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MoCo_Vol said:
13 years this May for me, that cliche of falling "more in love" turned into reality. When we first started dating and even the honeymoon years of marriage I look back now and realize it was more lust & physical attraction. Thankfully as we grew up, we grew together.

Wouldn't want anyone else.
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Nailed it..
 
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Ulysees E. McGill said:
SMH..nice excuse..."bored"..you may just be incapable of caring about someone else more than yourself.

I think that is most folks problem..with being true.
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Or maybe there were character flaws that indicated she wasn't worth the investment. Not saying you're wrong Ulysees, but maybe you're not so right either..
 
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Ulysees E. McGill said:
SMH..nice excuse..."bored"..you may just be incapable of caring about someone else more than yourself.

I think that is most folks problem..with being true.
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Maybe your problem is being incapable to understand or even consider a differing opinion without coming off super judgmental?

Maybe everyone is different. Maybe we all evolve differently. Maybe some people stay the same person they were at 20, at 40, at 60. And maybe others change drastically. Maybe when those people do change, one party decides they're no longer in love with the other. Maybe love is an emotion that can fade. Maybe not all of us are lucky enough to find our "soulmate." And them sometimes maybe some of us do, but things beyond our control prevent us from being with that person which ultimately leads to a series of failed relationships because you're never satisfied with not being able to find the same in someone new with what you had before (my personal experience there).

Nevertheless.... not all of us live scripted lives where we live happily ever after with one person.

And believe it or not, that is perfectly okay.
 
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Aesius said:
Lol nope. But the dating market is pretty terrible for average Joes these days. Tinder and dating apps have made it easier than ever for women and really handsome dudes to get laid or find dates. They’ve done studies where women only find something like 15-20% of men attractive and the numbers are even worse on dating sites.
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Well dang! I wonder what % of women men find attractive?
 
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ChismsHeadband said:
Sorry, I thought it was just dating, not actually getting married. If it's marriage, then yeah don't screw around with the sanctimony, know what you're getting into.

Good chat, bro.
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Good chat..I will say that I believe a lot of people are incapable of caring about another person as much they do their self. It is human, and doesn't necessarily make them a bad person.

The last thing I want to see before I leave this world is my wifes eyes. The thought of her going before me terrifies me..I know the instant that she left...all the color would drain from the world for me.
 
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HoleInTheRoof said:
Maybe your problem is being incapable to understand or even consider a differing opinion without coming off super judgmental?

Maybe everyone is different. Maybe we all evolve differently. Maybe some people stay the same person they were at 20, at 40, at 60. And maybe others change drastically. Maybe when those people do change, one party decides they're no longer in love with the other. Maybe love is an emotion that can fade. Maybe not all of us are lucky enough to find our "soulmate." And them sometimes maybe some of us do, but things beyond our control prevent us from being with that person which ultimately leads to a series of failed relationships because you're never satisfied with not being able to find the same in someone new with what you had before (my personal experience there).

Nevertheless.... not all of us live scripted lives where we live happily ever after with one person.

And believe it or not, that is perfectly okay.
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Ok..
 
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Real talk "bored" is a **** way to describe any relationship. If you grow bored then you likely shouldn't have been together to begin with and I am positive the warning signs were there almost immediately.

I think dating around is completely acceptable, would encourage it even. Hell if you are both up for it have sex, I don't care about that.

My only advice is to set yourself a 3 date rule, 1 date for fun, 1 date that forces you to talk, 1 date around her close friends or family. If those all go well then you can fool around...I say this cause STDs & Children don't go away...and it's never worth the risk to have either with a stranger.

Also would probably suggest not getting married before 25...lol
 
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Smokeytom said:
Damn all this marriage talk is adding some serious years to my internet friends.

I’m 25. Thought most on here were +/- 8 years from me. Seems like I might be one of the youngin’s on this board.
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No worries, men don't mentally age or mature.

So it's just a level of worn down physically that separates us 😘
 
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Aesius said:
Lol nope. But the dating market is pretty terrible for average Joes these days. Tinder and dating apps have made it easier than ever for women and really handsome dudes to get laid or find dates. They’ve done studies where women only find something like 15-20% of men attractive and the numbers are even worse on dating sites.
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I disagree with this completely.

Well maybe, and I'll explain.

I'm tall, have a great career, and in great shape.... but as far as looks, I'm average. I was a lot better looking before that damned male pattern baldness forced me to rock a shaved head. Nevertheless, I've not ever had much problem matching with, talking with, and dating women off of Tinder, Match, Bumble, etc....

But yeah if by 'average joe' you mean the typical jort and New Balance wearing, pudgy beer gut having, balding but in denial guy you see everywhere, then I can see where attracting womens attention would be a challenge.


Where I think those apps have ruined the dating scene is it makes it so hard to find someone and it evolve into something real. This is because it is so easy to match, and talk to different people, and even date multiple people at once. Hit a rough patch, who cares? You got 25+ other matches in your que to chat with.

And women have it worse. I've gone on dates with women and we've talked about the apps and laughed at some of our matches, etc. I've gone out with women who have 700+, 1k + plus guys messaging them.
 
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Smokeytom said:
Damn all this marriage talk is adding some serious years to my internet friends.

I’m 25. Thought most on here were +/- 8 years from me. Seems like I might be one of the youngin’s on this board.
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You're young and have plenty of dating life ahead of you.

I am 43, and have a wife and kids.
 
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