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Hey Vol Fam,

So I've been hoping I could manage on my own but I'm realizing that I can't. Nearly 6 years of full time caregiving and Brian's disability as our only source of income have put me in a hole that I can't climb out of on my own as much as I've tried to. Before his death I was saving to either fix or buy a new (well used) car but the funeral home took what I had saved. Disability was also kind enough to remove his final check from our account.

I need a car (or to fix mine - tho mine has been totaled once already) so I can find a job and I need to figure out how to live/survive without income while I do all that. And because the house fire happened just before Brian got sick, it's not like I have any possessions I can sell or pawn for cash. I literally own two pairs of shoes right now and both were given to me as were most of the clothes I own. My entire world was him 24/7 for years and now that he's gone I'm adrift in every since of the word. I feel a deep loss of purpose and an absolute panic when looking to the future.

People have told me to not worry about the future right now -- to just mourn but how can I do that? I wasn't even able to give him the send off he deserved. And right now, I feel the weight of the loss in general and right now specifically the loss of support - someone at least to bounce ideas off of or to tell me that no matter what it'll be ok even if it won't be.

There are things I need to do -- I want to take a course so I can maybe teach overseas for a year and then save for maybe an ABSN that would give me a new career path and options. But I also just need to be able to get out of this room and do some things for the sake of my sanity -- away from all the memories good and bad that are stored here and I can't even do that beyond taking a walk and then I'm right back here again surrounded by memories and a ghost. I feel like I'm drowning in sorrow when I look around me and not having even the simplest means only makes it worse.

I'm rambling and embarrassed at the situation I find myself in but no one pays caregivers that are family members (well, unless you're either taking care of a child or a senior). I'm in desperate need of help and I suck at asking for it. Advice? Resources? Thoughts?
 
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RandomUTfan said:
Is Charles playing better than either of our two guys? I haven't even noticed him when watching Virginia play but I forgot he was there. Thomas would be able to help us this year, but spending less at safety allows us to do ridiculous things like stack NFL defensive backs and linemen.
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I don't know. Had 5 tackles in each of the last two games.

We are just really thin and it would be nice to have one more vet like Charles. I get why he left for a starting role, but Jakobe's decision is still dumb to me. Both would have played a lot.
 
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Jack Burton said:
NegaDave on Basilio just now: He’s convinced we get Aguilar back for 2026 and that the coaches are fine with that even if it causes Merk and GMac to leave. Basically Brandon will be 2nd string. It’s an interesting situation to consider.
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I think most Vol fans will choose another year of Aguilar and figuring out the rest later.
 
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UTProf said:
Hey Vol Fam,

So I've been hoping I could manage on my own but I'm realizing that I can't. Nearly 6 years of full time caregiving and Brian's disability as our only source of income have put me in a hole that I can't climb out of on my own as much as I've tried to. Before his death I was saving to either fix or buy a new (well used) car but the funeral home took what I had saved. Disability was also kind enough to remove his final check from our account.

I need a car (or to fix mine - tho mine has been totaled once already) so I can find a job and I need to figure out how to live/survive without income while I do all that. And because the house fire happened just before Brian got sick, it's not like I have any possessions I can sell or pawn for cash. I literally own two pairs of shoes right now and both were given to me as were most of the clothes I own. My entire world was him 24/7 for years and now that he's gone I'm adrift in every since of the word. I feel a deep loss of purpose and an absolute panic when looking to the future.

People have told me to not worry about the future right now -- to just mourn but how can I do that? I wasn't even able to give him the send off he deserved. And right now, I feel the weight of the loss in general and right now specifically the loss of support - someone at least to bounce ideas off of or to tell me that no matter what it'll be ok even if it won't be.

There are things I need to do -- I want to take a course so I can maybe teach overseas for a year and then save for maybe an ABSN that would give me a new career path and options. But I also just need to be able to get out of this room and do some things for the sake of my sanity -- away from all the memories good and bad that are stored here and I can't even do that beyond taking a walk and then I'm right back here again surrounded by memories and a ghost. I feel like I'm drowning in sorrow when I look around me and not having even the simplest means only makes it worse.

