maybe:

“Hey, I know you’re going through a lot, but wow, you just treated me crappy. I want to be here for you, and listen to you when you need to vent, but I don’t let people treat me that way.

“Can we come up with something that is good for us both?”

something like this, but in your own words
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Hey thanks @VolNExile, I appreciate your advice, he has been a support system for me many times and so when I hear the opposite coming out of his mouth it is disheartening and hard to believe at the same time and it would be very sad to not have a friendship any more especially at this time.
 
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