hmanvolfan
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My sister has a situation somewhat like yours. She has custody but he's a boy and he's getting older. My nephew's dad isn't the best guy in the world but hell it's his dad. My sister frets about him choosing to be with his Dad down the road. Sometimes she does it too much. I just always tell her to enjoy whatever time you have because all of it, custody aside is borrowed. In the end what is supposed to be will be.
We didn't go thru the court system. We went on each others word with visitation, child support, etc. It's been 4 years and no problems. My one stipulation was if he wants to move here that she not stand in the way. I agreed he needed his momma as a young kid. Needs his dad when he gets older.
That's what I'm talking about. Kids can figure out what's going on. Just be his dad, be real and he'll appreciate it all.Same with my sister. FYI her situation is different in that his Dad while not worthless is not an a-1 guy like you. He's lucky though he has a good wife with her head on straight. That's who my sister mainly deals with. Momma's though are gonna want to keep their baby's my sis has more reason to want it but it's still a primal mother thing. Just be there for him and be the good guy you are and it'll work out.
Same with my sister. FYI her situation is different in that his Dad while not worthless is not an a-1 guy like you. He's lucky though he has a good wife with her head on straight. That's who my sister mainly deals with. Momma's though are gonna want to keep their baby's my sis has more reason to want it but it's still a primal mother thing. Just be there for him and be the good guy you are and it'll work out.