I'm rambling and embarrassed at the situation I find myself in but no one pays caregivers that are family members (well, unless you're either taking care of a child or a senior). I'm in desperate need of help and I suck at asking for it. Advice? Resources? Thoughts?
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I have a friend who is a DR at UT named Bill Smith. Huge Vols fan. He runs a research clinic. You can make several thousand dollars in about a week or week & a half doing one of their studies. They have some where you stay overnight and some that go on for months at a time. I sent one of my workers there who got hurt and couldn't work for a month and he made like $5k in a couple weeks.

I'll look up the name of the place and edit it in here in a minute.

*It was called NOCCR, but it's name changed to AMR Knoxville now. I guess he still runs it. Any way, you can go by there and talk to them and they'll tell you what all they have you can do. Should be able to find something to make a quick couple thousand bucks.
 
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Enki_Amenra said:
I have a friend who is a DR at UT named Bill Smith. Huge Vols fan. He runs a research clinic. You can make several thousand dollars in about a week or week & a half doing one of their studies. They have some where you stay overnight and some that go on for months at a time. I sent one of my workers there who got hurt and couldn't work for a month and he made like $5k in a couple weeks.

I'll look up the name of the place and edit it in here in a minute.
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Wow!
 
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Enki_Amenra said:
I have a friend who is a DR at UT named Bill Smith. Huge Vols fan. He runs a research clinic. You can make several thousand dollars in about a week or week & a half doing one of their studies. They have some where you stay overnight and some that go on for months at a time. I sent one of my workers there who got hurt and couldn't work for a month and he made like $5k in a couple weeks.

I'll look up the name of the place and edit it in here in a minute.
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That would be a fantastic start! Is it in Knoxville? Right now, I don't have a way on my own but for that kind of payout I can prob. get someone to take me.
 
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UTProf said:
That would be a fantastic start! Is it in Knoxville? Right now, I don't have a way on my own but for that kind of payout I can prob. get someone to take me.
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it's in UT hospital.

My buddy liked that one where he stayed for about 6 nights I think, may have been 8. Anyway, they fed him 3 meals a day, gave him a private bedroom/bathroom. He didn't have to drive back and forth every day and they paid him before he ever left the place. His was a tobacco study. All he had to do was smoke cigarettes during the day like he normally would. He ended up with $3 or $4k for the week.
 
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PlanetVolunteer said:
I don't know. Had 5 tackles in each of the last two games.

We are just really thin and it would be nice to have one more vet like Charles. I get why he left for a starting role, but Jakobe's decision is still dumb to me. Both would have played a lot.
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Jakobe's decision was about money. He wanted more than we were willing to spend at that spot given the confidence we had in what was behind him. Simple as that.
 
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UTProf said:
Hey Vol Fam,

So I've been hoping I could manage on my own but I'm realizing that I can't. Nearly 6 years of full time caregiving and Brian's disability as our only source of income have put me in a hole that I can't climb out of on my own as much as I've tried to. Before his death I was saving to either fix or buy a new (well used) car but the funeral home took what I had saved. Disability was also kind enough to remove his final check from our account.

I need a car (or to fix mine - tho mine has been totaled once already) so I can find a job and I need to figure out how to live/survive without income while I do all that. And because the house fire happened just before Brian got sick, it's not like I have any possessions I can sell or pawn for cash. I literally own two pairs of shoes right now and both were given to me as were most of the clothes I own. My entire world was him 24/7 for years and now that he's gone I'm adrift in every since of the word. I feel a deep loss of purpose and an absolute panic when looking to the future.

People have told me to not worry about the future right now -- to just mourn but how can I do that? I wasn't even able to give him the send off he deserved. And right now, I feel the weight of the loss in general and right now specifically the loss of support - someone at least to bounce ideas off of or to tell me that no matter what it'll be ok even if it won't be.

