OWH's Topic That Will Never Die XXIII

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Evening Folks. Tomorrow is my birthday and I absolutely hate it. Reason is not because I’m getting older, (love that part). 32 years ago from tomorrow, I was at the funeral home for my baby sis and her unborn child, I can still remember my baby brother giving me my birthday card in the parking lot before we went in. I was in boot camp (sissy was the reason I joined). She wanted to enlist and needed her big sister to go with her on the buddy system, all big sisters understand this. I helped raise them. They swore me in at Knoxville, came back and said they couldn’t take her, because she only had a GED. She told me to do the family proud and flew back to Jamaica to be with my parents. Six weeks into boot camp. I got the call after supper chow. She committed suicide, 2 days before her 19th birthday. She was 6 months pregnant with my nephew (no one knew, she hid it well). They escorted me back to the barracks and had all the recruits at attention in front of their bunks. They escorted me back, could have heard a pin drop. I waited until everyone went to sleep and went to the head. That was when I finally got to cry.
Flew out to Montego, Jamaica next day, to be with mom and dad to accompany her back to the states. I’ve hated my birthday ever since. It’s not a celebration, it’s just a bypass.
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
Evening Folks. Tomorrow is my birthday and I absolutely hate it. Reason is not because I’m getting older, (love that part). 32 years ago from tomorrow, I was at the funeral home for my baby sis and her unborn child, I can still remember my baby brother giving me my birthday card in the parking lot before we went in. I was in boot camp (sissy was the reason I joined). She wanted to enlist and needed her big sister to go with her on the buddy system, all big sisters understand this. I helped raise them. They swore me in at Knoxville, came back and said they couldn’t take her, because she only had a GED. She told me to do the family proud and flew back to Jamaica to be with my parents. Six weeks into boot camp. I got the call after supper chow. She committed suicide, 2 days before her 19th birthday. She was 6 months pregnant with my nephew (no one knew, she hid it well). They escorted me back to the barracks and had all the recruits at attention in front of their bunks. They escorted me back, could have heard a pin drop. I waited until everyone went to sleep and went to the head. That was when I finally got to cry.
Flew out to Montego, Jamaica next day, to be with mom and dad to accompany her back to the states. I’ve hated my birthday ever since. It’s not a celebration, it’s just a bypass.
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Sorry ORB. I honestly can't imagine.
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
Evening Folks. Tomorrow is my birthday and I absolutely hate it. Reason is not because I’m getting older, (love that part). 32 years ago from tomorrow, I was at the funeral home for my baby sis and her unborn child, I can still remember my baby brother giving me my birthday card in the parking lot before we went in. I was in boot camp (sissy was the reason I joined). She wanted to enlist and needed her big sister to go with her on the buddy system, all big sisters understand this. I helped raise them. They swore me in at Knoxville, came back and said they couldn’t take her, because she only had a GED. She told me to do the family proud and flew back to Jamaica to be with my parents. Six weeks into boot camp. I got the call after supper chow. She committed suicide, 2 days before her 19th birthday. She was 6 months pregnant with my nephew (no one knew, she hid it well). They escorted me back to the barracks and had all the recruits at attention in front of their bunks. They escorted me back, could have heard a pin drop. I waited until everyone went to sleep and went to the head. That was when I finally got to cry.
Flew out to Montego, Jamaica next day, to be with mom and dad to accompany her back to the states. I’ve hated my birthday ever since. It’s not a celebration, it’s just a bypass.
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Hate to read this, just awful. Kevin's sil's dad committed suicide right after their son was born and my first thought was why must you do that around a celebration since now I know every time Emily celebrates her son's birthday her dad's suicide date follows directly after. I just hate it for her.
 
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volwindy said:
Hate to read this, just awful. Kevin's sil's dad committed suicide right after their son was born and my first thought was why must you do that around a celebration since now I know every time Emily celebrates her son's birthday her dad's suicide date follows directly after. I just hate it for her.
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I have never understood the significance of the date or the why. I finally quit trying to figure the why and why then. Mom’s therapist, after told her that she and all of us should be angry, because it’s a selfish act. I don’t buy that. Sissy was never selfish. I believe when suicide happens, it’s because the person has the feeling of helplessness in their life, with no end in sight. I absolutely know how Kevin’s sil and family feels.
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
Evening Folks. Tomorrow is my birthday and I absolutely hate it. Reason is not because I’m getting older, (love that part). 32 years ago from tomorrow, I was at the funeral home for my baby sis and her unborn child, I can still remember my baby brother giving me my birthday card in the parking lot before we went in. I was in boot camp (sissy was the reason I joined). She wanted to enlist and needed her big sister to go with her on the buddy system, all big sisters understand this. I helped raise them. They swore me in at Knoxville, came back and said they couldn’t take her, because she only had a GED. She told me to do the family proud and flew back to Jamaica to be with my parents. Six weeks into boot camp. I got the call after supper chow. She committed suicide, 2 days before her 19th birthday. She was 6 months pregnant with my nephew (no one knew, she hid it well). They escorted me back to the barracks and had all the recruits at attention in front of their bunks. They escorted me back, could have heard a pin drop. I waited until everyone went to sleep and went to the head. That was when I finally got to cry.
Flew out to Montego, Jamaica next day, to be with mom and dad to accompany her back to the states. I’ve hated my birthday ever since. It’s not a celebration, it’s just a bypass.
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Sorry ORB. That's a horrible memory on your birthday.
 
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Selfishness is not in the minds of those who stare into the abyss and do not pullback. We whom they leave in this life must deal with the hurt, the loss, and the unanswered. We must find our own resolve, our own way forward.

I feel for you, ORB. I tell you that I am glad for your birth, and that the paths of our lives have crossed.
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
Evening Folks. Tomorrow is my birthday and I absolutely hate it. Reason is not because I’m getting older, (love that part). 32 years ago from tomorrow, I was at the funeral home for my baby sis and her unborn child, I can still remember my baby brother giving me my birthday card in the parking lot before we went in. I was in boot camp (sissy was the reason I joined). She wanted to enlist and needed her big sister to go with her on the buddy system, all big sisters understand this. I helped raise them. They swore me in at Knoxville, came back and said they couldn’t take her, because she only had a GED. She told me to do the family proud and flew back to Jamaica to be with my parents. Six weeks into boot camp. I got the call after supper chow. She committed suicide, 2 days before her 19th birthday. She was 6 months pregnant with my nephew (no one knew, she hid it well). They escorted me back to the barracks and had all the recruits at attention in front of their bunks. They escorted me back, could have heard a pin drop. I waited until everyone went to sleep and went to the head. That was when I finally got to cry.
Flew out to Montego, Jamaica next day, to be with mom and dad to accompany her back to the states. I’ve hated my birthday ever since. It’s not a celebration, it’s just a bypass.
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Sorry to hear that. I had a very close friend years ago kill himself, I couldn't imagine a family member.
 
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Orangeredblooded said:
I have never understood the significance of the date or the why. I finally quit trying to figure the why and why then. Mom’s therapist, after told her that she and all of us should be angry, because it’s a selfish act. I don’t buy that. Sissy was never selfish. I believe when suicide happens, it’s because the person has the feeling of helplessness in their life, with no end in sight. I absolutely know how Kevin’s sil and family feels.
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I have feelings of everything with suicide, well except happiness obviously, but I get the anger, sadness for them, but sometimes understanding of the situation, kind of bizarre. With Emily's dad I get the anger and you are such a jerk feeling, but also get it because he had just been diagnosed with Alzheimer's, and diseases just suck to live out.
 
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