There are things I need to do -- I want to take a course so I can maybe teach overseas for a year and then save for maybe an ABSN that would give me a new career path and options. But I also just need to be able to get out of this room and do some things for the sake of my sanity -- away from all the memories good and bad that are stored here and I can't even do that beyond taking a walk and then I'm right back here again surrounded by memories and a ghost. I feel like I'm drowning in sorrow when I look around me and not having even the simplest means only makes it worse.

I'm rambling and embarrassed at the situation I find myself in but no one pays caregivers that are family members (well, unless you're either taking care of a child or a senior). I'm in desperate need of help and I suck at asking for it. Advice? Resources? Thoughts?
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Depending on where you live how certain are you that you NEED a car (at least right now?) It may not be ideal...but maybe something within walking distance could get you going. At least to help with the being out of the house and working back some funds.

Also what sort of educational background do you have already? I know you're a caregiver...there is the Emory Valley Center in Oak Ridge that is always hiring, although I'm not sure how well they pay but it's in caregiver field. Also Michael Dunn Center over in Kingston, I know someone that works there even. Hell they might even help provide transportation.
 
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UTProf said:
That would be a fantastic start! Is it in Knoxville? Right now, I don't have a way on my own but for that kind of payout I can prob. get someone to take me.
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I put the name in my original comment. I saw where you already replied to it before I did. Just search NOCCR or AMR Knoxville. It should come up under one of those names.
 
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Enki_Amenra said:
it's in UT hospital.

My buddy liked that one where he stayed for about 6 nights I think, may have be 8. Anyway, they fed him 3 meals a day, gave him a private bedroom/bathroom. He didn't have to drive back and forth every day and they paid him before he ever left the place. His was a tobacco study. All he had to do was smoke cigarettes during the day like he normally would. He ended up with $3 or $4k for the week.
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That would be great.
 
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MoCo_Vol said:
Depending on where you live how certain are you that you NEED a car (at least right now?) It may not be ideal...but maybe something within walking distance could get you going. At least to help with the being out of the house and working back some funds.

Also what sort of educational background do you have already? I know you're a caregiver...there is the Emory Valley Center in Oak Ridge that is always hiring, although I'm not sure how well they pay but it's in caregiver field. Also Michael Dunn Center over in Kingston, I know someone that works there even. Hell they might even help provide transportation.
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Nothing is within walking distance for me. That's why I'm in a bit of a catch-22. My goal is to get a vehicle so I can work and also just so I can get out of the house. I'm trapped here with a lot of memories and right now I really need to be able to get out and do things and even socialize (be around people) for the sake of my own sanity.

My future plans are to take a course so I can teach overseas for a year. Come back home and maybe have enough saved to do an ABSN (which is a fast tracked nursing degree - UT has a program you can finish in a year if you already have a degree). It's just right now I've got no money to live on, to repair or buy anything, or really to do much of anything. I had saved some money in case something happened but every bit of it went to the funeral home.
 
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Enki_Amenra said:
I have a friend who is a DR at UT named Bill Smith. Huge Vols fan. He runs a research clinic. You can make several thousand dollars in about a week or week & a half doing one of their studies. They have some where you stay overnight and some that go on for months at a time. I sent one of my workers there who got hurt and couldn't work for a month and he made like $5k in a couple weeks.

I'll look up the name of the place and edit it in here in a minute.

*It was called NOCCR, but it's name changed to AMR Knoxville now. I guess he still runs it. Any way, you can go by there and talk to them and they'll tell you what all they have you can do. Should be able to find something to make a quick couple thousand bucks.
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AMSR. Used to call on them.
 
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DD4ME said:
3 bros

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Dante & Mendoza both have high TDs and just 1 INT... each also throwing 73% or better right now, but like most NFL mock drafts they never care to look at who they did it against.

Mendoza has played Old Dominion, Kennesaw State, Indiana State, Illinois and Iowa
Moore has played Montana State, OK State, Northwestern, Oregon State and Penn State


Even more laughable is having Denzel Boston up there... 19 receptions for 275 yards and 3 TDs
 
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